forbidden fruit Posted October 25, 2007 Posted October 25, 2007 While I am still not entirely over xmm as everyone knows I have to say for the first time in two years since i began this whole nightmare I am not mad at myself for how I handled a situation. Xmm is of course thinking we are friends and everything is honky dory. He was just outside waiting for me to get home and i just ignored him and not for a reaction, but just because he does not even deserve a reaction from me. I do not care if I am friends with him and I do not care what he does. My ONLy REGRET as it pertains to him is I was so nice and forgiving in our last meeting. Oh well for once in two years I don't care what he is doing or thinking and I already know and none of it has anything to do with me. So that is what he gets none of me. I see what ap and everyone is talking about why should I give a rats ass about him when he does not care about me. Wow does it feel good to not be a total mess when i saw him. I know I am better than him and he knows it too. I stepped way down in dealing with him. Not tooting my own horn, but totally true. There is hope!!!
whichwayisup Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 Continue doing what you're doing and let him think whatever he wants. At the end of the day, it only matters what you think and feel. Keep going FF, you're gonna be fine and things will get easier once you really do care less about him and what he thinks. Ignoring him won't be intentional, it will just happen on it's own as he'll become less and less important to you in every way possible.
Meaplus3 Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 While I am still not entirely over xmm as everyone knows I have to say for the first time in two years since i began this whole nightmare I am not mad at myself for how I handled a situation. Xmm is of course thinking we are friends and everything is honky dory. He was just outside waiting for me to get home and i just ignored him and not for a reaction, but just because he does not even deserve a reaction from me. I do not care if I am friends with him and I do not care what he does. My ONLy REGRET as it pertains to him is I was so nice and forgiving in our last meeting. Oh well for once in two years I don't care what he is doing or thinking and I already know and none of it has anything to do with me. So that is what he gets none of me. I see what ap and everyone is talking about why should I give a rats ass about him when he does not care about me. Wow does it feel good to not be a total mess when i saw him. I know I am better than him and he knows it too. I stepped way down in dealing with him. Not tooting my own horn, but totally true. There is hope!!! Yippie FF!!:bunny: Hug's to you my friend!!:):) AP:)
child_of_isis Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 Whoa! Good on ya! Color me impressed..This should become every OW's mantra. I know I am better than him and he knows it too. I stepped way down in dealing with him. Not tooting my own horn, but totally true. There is hope!!!
bunset Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 FF, I am happy for you! As long as you look at ignoring him as easy, it will be. You've just gained a magical power. You've demonstrated that power and it will come naturally stronger over time. You deserve to move forward and away from the heaviness of an A. Keep it up. Lean on us, if you ever feel the need.
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