EnigmaXOXO Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 He knows I don't go in for that mushy stuff. Obviously! You’re more about intimidating your prey by gunpoint ... eh?
Author Theresa Posted October 26, 2007 Author Posted October 26, 2007 Obviously! You’re more about intimidating your prey by gunpoint ... eh? Whatever works
popey Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 Then get it over with and ask him out theresa. No matter how many people tell you in how many ways, you believe what you believe... that he is romanticly interested in you. So ASK HIM OUT then. Ask him on a date. Surely he will say yes, since you two feel the same way about eachother, save the little annoying attempted intrusions but the agregiously flirty employee. He will say yes, and then when you make the move to kiss him, he will respond b/c he wants it too, right.... and so on... blah blah happily ever after. oh wait, let me guess?... he despite his intense sense that you are the one... he might not want to mess up your now and again cool friends happy hour, or company lunch thing... or don't forget those ever so special times when he asks specifically to speak to you because he NEEDS YOU TO DO HIM A WORK FAVOR. right.
Author Theresa Posted October 26, 2007 Author Posted October 26, 2007 Believe it or not, I think it's the man's job to ask a girl out. I've done it in the past and it just never works out well. Besides, I'm a born again Christian and believe that men should lead in relationships and marriage. I also consider myself a reborn virgin--therefore, why would he choose some skank over me? I've also already said that he obviously is scared to mess up the good thing we've got got going. I know, though, that a relationship would only make things better. And calling me with requests for work favors is obviously just an excuse, since like I said we always end up talking for several minutes. If he was really just calling for the favor, he'd ask for it, I'd say yes or no, and we'd get off the phone.
EnigmaXOXO Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 Whatever works Alrighty then! My hair-brained idea is that you and this young perky chick should mud wrestle for him. Winner takes all! And given your impeccable sense of professional ethics ... we can all certainly expect that you’ll play fair without any biting! Right (???) :confused: Meanwhile, Stargazer and I will get busy collecting all the bets.
Author Theresa Posted October 26, 2007 Author Posted October 26, 2007 I don't think Popey's a troll, but she is obviously wrong. Maybe I'm not being clear enough about the situation.
Star Gazer Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 I don't think Popey's a troll, but she is obviously wrong. Maybe I'm not being clear enough about the situation. I was talking about YOU, and you know it.
Author Theresa Posted October 26, 2007 Author Posted October 26, 2007 OK Enigma, you're one of several people here who've said that I'm either a bad manager, on the verge of becoming one, or unprofessional. Assuming that I'm right about the guy liking me, is what I'm doing really so wrong? What if I took the situation to HR, and they back me up? Wouldn't that prove I'm right? I have no problem doing that. Should I ask human resources for their opinion? Of course if I do that it wouldn't be my fault if that girl got transferred or worse.
Trialbyfire Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 OK Enigma, you're one of several people here who've said that I'm either a bad manager, on the verge of becoming one, or unprofessional. Assuming that I'm right about the guy liking me, is what I'm doing really so wrong? What if I took the situation to HR, and they back me up? Wouldn't that prove I'm right? I have no problem doing that. Should I ask human resources for their opinion? You should ask yourself why you lack the ethics and integrity to be a good manager.
Author Theresa Posted October 26, 2007 Author Posted October 26, 2007 I was talking about YOU, and you know it. Look, maybe I wasn't clear earlier but like I said there's no reason to come here and be rude. Take that attitude somewhere else!!
Author Theresa Posted October 26, 2007 Author Posted October 26, 2007 You should ask yourself why you lack the ethics and integrity to be a good manager. I'm talking about having a neutral third or fourth party look at the situation. I would have thought you would like that idea. I do respect your opinion though since you have other managers working under you. But please remember that I haven't done anything yet. What would be beyond the pail here? Can I sit her down and explain the situation? Not explain but tell her to automatically direct all of his calls to me? Tell him to call me directly if he needs anything or not to call at all, because he's distracting my staff? What would be your suggestion?
EnigmaXOXO Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 OK Enigma, you're one of several people here who've said that I'm either a bad manager, on the verge of becoming one, or unprofessional. Assuming that I'm right about the guy liking me, is what I'm doing really so wrong? What if I took the situation to HR, and they back me up? Wouldn't that prove I'm right? I have no problem doing that. Should I ask human resources for their opinion? I’m not on my best game today ... and still a bit stalled on the: “I’m a born-again virgin” thing. But yeah, I’d say go to human resources and ask them if it would be considered unethical to pull rank on another employee in order to keep her from stealing the attention from the object of your obsession. As a matter of fact ... I think there’d be a big ol’ bonus and promotion in it for you!
compassion42 Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 Something is very fishy here.....I do suspect Trollism-especially with the "born again virgin" comment. Someone is just trying to have some fun getting everyone all in an uproar.
Trialbyfire Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 I'm talking about having a neutral third or fourth party look at the situation. I would have thought you would like that idea. I do respect your opinion though since you have other managers working under you. But please remember that I haven't done anything yet. What would be beyond the pail here? Can I sit her down and explain the situation? Not explain but tell her to automatically direct all of his calls to me? Tell him to call me directly if he needs anything or not to call at all, because he's distracting my staff? What would be your suggestion? Finally, he also seems to be calling and talking to one of my employees a lot. (He always has a work reason when he calls though.) If he's addressing work related issues and her performance is of an acceptable calibur, you do nothing. Unless the issue affects the balance of your staff, moral-wise, you have no reason to report this as an infraction beyond your personal feelings for him. Do yourself a favour and keep it professional.
Saxis Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 Assuming that I'm right about the guy liking me, is what I'm doing really so wrong? What if I took the situation to HR, and they back me up? Wouldn't that prove I'm right? I have no problem doing that. Should I ask human resources for their opinion? Of course if I do that it wouldn't be my fault if that girl got transferred or worse. Yes, take it to HR. Just make damn sure you explain to them that in your mind, you've been on lunch dates with the other manager, and that you've become jealous of him talking to one of your employees. Then proceed to ask them what you can do to stop it. I'm sure it'd give them a good laugh while writing up the pink slip...
Author Theresa Posted October 26, 2007 Author Posted October 26, 2007 So there's just no way my guy could like me??? Even if you all are right and we haven't really been on a date yet, and all of what he's done would be done by any coworker, maybe he just hasn't made his move yet. My head hurts.
Author Theresa Posted October 26, 2007 Author Posted October 26, 2007 If he's addressing work related issues and her performance is of an acceptable calibur, you do nothing. Unless the issue affects the balance of your staff, moral-wise, you have no reason to report this as an infraction beyond your personal feelings for him. Do yourself a favour and keep it professional. Fine, I won't do anything. I'll just wait to see what happens. Like I said I think they're on the phone too much, but from what I've heard they've only been discussing the needs of the two restaurants. I'll leave it alone for now.
Author Theresa Posted October 26, 2007 Author Posted October 26, 2007 Something is very fishy here.....I do suspect Trollism-especially with the "born again virgin" comment. Someone is just trying to have some fun getting everyone all in an uproar. My pastor encourages us to become reborn virgins. There's no reason for you to make fun of my religion. I'm sorry I brought that into this now.
Star Gazer Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 Look, maybe I wasn't clear earlier but like I said there's no reason to come here and be rude. Take that attitude somewhere else!! I'm not being rude, I'm stating my opinion. I believe you're a troll.
Star Gazer Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 Craaaaaazzyyyy! The posts are seriously so transparent. "Smack this girl down?" Work lunches = essentially "He's in love with me, I know it!"? Born again virgin better than her employee skank? Ask HR's opinion for help in "smacking the girl down" to get the guy? I mean, get serious.
I Luv the Chariot OH Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 I wish this Theresa character was for real because this post made me laugh a lot
Author Theresa Posted October 26, 2007 Author Posted October 26, 2007 Look Star Gazer, I don't know what's wrong with you or why you keep misquoting me, but I'm not going to argue with you over whether or not the events in my life are actually happening or not. Nor am I going to tolerate insults from you jcster. This will be the last time I respond to either of you unless you apologize. Let me make a few things clear, though: "Smack this girl down?" I was angry when I wrote the title. So sue me. I didn't mean it literally, and I'm sorry you couldn't figure that out without me telling you. Work lunches = essentially "He's in love with me, I know it!"? I never said that he was in love with me. I just said that he liked me. Maybe in your delusional world that's the same thing, but it's sure not in mine. Born again virgin better than her employee skank? Again, I was obviously angry. But the girl, again obviously, does not have the same morals as me or she wouldn't be flirting with that guy so obviously or hanging out with him after hours. Ask HR's opinion for help in "smacking the girl down" to get the guy? I didn't say that at all. I said I wanted HR's opinion on the situation to see who was wrong. I don't even know where you got that from. Like I said, you can both either apologize or talk to yourselves. I don't care either way.
Author Theresa Posted October 26, 2007 Author Posted October 26, 2007 I love the chariot I suggest that you go back and read the original posts to see what I actually said instead of listening to these two. It's sad they don't have anything else better to do than to misrepresent and belittle people.
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