Would you ever seriously date somebody who was super goodlooking?

[shadowplay]

As a girl I'm always wary of guys who are too gorgeous because based on personal experience really hot guys tend to be much more likely to be a) douchebags and b) cheaters.

 

A gorgeous guy is usually orbited by an entourage of female followers/friends ready to pounce at any opportunity. Also, gorgeous guys tend to be addicted to female attention and may have trouble committing to one person once their ego needs another fix. Whenever a really attractive guy approaches me, I'm very cautious and usually blow him off unless he gives me good reason to take him seriously.

 

My ideal is a guy who's quite good looking, but not too good looking. I'm wondering if other people feel the same way. What about guys, do you ever avoid dating super attractive women for this reason? I think beautiful women are less likely to stray than beautiful men, though.

[Pyro]

If you find them good-looking, at least give them a chance. Talk to the person and if you are interested, go on from there.

 

Remember that good-looking is different to each person.

[JosieMcCoy]

I will date anyone that is nice to me! I can't have a filter against good looks you know! Thats silly!

 

Cheers!

[dumpedbutnotbroken]

I wouldn't, one for reasons you state, two because they'd be too intersted in looking at themselves in the mirror to notice anything great about you, three want someone that makes me feel good about myself not worse and constantly feeling insecure & down the gym/not eating/making sure I had latest clothes hair etc

 

This is just my own personal view though

[Pyro]

Anyone can be into themselves. Its not just limited to who you consider to be very good-looking.

 

Everyone is different.

[shadowplay]

 

Remember that good-looking is different to each person.

 

Perhaps to a degree but there are people who are close to universally attractive. They have a kind of conventional beauty that almost anybody can recognize. Those are the types I tend to avoid dating for the aforementioned reasons.

[Pyro]

Perhaps to a degree but there are people who are close to universally attractive. They have a kind of conventional beauty that almost anybody can recognize. Those are the types I tend to avoid dating for the aforementioned reasons.

 

Yes there are those type and I am sure lots of them are very arrogant and into themselves, but you can't label them all the same without giving them a chance at least. It is very easy to tell if someone is into themselves.

[Lizzie60]

As a girl I'm always wary of guys who are too gorgeous because based on personal experience really hot guys tend to be much more likely to be a) douchebags and b) cheaters.

 

A gorgeous guy is usually orbited by an entourage of female followers/friends ready to pounce at any opportunity. Also, gorgeous guys tend to be addicted to female attention and may have trouble committing to one person once their ego needs another fix. Whenever a really attractive guy approaches me, I'm very cautious and usually blow him off unless he gives me good reason to take him seriously.

 

My ideal is a guy who's quite good looking, but not too good looking. I'm wondering if other people feel the same way. What about guys, do you ever avoid dating super attractive women for this reason? I think beautiful women are less likely to stray than beautiful men, though.

 

I have to agree with a few things you said... (bold) but... if you are a strong and independant woman.. I just don't care how gorgeous the guy is.. he'll be at your feet... it's just like that. Gorgeous guys do have women at their feet... but if the woman they want, is independant, that's a whole different story....

 

[polywog]

That hasn't been my experience, though I know it can happen. Just because a man is "gorgeous" doesn't mean he isn't faithful and looking for a solid, compatable partner. I've known some gorgeous men (one was listed in a magazine as one of the "sexiest men in America") who have had relationships with women for their brains and did not match them looks-wise. It seems wrong to generalize. I have to say, though, that people in general, including that man, tend to become involved with other attractive people, even if it's not a match of looks. I'd never avoid someone because they were better looking than me if I sensed mutual attraction. It's all about the individual personality in the end.

[tanbark813]

I would. I can't say the same concern wouldn't cross my mind, shadowplay, but at the same time, I know from experience that just because someone is moderately attractive--or above moderately but not super goodlooking--isn't a guarantee that they won't cheat.

 

Actually, I once went out with this absolutely gorgeous girl--definitely a higher level of attractiveness than myself--and right away she was asking me what I was looking for in terms of a relationship as she was looking for something long-term herself and had been cheated on in the past. I told her I was looking for something long-term, which was true, but she didn't believe me. I thought that was kind of ironic.

 

Anyway, I don't think there's a strong correlation between attractiveness and issues or character.

[oppath]

Take beauty and the geek as an example: they select gorgeous women who for the most part are dumb and ditzy, who are really into themselves, looks, and material attributes. They are selected because of their personalities. It is very easy to determine if someone is really into themselves and attention. Those things are character traits that don't exist because of their looks.

 

So yes, I would date somebody super good looking. There are gorgeous women in graduate school who are walking around in sweatpants half the time, just as there are gorgeous women who hit up the hot-spot clubs 5 nights a week. Looks don't determine "is this person an attention whore who likes to play people." Those things are character traits.

 

It's true, most of the attractive women I meet are a little more ditzy and don't have the personality I enjoy. Many of them want attention and even drama. But I've met many gorgeous women who are getting their PhDs in molecular biology, for example, and those women are also extroverts, but their personalities and character traits are very different.

 

Basically, if you are looking for a LTR, and the person you date seems to be more of a serial dater and flirt, then don't date them, but it is not looks, it is character, and sometimes we become so enamored with the looks we ignore those character traits that indicate incompatibility.

[Trialbyfire]

Yes, I've dated some gorgeous men. Ummm...errrr....ehhhh...best to not say anything.

[oppath]

Yes, I've dated some gorgeous men. Ummm...errrr....ehhhh...best to not say anything.

 

So TBF -- you are gorgeous -- what do those guys say about you?

[Trialbyfire]

So TBF -- you are gorgeous -- what do those guys say about you?

They say...ummm...errrr...ehhhh...she's cute...

[lost4ever]

I disagree

I have dated three mega Hottie’s in my life…

One became my H

One I dated for a few months, then he told me he was in love with me but gay and asked if we could both sleep with other men but continue are R

And one I dated for awhile until I moved away…

I can say these three men have been the most wonderful R’s I have been in, I think of all of them very fondly, none of them were arrogant or “players”

I think the worst kind of men (for dating) are

1.) the ones who were ugly in HS or College then got a good job or became better looking later in life---they seem to want to make up for lost booty time and prove something to the world (my last R was this kind, he was not good looking, other qualities were great, but he thought he was the sexiest man alive)

and at close 2nd the ones that are good enough looking to where girls notice and not intimidated by them, they get most of the attention, and well you know, they think they are gods gift to women

This is my opinion….Don't give up the hotties!

[nicki]

Yeah, I know what you mean. An absolute gorgeous Adonis god kind of guy has a bit more to prove to me to make me go out with him.

 

Generally, that means I have to see that he isn't a huge flirt or in need of ego stroking from other women. Nothing wrong with being gorgeous, but plenty wrong with not being able to be happy with just one woman's attention.

 

So, with a guy like that, I'll observe him a bit more....But, I'll give him a chance. Except if he's super charming and seems like he is a pro-seducer. Then, I'll draw all kinds of conclusions, even if they are wrong.

 

Better if he comes off a bit boyish and charming in that somewhat shy kind of way. Confident and witty, yet maybe still a bit unsure about whether I will go out with him.

 

My last boyfriend was so handsome, yet humble. He constantly told me that he didn't think he was good-looking enough for me. He thought I was way better looking than he was....ha, not true at all....but it made me love him all the more for believing I was that hot!

 

So, I think even a gorgeous man needs to think his woman is too good for him. It keeps him motivated to make her happy.

 

The problem is when any guy, especially a great-looking one, has a big ego in need of stroking by lots of women. Please, I'm not interested in joining any guy's harem.

 

I run from guys like that.

[Trialbyfire]

The problem is when any guy, especially a great-looking one has a big ego in need of stroking by lots of women. Please, I'm not interested in joining any guy's harem.

 

I agree with this. There's a fine line between being a bit of a flirt and someone who must have the entourage, in order to feel good about himself.

[RecordProducer]

My ideal is a guy who's quite good looking, but not too good looking. I'm wondering if other people feel the same way. What about guys, do you ever avoid dating super attractive women for this reason? I think beautiful women are less likely to stray than beautiful men, though.

I am similar but in a slightly different way. If a guy seems deep, I give him a chance. Most good-looking guys (and bad-looking guys) seem superficial so I am not interested in them. When looking at a dating site, I find more pictures than essays that I like. And the essays are the deal-breakers or makers. But men don't realize it.

[shadowplay]

The best are the guys who are really good-looking but somehow don't realize it or don't care. Unfortunately, they are rare.

[monkey00]

As a girl I'm always wary of guys who are too gorgeous because based on personal experience really hot guys tend to be much more likely to be a) douchebags and b) cheaters.

 

A gorgeous guy is usually orbited by an entourage of female followers/friends ready to pounce at any opportunity. Also, gorgeous guys tend to be addicted to female attention and may have trouble committing to one person once their ego needs another fix. Whenever a really attractive guy approaches me, I'm very cautious and usually blow him off unless he gives me good reason to take him seriously.

 

My ideal is a guy who's quite good looking, but not too good looking. I'm wondering if other people feel the same way. What about guys, do you ever avoid dating super attractive women for this reason? I think beautiful women are less likely to stray than beautiful men, though.

 

I think you have good reason to believe that, I think it's only innate and widely publicized by the media that good looking people tend to go astray easily because of their multitude of choices being on the high end of the dating market...

 

But I believe there's a big difference between what the true facts are and what you choose to assume about someone before you even get to know them.

 

People assume too much about pretty people, if someone's charming or smooth a switch in your head clicks that they sleep around. I know a couple of good looking people who have trouble in the dating scene, people don't really take them seriously. And on top of that they are also pretty shy around new people and it takes them time to open up.

I believe certain people who give off a vain vibe who are always concerned about their looks these are obviously narcissists.

 

Anyway...to each their own. People should give them the benefit of the doubt that they are just like everyone else. As for me, I probably could if she gave me good enough reason to trust that she'd only be faithful to me.

[Star Gazer]

Actually, I once went out with this absolutely gorgeous girl--definitely a higher level of attractiveness than myself--

 

Stop talking about me, Tan!! J/K

 

I used to agree with you, Shadow. But after dating some not-so-hot guys who craved female attention and a couple really genuine, awesome guys who were gorgeous (like my BF), I no longer think there's any connection between attractiveness and their moral character.

[Pyro]

I no longer think there's any connection between attractiveness and their moral character.

 

Amen to that.

[oppath]

But after dating some not-so-hot guys who craved female attention and a couple really genuine, awesome guys who were gorgeous (like my BF), I no longer think there's any connection between attractiveness and their moral character.

Hell, there's not always much of a connection between someone who seems really sweet and caring and their moral character, either. Always judge based on character. There are some goodlooking women (SG,TBF,Lyssa,SB129, and others to name a few) on LS who have great character, and there are some good looking dudes with great character here too. We all have our flaws, and we may not be able to be friends in real life let alone date, but character needs to be judged on its own. It's easy to ignore someone's lack of character because they make your loins warm, and then when they are a prick, say "I'm through with uber hot guys." How about...don't date pricks!

[marlena]

As a girl I'm always wary of guys who are too gorgeous because based on personal experience really hot guys tend to be much more likely to be a) douchebags and b) cheaters.

 

A gorgeous guy is usually orbited by an entourage of female followers/friends ready to pounce at any opportunity. Also, gorgeous guys tend to be addicted to female attention and may have trouble committing to one person once their ego needs another fix. Whenever a really attractive guy approaches me, I'm very cautious and usually blow him off unless he gives me good reason to take him seriously.

 

 

Totally the way I see/feel things. So far this is what experience has taught me. Extremely good looking men make very bad partners. Yes, they are egocentric, selfish, full of themselves and seek new female attention every step of the way. Ego stroking is as important to them as the air they breathe.

 

My ideal is a guy who's quite good looking, but not too good looking.

 

Mine too! A good brain in a good - looking face...but not TOO good- looking. So far no luck!!!

 

Hey, but who's looking?

[oppath]

There are more important things in life than being really really really ridiculously good looking.