TonyJSD Posted October 25, 2007 Posted October 25, 2007 Okay.....I have another thread going about me moving in with my GF and thinking it was a mistake: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t133939/. But I wanted to get some opinions about the following as well: We have been together for 4 years and have a 6 month break about 1 1/2 ago or so. A BIG reason why we took a break is her jealousy, the final straw was when I was watching the Soprano's. She came over and I had just made dinner and was in the middle of the show, she had been there for about 15-20 mins and a striper came on during the show. She turned over on her side and asked me, "Why are you such a pig?" I assumed she was talking about me eating a large dinner, boy was I WRONG! She proceeded to inform me that I was a pig and white trash for watching a show with a stripper on it. Now lets take the following into consideration: She worked at Hooters for 8 months, she is gorgeous, great body, did modeling etc. WTF??? That day was the day we took our break. Opinions?
polywog Posted October 25, 2007 Posted October 25, 2007 She's just mucho insecure. All of us, her included, no doubt, notice attractive people of the opposite sex whether on TV or on the street. We don't like it when the SO is doing it, but that's life, and an animal part of our brains that is jealous and competitive. Me, I just see that and write it off because I've grown up a lot. But she is still insecure. My advice is to make a cute joke of it and let her know how fabulous She Is in any way you see fit. Hopefully she'll eventually grow out of this and see it for what it is. Kindness and tolerance is needed, and affection and humor help. How's that?
heidiQ Posted October 25, 2007 Posted October 25, 2007 Okay.....I have another thread going about me moving in with my GF and thinking it was a mistake: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t133939/. But I wanted to get some opinions about the following as well: We have been together for 4 years and have a 6 month break about 1 1/2 ago or so. A BIG reason why we took a break is her jealousy, the final straw was when I was watching the Soprano's. She came over and I had just made dinner and was in the middle of the show, she had been there for about 15-20 mins and a striper came on during the show. She turned over on her side and asked me, "Why are you such a pig?" I assumed she was talking about me eating a large dinner, boy was I WRONG! She proceeded to inform me that I was a pig and white trash for watching a show with a stripper on it. Now lets take the following into consideration: She worked at Hooters for 8 months, she is gorgeous, great body, did modeling etc. WTF??? That day was the day we took our break. Opinions? She's Psycho - get out now!!
I Luv the Chariot OH Posted October 25, 2007 Posted October 25, 2007 It's not like you were watching it for the nudity (right?), it's just a good show, and their base happens to be a strip club! So yeah, it was pretty out of line for her to call YOU names for it, as though you were doing it to spite her.
yippkiyay Posted October 25, 2007 Posted October 25, 2007 I can't even believe we are having this conversation
spookie Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 Okay.....I have another thread going about me moving in with my GF and thinking it was a mistake: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t133939/. But I wanted to get some opinions about the following as well: We have been together for 4 years and have a 6 month break about 1 1/2 ago or so. A BIG reason why we took a break is her jealousy, the final straw was when I was watching the Soprano's. She came over and I had just made dinner and was in the middle of the show, she had been there for about 15-20 mins and a striper came on during the show. She turned over on her side and asked me, "Why are you such a pig?" I assumed she was talking about me eating a large dinner, boy was I WRONG! She proceeded to inform me that I was a pig and white trash for watching a show with a stripper on it. Now lets take the following into consideration: She worked at Hooters for 8 months, she is gorgeous, great body, did modeling etc. WTF??? That day was the day we took our break. Opinions? My opinion is that you are looking for a justification to end it with this girl after coming back to her after your break and moving in. If you are unhappy becuase you want to be single, end it, but don't fish this hard for a reason. It's not her fault you want to end it. It may be that she is not the right perosn for you, but it isn't her fault. Don't try to make it seem that way because you want to assuage your guilt.
reelwoman Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 My opinion is that you are looking for a justification to end it with this girl after coming back to her after your break and moving in. If you are unhappy becuase you want to be single, end it, but don't fish this hard for a reason. It's not her fault you want to end it. It may be that she is not the right perosn for you, but it isn't her fault. Don't try to make it seem that way because you want to assuage your guilt. hey spookie, that was a righteous post! This is something we all do when we're trying to end it with someone, and it's not fair to them. Much better to own up to your feelings and admit that you want out. It's harder to do it that way but it's much more respectful to the other person and to the relationship you had. If a 4 plus year relationship is over, don't let it be about a TV show.
Jack Africa Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 Opinions? Yes - why did you tajke her back ? Calling you a PIG for watching TV is a dealbreaker.
Jack Africa Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 It's not her fault you want to end it. It may be that she is not the right perosn for you, but it isn't her fault. Don't try to make it seem that way because you want to assuage your guilt. Did you read the part where she called him a PIG ? Yes it is her fault . No respect = no man in your life..
spookie Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 Did you read the part where she called him a PIG ? Yes it is her fault . No respect = no man in your life.. Meh. People are going to say things they regret over the course of a relationship as long as this one. You don't break up over a TV show unless you want to break up anyway. In this particular situation, Tony was saying he wanted time off to party when they went on the anyway (in his other post)... so her insecurity/jealousy was not unwarranted in the first place. Also, this happened what? two years ago? And you're bringing it up now to demonstrate what a crazy b!thc your gf is? Sounds to me like you want out but don't wnat to be the bad guy. IMO you need to man up and take responsibility for your feelings changing. And there's no reason to tell the person what is wrong with THEM that made your feelings... that is unnecessary and cruel. You don't want to feel guilty, but don't put the blame on her. She's going to feel crappy enough when you dump her without you adding that on.
Star Gazer Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 My opinion is that you are looking for a justification to end it with this girl after coming back to her after your break and moving in. If you are unhappy becuase you want to be single, end it, but don't fish this hard for a reason. It's not her fault you want to end it. It may be that she is not the right perosn for you, but it isn't her fault. Don't try to make it seem that way because you want to assuage your guilt. Meh. People are going to say things they regret over the course of a relationship as long as this one. You don't break up over a TV show unless you want to break up anyway. In this particular situation, Tony was saying he wanted time off to party when they went on the anyway (in his other post)... so her insecurity/jealousy was not unwarranted in the first place. Also, this happened what? two years ago? And you're bringing it up now to demonstrate what a crazy b!thc your gf is? Sounds to me like you want out but don't wnat to be the bad guy. IMO you need to man up and take responsibility for your feelings changing. And there's no reason to tell the person what is wrong with THEM that made your feelings... that is unnecessary and cruel. You don't want to feel guilty, but don't put the blame on her. She's going to feel crappy enough when you dump her without you adding that on. You're pretty good at giving advice, Spookie.
spookie Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 You're pretty good at giving advice, Spookie. Thanks =).
Briggs55 Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 Ahahahaha, tell the b1tch she's got problems. Sopranos is the greatest show ever.
peace_pipe Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 I am just wondering what else she rags about. The last girl I dated didn't think 30 year olds should be playing Halo. And I didn't think I should be dating a girl who is so judgmental. People like this are very self centered and generally have no respect for what others enjoy. the fact is, if she was a cool girl and was reallly into you - she would care more about what you like and even possibly mirror it.
peace_pipe Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 Yes - why did you tajke her back ? Calling you a PIG for watching TV is a dealbreaker. Everything is a deal-breaker. Oops, I farted. Another deal breaker...
birdie Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 She turned over on her side and asked me, "Why are you such a pig?" I assumed she was talking about me eating a large dinner, boy was I WRONG!
peace_pipe Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 Next time she calls you a pig, be like "okay, HOG" From my experience, women really appreciate it when you call them a HOG. You can be the pig and she can be the HOG. Cute pet names, don't ya think?
Author TonyJSD Posted October 26, 2007 Author Posted October 26, 2007 I appreciate everyone's advice and opinions. I would like to say a few things though. By no means am I taking what happened a few years back and using it as an excuse or justification for me wanting to break up with my GF. It was just something I wanted an opinion on, & since I stumbled across this site and already had a thread going. Another quick note, we have had issues like this in the past that I just buried and forgot about. For example, she worked at Hooters for 8 months, but I was not allowed to go to Hooters before, during, or after she worked there because only horny pigs and trashy families go there. The only reason she worked there was cause the money was good, that was her reasoning. Another, she worked as a go-go dancer for 3 months, but anytime I went to a club I was in her eyes only going to stare at sluts and dance with hoes. So, as you can see there is more behind it then just one instance. I know that I should have included more details, but didn’t want to write a book and a half. Again, thanks for everyone’s opinions and advice!
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