Jealous of a friend

[2sides]

I would like to let you all know that there is two sides to every story. A friend of mine sent me the link for angelchild42's post jealous of a friend. Well, Im the one everyone thinks is Jealous of a friend.

 

When Angelchild and I started seeing each other, we both had friends of the oppistite sex. I had no problem with his females friends until I found out that those friends that had been calling him were ex-girlfriends that he keeps in touch with on a daily bases. He has one female friend that he openly told me about and said they dated in high school. Angelchild had no hestitation at all telling me everything concerning her. He told me he still keeps in touch with and sees once a year. I have never had a problem with their friendship because it is just that, a friendship. Nothing hidden and no lies.

 

I began to notice that he would lie to me about little things involving the so called friends. He would sometimes just avoid mentioning their name or the topic all together. I found out that the same "just friends" were really ex-girlfriends placed back on the shelf for him to take down and play with when he needs a female. I used the term "reusable". He keeps them hanging on until he finds a new girlfriend and all the sudden the old ones are labeled "just friends" again.

 

I found out that while we were chatting on the computer one night he had the one "friend" in his bedroom. He says nothing went on. The same friend that was right before me that he admitted he had feelings for. He didn't say a word about it for months. The one friend he didn't want to lose, the one friend he didn't want to give up. The one friend he was sexually involved with when he and I had begun to see each other. Yeah, I didn't know he was involved and had slept with her while we were begining our relationship.

 

Which brings me to the im friend. Just a friend this person has been his long desired relationship for about two years. The only reason he didn't bed her was because she was to busy sleeping with all his friends in front of him. Yes she was giving him all the details of it. ..... YES she turned him down... Now tell me is she just a friend?

 

I began noticing that in the mornings they would be talking. If he and i were chatting during lunch all the sudden he would get distracted and later i would find out it was because he was chatting with her. In the evening we all play an online game and every evening she would sign on speak to him them log off then the ims would start. I then noticed that he began staying up later hours. You guessed it, He waited for me to go to bed to chat with her. The type of a woman that anounces to everyone how she shows off her breast in the bar or instead of spelling coming she has to spell it cuming. He claimed the sexual comments on her myspace pictures were to make her laugh and that at no other time had he ever made any sexual anything toward her. The comments were something you would say to someone you were sleeping with. I began feeling as tho I was the friend and she was his lover. The last staw was when I found out he had pictures of her that he was keeping on his computer and when she mentioned that she was going to get a cam his reaction. Well, his reaction was like a small child at christmas time. I had never seen him so happy. So just a "friend"?

 

The one reusable girlfriend showed up after 5 years of not seeing her. He slept with her after being around her for a few hours. He was dating one he didn't want to get rid of. He came home and slept with the one he didn't want to get rid of a few days later. Then I steped into the picture. I have no idea what happened between the reusable one he hadn't seen in 5 yrs but He actually told her the last time she called he wanted nothing to do with her again. I think it was because the night he had sex with her,she didn't care if it was him or someone else as long as she got some. It hurt his feelings. He explained that one, as when he saw her he knew he loved her. Keep in mind he was engaged to the reuable one he talked about on here and had me and others on the line.

 

Another one, Came into town, to his house and was expecting to spend the night. He says he told her he didn't care about her like that anymore. I have no idea if she stayed or what actually happened with that one.

 

All of this was going on around the same time. I had no idea I was dealing with a player. He doesn't concider himself a player only because he doesn't talk bad about any of them. He doesn't talk about his "scores" he is sneakier about it.

 

The word friend to him means a (nice words) sleeping partner either past present or future and starting all over with the same partners.

 

Okay, yes, Im very angry about how he makes himself look so innocent when he post comments and questions without giving all the information. How he makes it sound like he is working on the relationship when in reality he keeps destroying it little by little.

 

I guess , I really wanted you to know that there are two sides. I read the post and NOT ONE of you asked why was she acting like that?

[Blue Eyed Brain]

Angelchild42 sounds awful.

 

Both of you should stay away from the other and move on.