:( What the hell?

[NotAgain]

Me and my boyfriend of 3 months had an argument last night. It was nothing major, at least in my eyes. I was just moody with him because he was hanging around with some girl that keeps spreading lies about us, probably trying to break us up. He didn't get why I was upset about it, and I said I think he should say something to her, or at least keep away from her. In the end he got really pissed off and stood up and opened the pub door making a big scene saying "here is the door, you know what you can do. you can go" I just sat there embarrassed that he had done that and everyone was looking at me. He then went and sat at the bar around the corner. I gave him about 10 mintues to calm down, then I went upto him and nicely said "can we talk?" so we sat at a table. I told him again how it upsets me that he's not telling her where to go when she is being a bitch. I said it camly this time. And he came out with, "she doesn't piss me off like you do"

 

That really hurt because this girl is nothing but trouble, and I'm his girlfriend . So I said, "you know what? I'm going" And he said okay, so I walked out. I waited outside on a wall, thinking he's soon be out, but he wasn't. Then I went into the pub again to see him when his friend told me he had left. Apparently he said "**** it" and went out, but went a totally different way to his house . I tried to phone him using somebodies phone, but he had switched it off.

 

So I walked to his. In the dark, all by myself, in woods. I was desperate! I got to his and knocked, no answer. I thought maybe he wasn't back yet so I waited about an hour. Then noticed the lights were being switched off. That's means he was there, because his parents leave them on until he's back. So that was that. I stayed at our friends house because I was in a state and didn't want to go back home like that. Then this morning I text him saying I had been to his in the dark, etc. and if I don't hear from him today I'll just assume he wants it over.

 

No answer. Tried again. Nope. Phoned him...not answering. I must have phoned and text him around 20 times all together I know that's pathetic, but it just isn't like him to do this . He's such a kind guy, and he seemed like he really loved me. Just because I was moody he's gonna leave me and throw everything all away?!?!?! We love each other...this is just so petty. I dunno what to do. I told him I'll assume it's over...still no reply! What am I meant to think? That it really IS over?

 

I guess I still have time to see, but I'm just so scared I'll never hear from him again. I at least deserve to know where I stand, right? He is totally overreacting, and this is not like him. Maybe he is trying to prove a point/playing games? Or maybe it really is over. I can't bear going through that pain again...I know how much it hurts because I lost my first love and ouch .

 

Are my stalkerish ways making it worse?? I know that when I was trying to pursue him he stated if I push him too much he will be less likely to comitt, because that's the way he works. Or something like that WTF is going on? I've done all I can...what a drama king.

[bertolli]

I dont think you should doubt your argument - that way he feels he can do as he pleases and get away with it.

 

What I suggest is that you give it some time, he will either want to see you, or he wont.

 

If he wants to see you, he should be the one apologising. And I shouldnt be telling him your exact feelings about this girl - tell him how it is, she is interferring with your relationship and always trying to break you up, and he's letting her do it to you.

 

If he doesnt give you anything to play with, then its time to move on - at the end of the day, he made you feel like an idiot in front of everybody, didnt show interest at how you got home, and certainly didnt seem to care you had gone through some woods to see him.

 

I can have the worst arguments with girls, but still ensure they get home safely.

 

I would suggest stay sitting for now, I think if he realises that it was just an argument, then he will come round. But if you keep trying to contact him, he will still think he was in the right.

[Touche]

Yes, you're making it worse by texting, etc. so much. You need to back off. Oh and he's already given you his answer. This is over. If he didn't want it over he would have called you.

 

By the way, it sure sounds like he already has another girlfriend. Sorry.

 

Don't contact him anymore. He'll only push you away more. Try to distract yourself with other things and put him in the back of your mind. Do you really want to be with someone who doesn't want you at least as much as you want them?

[Blue Eyed Brain]

I hear from a lot of guys that they think a woman calling or texting them is annoying.

 

Let the hurt feels subside and wait until he calls you. If it's really over because of this, then you had less than you thought you had. Either way, don't sit around waiting for him. Go out and forget it.

[oppath]

I hear from a lot of guys that they think a woman calling or texting them is annoying.

 

Let the hurt feels subside and wait until he calls you. If it's really over because of this, then you had less than you thought you had. Either way, don't sit around waiting for him. Go out and forget it.

 

But a lot of guys (and girls) are stupid: they should just say "I'm mad right now and don't want to talk about it, but I know it is important that we talk about this. I'll call you tomorrow when we're both cooled down."

 

The way he treated you was not cool. I suspect he has a side of the story, and the truth is some third side of the story. Nonetheless, how he treated you was not cool.

[NotAgain]

I dont think you should doubt your argument - that way he feels he can do as he pleases and get away with it.

 

What I suggest is that you give it some time, he will either want to see you, or he wont.

 

Thank you I will take that advice.

 

If he wants to see you, he should be the one apologising. And I shouldnt be telling him your exact feelings about this girl - tell him how it is, she is interferring with your relationship and always trying to break you up, and he's letting her do it to you.

 

Yep. He SHOULD tell her to back off and not lie about us and cause trouble. She is 19-years-old and acts like a kid. He is 27 and is frankly also acting like a kid right now. I still stick with that he should say something to her. He won't because it's his friends girlfriend, and best friends friend. And he would cause trouble if he confronts her. I understand that wouild be difficult, and wouldnt want him to lose his friends.But I'm his bloody girlfriend! And I'm not asking him to cause a big scene or antyhing.

 

If he doesnt give you anything to play with, then its time to move on - at the end of the day, he made you feel like an idiot in front of everybody, didnt show interest at how you got home, and certainly didnt seem to care you had gone through some woods to see him.

 

I can have the worst arguments with girls, but still ensure they get home safely.

 

That was oneof the worse things about it. He didn't know I was safe, and he just didn't seem to care . That hurts and also makes me MAD.

 

 

I am backing off now. But I don't know if it is over or not. I would have thought he'd be more likely to tell me it is if it is, than just ignore me. But we will see I guess. I know he likes time alone to think things through every now and then. I've stipped contacting him now..hopefully will keep it up .

 

By the way, it sure sounds like he already has another girlfriend. Sorry.

 

lol, I highly doubt that one. As when he isn't working he is usually with me. I just don't see how he'd have the time,etc. and he's not that kinda guy(I don't think...) It just wouldn't add up. If he has, I'll chop his balls off. And he knows it.

 

I hear from a lot of guys that they think a woman calling or texting them is annoying.

 

I thought relationships were meant to be based on clear cumunication, and trust. But obviously not! he admits himself that he finds it very hard to be emotional.........I'm very emotional. He's more of a thinker.

 

If it's really over because of this, then you had less than you thought you had.

 

Totally.

 

But a lot of guys (and girls) are stupid: they should just say "I'm mad right now and don't want to talk about it, but I know it is important that we talk about this. I'll call you tomorrow when we're both cooled down."

 

OMG, YES. I only wish he would do that (if that is what he's wanting)

 

The way he treated you was not cool. I suspect he has a side of the story, and the truth is some third side of the story. Nonetheless, how he treated you was not cool.

 

No it wasn't. And I'm glad other people have said so. It helps to know I'm not all in the wrong. I know I had my part too, but I appologised for that..he hasn't. **** it..upto him now eh.

 

Thanks ever so much for the replies, everyone. I'm taking the advice on board (y)

 

x

[NotAgain]

I went into our local pub tonight. I probably shouldn't have but I was with my mum and knew he wouldn't be there. Well like 80% of me did. And I spoke to our friends. Nobody has heard from him, they have called in the course of the day and he is ignoring us all I'm kinda worried about his safety, but his phone has gone from off to on to off again...so obviously he must be alive! It's strange he's ignoring his mates too...what's the deal?! And THE girl I was talking about was there and told me he had said the things she said he had and she promised she isn't lying. I feel like I'm back on a middle school playground here I dunno what to believe now. She also said she got up to come ask if I was okay and he shouted at her saying, "NO YOU ****ING DON'T" WTF??? That isn't life him...or at least I really thought it wasn't. I'm not sure who he'smost angry at...me or her, or both. But it's ridicolous. I haven't text or called him in almost 4 hours. And I'm planning on trying my damn right hardest not to. He has ran away from me and his friends all over this?? It's just childish.

[NotAgain]

He told our mutual friend he is "done with me" Like I'm just some object or something.

 

He is officially a loser.