mikesinclair Posted October 25, 2007 Posted October 25, 2007 Hi, This is the first time i have posted and not too sure if i should but it seems the best way to get the demons out of my head.. and instead of writing to my ex i can get some advise. Here goes, We had been together for 6 months, untill last week when she left. We had known each other for a couple of years and dated at the start of our friendship. 6 months ago we were both at lose ends and met up then one thing lead to another ( i will add we are both from different countries ) so she came to visit me ( was living temp at my parents ) then the next thing we were doing was buying a car and moving over to spain to start a new life.. boring you yet ?? one thing that started to become a strain with us, was money, i wasnt making straight away and this added stress on our relationship, ie sex. we then moved over to the canaries to live there, had a nice apartment i was starting to make good money, then boom,.. she wants to move back to her country. looking back i can see why, we were living like OAP's and werent havin physical contact... do i dont blame her for being home sick she came to see me on the last day and said she still loves me, lets not say goodbye but its over for now ( to me thats a piece of string that im supposed to hold on to ) i decided to move back to my country too, so on the same day we parted. since then we have spoke on MSN and she says me talking to her makes her smile, she misses me, so sorry the way she left. The hardest thing for me to deal with is that i love her sooo much and miss her dearly, and when we chat she brings up the fact about the sex. i tried to explain how i was stressed out and took it all for granted.. I suggested that she comes to London to live and make a start and she says that she would love to say YES YES YES but she doesnt beleive it will work and the spark willl be there again she seems very upset with the desicion and also the fact that she is letting me go, i too an so sad that it ended like this, considering what we had been through. im sorry to go on, and i prob havent made sense, but if anyone out there can give me tips and advise it would be apprecited. at the moment im a heartbroken man who doesnt know what to do. Living in two different countries is good and bad, but i want her back and i cant let it go.
Author mikesinclair Posted October 25, 2007 Author Posted October 25, 2007 please any suggestions. Im trying the NC route after we spoke today on MSN, do i block her, delete myspace and face book. its sooo hard, the hardest break up i've gone through. I still beleive we have a chance and i cant change that. even though she has said she doesnt want the relationship to be based on a lie and that i would be changing or puting on an act for her ( ie the sex, but i fancy the hell out of her ) please advise, how do i win her back, how to i assure her the spark can still be there... see there i go again im not letting it go... arrrggghh anyone advice
Pentula77 Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 you moved way to fast with this girl...6 months is too soon to be buying cars and moving in together etc...
Lyssa Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 You both know each other for a couple of years but only got together recently for about 6 months? If that is correct then moving to another country after only been together for 6 months was pretty fast! I can't tell you how to win her back because from what I understand (the way I see it), she probably realised everything was moving too fast. You may think the spark is still there or you can make it work but you gotta ask yourself this: does she want the same thing?
Author mikesinclair Posted October 26, 2007 Author Posted October 26, 2007 yeah it did move fast, we were both from different countries so the dating aspect didnt really happen. The one thing that died was the spark and she is still saying it cant come back to be honest the reason i was dumped was the lack of sex in the relationship and i have tried to explain that reasons ( too much too soon, stress, depression etc ) besides the fact we say we still love each other, im really confused. I sometimes wish she said she was cheating on me so i can blank her out.
Lyssa Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 Well, it takes time to get over someone but that does not mean you won't get over her at all. Get yourself involve in something fun or go out with your friends. Keep your mind occupied with other things so that you won't think so much about her. Pretty soon, you won't be thinking about her at all.
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