Poboy Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 3 ex's cheated on me with my friend and denied everything even though she knew i had all the proof ( stupid ) left me and everything , she just couldn't take it anymore. stayed in the relationship for 1.5 years even though she never loved me. wow , some of you guys have psycho ex's . im happy for myself when i look back i never met someone like them.
halfarock Posted October 27, 2007 Posted October 27, 2007 The mother of my children. She always had a bit of a violent edge to her but was mostly harmless, to me anyway. When my kids were 1 and 3, I started to fear that she might hurt them so I kicked her out and started the process to gain full custody. A couple of weeks later she showed up with her mother and brother, all three reeking of alcohol. Her brother forced his way into my house claiming he was going to “kick my a$$” for wronging his sister. In short order I sent him tumbling out the door and over the porch railing, much bruised and his nose bleeding profusely for his efforts. She, and her mother, stood out in the street yelling profanities at me. I and apparently several of my neighbors called the police. When the police arrived my ex told them that she just wanted to see the kids and I wouldn’t let her. (a lie) My 3 yr old daughter, remaining surprisingly calm throughout, told a police officer that “mommy scares me.” They made her and her mother leave and arrested her brother. In the following weeks I started getting threatening phone calls from who turned out to my ex’s new boyfriend. Each time I just taunted him, calling him a sissy boy and stuff. One night he showed up at my door, drunk and looking for a fight, with her sitting in his car at the curb. Like her brother before him, he soon found himself over the porch railing bruised and bleeding. When the police got there, she tried the same line about,”boo, hoo, I just want to see my children.” The police didn’t buy it as it was around midnight. The police told them to leave and as they drove away, the police were on their tail as both were obviously too drunk to drive. At the custody hearing, she never showed up.
EYECANDY000 Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 Lost my virginity to someone who I thought cared about me , and dumped me the next week. Stated that hes not ready for a relationship and that hes to old for me.. I was 20 at the time he was 25.. But the funny thing is, I wasnt looking for a elationship, never even mentioned it. What a copt out..
Curmudgeon Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 Alienated my children from me. With my two minor daughters, that occurred over a 10 year period following the divorce (we'd been married 25 years). If that wasn't enough, her stated hope for me was that I would die old, alone and lonely. She, too, got hit by the karma train. She married the boyfriend she'd met seven months before we separated and he was killed in a car accident a bit over three years later. She blew through all the money she received from me in the divorce and because of her husband's death and now lives with our youngest son and his wife because she has nothing. Four of our five children now want nothing to do with her wereas my wife and I have good relationships with all of them as well as my grandchildren. Finally, dying old I could handle. It beats the alternative. But I'm remarried. My wife and I have known one another for 16 years and been married for 11 of them so I'm anything but lonely or alone. But the ex is. Guess it's a case of, "Be careful what you wish for!"
lonelybird Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 Alienated my children from me. With my two minor daughters, that occurred over a 10 year period following the divorce (we'd been married 25 years). If that wasn't enough, her stated hope for me was that I would die old, alone and lonely. She, too, got hit by the karma train. She married the boyfriend she'd met seven months before we separated and he was killed in a car accident a bit over three years later. She blew through all the money she received from me in the divorce and because of her husband's death and now lives with our youngest son and his wife because she has nothing. Four of our five children now want nothing to do with her wereas my wife and I have good relationships with all of them as well as my grandchildren. Finally, dying old I could handle. It beats the alternative. But I'm remarried. My wife and I have known one another for 16 years and been married for 11 of them so I'm anything but lonely or alone. But the ex is. Guess it's a case of, "Be careful what you wish for!" my goodness, we have to forgive
playabum17 Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 I was in High School and started dating the guy that worked at the Optometrist office on base, where I had recently gotten contacts. (my Dad was in the Army) everything was fabulous. He was so sweet to me, so caring, he adored me, we fell in love. He was my first love and it was going to be forever. He proposed to me, didn't buy me a ring yet because he wasn't an officer in the army, just a low ranking poor guy, but did give me money to start saving towards a ring we would pick out together. Everything was fantastic. His tour of duty with the military was coming to an end and he was going back home to Minnesota. We had everything worked out, I still had a year of high school, so I would finish school and maybe even finish it in Minnesota. Then move to Minnesota and join him once I graduated. We would get married after I graduated...it was all worked out. A couple of days before he left, I got scared and freaked out about him leaving and wanted to break up. He begged me...BEGGED me not to leave him, that he loved me and that we would make it work. So we stayed together. So he goes home and is supposed to call me when he gets there. He doesn't call...okay, maybe he forgot you know you get home, greet family and all that. This is where it gets fuzzy, I think I have a mental block about it. I called his parents house and talked to his Mom and she said he wasn't there and I think I told her that I was his fiancé and she had no clue about me, wouldn't you tell your mom you were engaged? I don't remember if I talked to him, I swear I have a mental block about it. I think I must have because I asked for my school ring back, which amazingly he mailed to me. In the letter, he said next time don't assume that someone has proposed to you. Ummm, I was there I remember it clearly and he spoke to my parents about it. I think I'm scarred from this one, since it was my first 'true love' and to this day I don't know exactly what happened...except I guess he was playing me all along?? And of course the most recent guy who I've been with for almost 8 months, much of it Long Distance and he 'breaks up' with me, by not answering any of my calls or returning any of my calls. I've gotten the hint by now...I figured it out that he won't be answering any of my calls.
LucreziaBorgia Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 The worst? He dumped me a week after my surgery for breast cancer, with at least a year of chemo/more surgery/radiation ahead of me.
whichwayisup Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 The worst? He dumped me a week after my surgery for breast cancer, with at least a year of chemo/more surgery/radiation ahead of me. LB, hate to say it as I know right now you're really hurting badly, but this takes the cake. It really pisses me off and I hope he has MANY sleepness nights and his mirror smashes in the bathroom.
coco_milkshake Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 LB, hate to say it as I know right now you're really hurting badly, but this takes the cake. It really pisses me off and I hope he has MANY sleepness nights and his mirror smashes in the bathroom. I agree. That was a very low thing to do.
amaysngrace Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 I would answer this poll with lots of horrific things my exH has done to me but I'd rather not go there today. That was so yesterday...
Curmudgeon Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 my goodness, we have to forgive She doesn't know it, nor does she have to. I did it mostly for myself. It was the last step to achieving indifference. Relating the facts in the matter does not mean I harbor resentments or harbor ill feelings. Nor does it indicate any pleasure in her plight. Quite the contrary. All I ever wished for her was a happy, secure life. Obviously I didn't provide that to her satisfaction during our marriage (she's the one who left) so I honestly hoped she find it in the aftermath. Twenty-five years and five children make her worthy of some value in my estimation. I don't have to like her but I certainly don't wish her ill and never have.
Curmudgeon Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 The worst? He dumped me a week after my surgery for breast cancer, with at least a year of chemo/more surgery/radiation ahead of me. Absolutely the worst!
Lostgurl Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 The worst? He dumped me a week after my surgery for breast cancer, with at least a year of chemo/more surgery/radiation ahead of me. LB, I'm so sorry! What a scum bag.
uniqueone Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 #1--Sweet, romantic guy, told me we were soulmates..got engaged and moved in together. Turns out he was really an abusive alcoholic. He took advantage of my kindness, drunk, depressive, tried to kill himself, I nursed him back to recovery only to have him cheat on me. He started to become physically abusive, smashed in my car window while I was trying to drive away one day, and told me he was going to cut off the dogs head when I kicked him out and wouldn't give him the dog. #2-- Successful businessman, charming and affectionate. Turned out I was arm candy which I found out when I began questioning things (which he didn't like and which made him angry). Questioned him one night while we were lying in bed (about if he was looking for someone else) and he wouldn't answer me. Told me we'd talk about it "later". Since Iwanted to talk about it THEN, he got up and kicked me out in the middle of the night while there was a huge storm going on. I stayed with him and found out one night he had a party at his house and didn't invite me. I tried calling him but he wouldn't talk to me until two weeks later. He brought me a parting present--something he had ordered me out of a catalog prior to this (he liked to order clothes for women like they were dress up dolls). Told me he got together with an old girlfriend. Three months later he turns up again and wants a FWB and I fall for it. Then he meets someone he falls in love with and dumps me. Oh let's skip a few and jump ahead..... 2007--LDR...very successful, charming man says he doesn't believe in monogamy so I tell him bye-bye. Then he woos me back and convinces me that I'm different and that I'm someone that he can commit to and he tells me how after we meet what can happen after that. After building me up for awhile, he starts putting me down....tells me what I do for a living isnt' impressive (I had just gotten a job after losing my last one and was on shaky ground about my career). Before we meet, he tells me that when he comes to town he's meeting others here as well and that why would I think he was only meeting me? I foolishly accept, at least curious to meet him and figured what the hell.... After meeting he becomes this nice person and very attentive again and invites me to visit him---thousands of miles away. I visit him a month later and after being nice for awhile, he starts to cut me down again and then abandons me there after I question him for emailing other women right in front of me while we were in a hotel room. He then flies back to where he lives without me and tells me I should take an early flight home and he could mail me my things (that were at his house). Ok that's enough....you get the picture.....
upsetnhurt Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 My ex went back and slept with her ex before me even after this ex bf poured paint thinner all over my car and glued my home door locks twice in an attempt to win her back. Guess it worked!
coco_milkshake Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 My ex told my best friend about me getting molested by my cousin when I specifically told him not to. He was the first person I ever told and at first he joked about it to which I almost broke up with him. To make things worse..he kept asking me if he reminded me of my cousin as we were getting intimate. That killed me. I shouldve dumped him then but I was blind.
Mz. Pixie Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 Omg my ex did the same to me except it was my co-workers cos we used to work for the same place. He made up soo many lies, that we had sex etc when I am still a virgin. He turned soo many of my friends against me and created misunderstandings so that I looked the bitch and he looked like the loving caring bf. Oh, I forgot, because I have a lesbian friend- he told everyone I'd had a lesbian affair too!
Mz. Pixie Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 The worst? He dumped me a week after my surgery for breast cancer, with at least a year of chemo/more surgery/radiation ahead of me. He gets the award for biggest ***hole!!!! Sorry, LB, that is the worst!!!
coco_milkshake Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 I remember my manager at my old work did that twice to his GF. He broke up with her when she had cancer then got back with her when she got the all clear. Unfortunately the cancer came back and he left her to face it herself. Thats what I call a dog.
mental_traveller Posted December 26, 2007 Posted December 26, 2007 I've been lucky and never really had an ex do anything bad.
cutegirl Posted December 27, 2007 Posted December 27, 2007 I had an ex that spit in my face (repeatedly) during arguments, one time spit food at my face, would take property from my house such as my ipod and new external hard-drives and sell them to his friends during arguments and was also physically abusive and would pull my hair (again during fights) and choked me a few times as well.
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