k10k Posted October 25, 2007 Posted October 25, 2007 Hi there all you lovely people.. Well, tomorrow is Friday, and I can already feel myself getting depressed. Funny how when I was happy with my b/f - I couldn't wait for the weekend to start and now I'm totally dreading it. I'm actually relieved when Monday arrives cause then at least I can focus on work again. As I've mentioned in a previous post, all my friends are blissfully happy in relationships, and I feel almost "left-out". I'm the only single one, who is not happy and who is totally not enjoying life at the moment. Just wondering if you have any tips for getting through the weekend? What do you guys do to help you feel better?
angie16 Posted October 25, 2007 Posted October 25, 2007 i really don't have tips, i'm in the same boat. luckily i have to visit my family this weekend so that will help. :-( sorry, i know exactly how tough it is. I am living it too.
MartianChronicles Posted October 25, 2007 Posted October 25, 2007 some of my friends are still single, so i usually hang up with them, go out for dinner or a beer, and so on. if i have nothing better to do, i read a book, watch a movie, or sleep (it seems my need for sleep has increased since the breakup). you're right though, weekends suck!
Crestfallen_KH Posted October 25, 2007 Posted October 25, 2007 I totally understand where you are coming from, but at some point you will look forward to them again. Instead of telling myself "Oh man, I have to be alone this weekend" I tell myself "Oh wow, I get to be alone this weekend" and I write, read, clean the house, journal, make myself a gourmet dinner or pop in a movie. Then, if I feel like going out, I call a friend. I now actually try to have one night to myself (my selfish night) and another out with someone else. I was in the same boat friendswise, so I started joining meetup groups (www.meetup.com) and met new wine tasting buddies, dining out buddies, and other people from my newly single meetup group. That might be something you can try. Fear not, you will eventually love the weekend again.
bigheartkindsoul Posted October 25, 2007 Posted October 25, 2007 Most my friends all in relationships or married also. I still made plans to go out with them or go visit them on the weekends. Also after my break up I went on a site and made a new female friend local to where I live, she is a great laugh and we go out normally on a Friday or Saturday. When I didn't want to be alone and like you dreading it, I just did everything I could to keep busy. Went to the gym, shopping, friends, family - whatever even if it was at home watching fav films with a bottle of wine and a take out. It will get better, it takes alot of pushing yourself but if you can try and make some plans and get out of the habit of hating weekends, try to break the cycle so you begin too once again look forward to them. xxxx
bigheartkindsoul Posted October 25, 2007 Posted October 25, 2007 I was in the same boat friendswise, so I started joining meetup groups (www.meetup.com) and met new wine tasting buddies, dining out buddies, and other people from my newly single meetup group. That might be something you can try. Also a great idea, and is a similar site where I met my new female friend and also went out on a couple of group meet ups too.
Bosiell Posted October 25, 2007 Posted October 25, 2007 Yeah weekends are very difficult. Its hard to take from so looking forward to a weekend of seeing someone you love and the amazing times spent to be so suddenly on your own the next one. And yes all my closest friends are seeing someone all of a sudden to, its so damn typical. I am lucky that I have a family near by, so I can always pop round for a coffee and a chat for a couple of hours at the worst times. I have joined a gym recently also, so something else to help "kill" some time. Or plan a shopping trip. Put a fav film on, fav food, fav drink, and try keep your mind occupied. I was painting my bedroom last sat nite, what gives?! They are slowly getting easier to handle, but yeah its wrenching when you think about it too much.
sedgwick Posted October 25, 2007 Posted October 25, 2007 Okay, don't laugh, but...I knit! I rarely have a whole day to just devote to playing with yarn, and it's one of my favorite things to do. Sometimes I challenge myself to finish a whole project in a day. I taught myself to crochet out of a book, and now I do that too. I love making stuff! There are a couple of knitting cafes near me, so I go sit there and have a good coffee surrounded by yarn. I always meet people, and I love seeing what they're making and getting inspired. I also do a lot of yoga. Yoga is the greatest! I feel so much better both mentally and physically when I come out of the studio.
Crestfallen_KH Posted October 25, 2007 Posted October 25, 2007 Yep. As much as it sucks right now, the time you have alone is so very crucial to your healing process. You now get to be whatever you want to be and do whatever it is you've been wanting to do. For instance, I've started volunteering with kitties at the Humane Society on Sundays. Helping others makes ME feel good and it also helps take my mind off my troubles. I've gotten back to journaling also, which I had stopped doing while I was with my husband (I just told him all of my problems!). I am really enjoying this time and looking forward to continued development of myself as a WHOLE person. Just because he's not here anymore doesn't mean anything is missing from my life. I can be happy in a couple or by myself, and that's an amazing, amazing gift and wonderful thing to know. I'm sorry, you probably want to just punch me right now but truly, enjoy this time and learn about yourself. Take risks and do what will make YOU happy without having to worry about anyone else.
Author k10k Posted October 25, 2007 Author Posted October 25, 2007 Thanks you guys! xx Crestfallen - I don't want to punch you You are right, I need to see this a time for ME to learn and grow and make myself feel whole again.
Bosiell Posted October 25, 2007 Posted October 25, 2007 Okay, don't laugh, but...I knit! I rarely have a whole day to just devote to playing with yarn, and it's one of my favorite things to do. Sometimes I challenge myself to finish a whole project in a day. I taught myself to crochet out of a book, and now I do that too. I love making stuff! There are a couple of knitting cafes near me, so I go sit there and have a good coffee surrounded by yarn. I always meet people, and I love seeing what they're making and getting inspired. I also do a lot of yoga. Yoga is the greatest! I feel so much better both mentally and physically when I come out of the studio. .. Only joking Sedge.. Think its great that you are being so creative. I cant knit for sh_t (hey thats catchy!) but not something I will lose sleep over. But hmm yeah I creative hobby sounds good. May have to look into one.
Bosiell Posted October 25, 2007 Posted October 25, 2007 Yep. As much as it sucks right now, the time you have alone is so very crucial to your healing process. You now get to be whatever you want to be and do whatever it is you've been wanting to do. For instance, I've started volunteering with kitties at the Humane Society on Sundays. Helping others makes ME feel good and it also helps take my mind off my troubles. I've gotten back to journaling also, which I had stopped doing while I was with my husband (I just told him all of my problems!). I am really enjoying this time and looking forward to continued development of myself as a WHOLE person. Just because he's not here anymore doesn't mean anything is missing from my life. I can be happy in a couple or by myself, and that's an amazing, amazing gift and wonderful thing to know. I'm sorry, you probably want to just punch me right now but truly, enjoy this time and learn about yourself. Take risks and do what will make YOU happy without having to worry about anyone else. Nice post Crest
hopeforlove243 Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 I just adopted a kitten today from shelter, My ex-bf has a kitty, I was his mom for 1.5 years, and now, I lost both of them, so I decide to have my own kitty, he is so cute, sleeping on my lap right now while I am tying this, and he surely keeps me busy too. I am considering volunteer at animal shelter too. Most of my friends are now married or have kids, so it is not easy for me to hang out with my friends all the time.
Gravedigger Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 I've dreaded weekends for the past 6 months now. I always find myself going out with my friends drinking, hanging around bars trying to pick up new girls, somehow thinking that will heal the pain.... stupid:confused: Well, I generally find that doing things that made you happy when you were with your significant other still helps. So if kicking back on the sofa with your favorite DVD's was your favorite way to spend your weekend, why not keep doing that - as long as the DVD's don't remind you too much of your ex
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