Is this a "for real" breakup and if it isn't should I pretend like it is?

[Uzed]

I can't sleep. This just happened tonight but I'll try to remain objective. As with all long relationships there is a back story but I'll try to be brief. My boyfriend and I have been together for five years. Tonight he just broke up with me and I'm wondering if he'll stick with this decision. One part of me hopes that he doesn't because I love him a great deal but the other part wonders if maybe this is a good thing because of how irrational a decision he made for what seems to me like a crazy reason. Last point to consider - he's always had a bit of a problem with controlling his drinking. Here goes:

 

We are in the process of buying a place and the move out date is in less than a week. I was out at an event and called my bf around 10:30 to say, "Hey, I love you." He said he was at a local bar shooting pool. I said cool - how long will you be there because if it's a while I'll go out for a drink with some friends. He said go have fun and call me when you're done. So I did but I didn't drink because hardly anyone else was. I left around 11:30 and called my bf to see if he was still out. He was starting to sound a little tipsy but I didn't think too much of it.

 

I met him at the bar at about 12:10. He was on the last half of a beer and I could tell he was getting really drunk because he was slurring words, swaying back and forth and hitting a pool stick on things accidently. I said, “Hey, I don't think you should drive.” He said, “Yeah, probably not.” I then had one beer. He played another 2-3 games of pool and closed out his tab without getting another beer.

 

When it was time to go I said that he was pretty drunk and I would drive. He agreed that he was drunk but said he would drive behind me “real slow.” I said I didn't think that was such a good idea and that I would just drive his car home and leave mine there. He said he didn't want to leave either of our cars in the parking lot. We went back and forth on this issue for a while. He started to get mad and said he was leaving. I followed him to his car and stood in the door saying, "you're drunk, you shouldn't drive." He never refuted the fact that he was drunk and even agreed with it a couple times but said it was his right to drive. I mentioned his job (which is very strict about these things). He got mad and said he didn't want to argue but instead just drive home and go to sleep. He started to drive with me still in the door. I ran to catch up and grabbed the keys out of the ignition and walked back to the bar with both sets of keys in hand.

 

He came to bar, became angry, told me that he had never given me control of any aspect of my life and I was on a power trip. I kept telling him that I just didn't want to see him get pulled over for something stupid and lose his job. He said he didn't care and that it was his life and I don't have any right to tell him what to do. I told him that I was his girlfriend of five years and that our lives were pretty intertwined and that I was trying to protect him. He just repeated that he didn't give me any control over his life.

 

Around this time he said our relationship was over and that now I had to give back his keys. I said that's fine but I'm not giving them back because all my reasons are still valid - I love you and care about you and don't want you to ruin any part of your life for no reason. I once again offered to drive him home (this was a continual offer). He said that it was over and that I was stupid and he would never forgive me for this. He also said that I would live to regret this. He then walked away and sat outside for a while.

 

About 1:30 am he came back in and seemed a little better. He asked for his keys again. He seemed okay so after a few minutes of back and forth I gave him the keys. He went outside and sped around the parking lot a few times in some sort of a show. He tore down the road at least once as I drove home.

 

At home right before he went to bed he told me that I had to be out of the house by the end of the month and if I didn't take my dog with me he would shoot her.

 

What do you think?

[sedgwick]

I think you should run screaming, as he has a serious drinking problem and can't control his anger. I mean, threatening to KILL YOUR DOG?!? This guy doesn't have issues, he has subscriptions.

[Spinderella]

I think you should run screaming, as he has a serious drinking problem and can't control his anger. I mean, threatening to KILL YOUR DOG?!? This guy doesn't have issues, he has subscriptions.

I agree with the above post.