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They say I will get over her but I don't think I want to

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Wow, first post huh. Will try & condense this so I don't ramble on.

 

My wife & I have been separated coming up 2 years now. We split after only a few years of marriage but we had been together over a decade. I like to blame myself for not being a better husband. We have a son together.

 

We tried working on things for a couple of months but decided to call it quits. I still had some issues to resolve. Unfortunately she was dating within a couple of weeks & has been with the guy ever since.

 

Not wanting to meet anyone until I was ok I held off until I felt I was capable. Dating went well but I quit soon after as I thought maybe I wasn't actually ready. A couple of weeks later I met a fantastic girl. We had a whirlwind couple of months until I thought again perhaps I wasn't over the Ex so broke it off. A short time later I realised I missed her too much so we got back together, we're still together now.

 

Now, I do love my GF but I also still love my Ex & I miss my family. I still see the Ex regularly which might have something to do with all this. I don't think there is any chance that we would ever get back together, shes made that quite clear but I don't think I actually want to 100% get over her. Is this normal? Am I just mentally self-abusing myself?

 

I still like to talk to her at any opportunity I can; be it via text message, email, phone or in person. She doesn't try to create these windows for me so I know shes not leading me on or anything. To be honest alot of the time shes not very forthcoming in conversation.

 

My GF is amazing. The sex is fantastic. She thinks all my quirks & niggles are gorgeous - she essentially loves me for me which at the end of the day is what everyone wants isn't it.

 

Not sure what my question is, I think I'm mostly just kind of venting. I know I can't change anything about my relationship with my Ex. I guess in time I will eventually get over her 99% but I can't rush it. I still get memories from familiar surroundings. We have a lot of good memories & I miss what we had. I hate getting down about it, its just so draining.

 

So much for condensing :D

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