Scagz Posted October 24, 2007 Posted October 24, 2007 Hi the last few days have been very hard on me. My girlfriend for 5 months has decided to end our relationship saying that she dosent love me anymore and she has become bored of our relationship. I know you might say 5 months might be to short to fall in love but both of us were honestly in love with each other through the realationship and we would see each other almost every day. Most friends i talk to say this was the fault that seeing her every day made her unappreciate me and she eventually fell out of love as she got burnt out. But im still in love with this girl and it hurts to know that she dosent love me anymore. She is still here for me and cares about me but those do not make up for the pain i feel to love and not be loved back especially for someone like her who i have never loved so much before in my life. Can somebody pleas help me how do i get her to come back to me so we can start our relationship over and this time around i will make sure she dosent get burnt out over me?
u6h39 Posted October 25, 2007 Posted October 25, 2007 hey i cant really offer much advice but am going thru xactly the same thing atm, by bf split up wiv me yday coz he didnt love me anymoe, evrthing was gr8 but he sed the arguing got to much. i'm sorry i can't help, but i can relate. Sorry i don't no what 2 say 2u ...just kinda wish i knew u so we cud be there 4 each other, it hurts, it ***in hurts, but evry1 else on here seems 2 b kinda posotive after 2 weeks, maybe in 2 weeks it may b slightly better 4 both of us, heres 2 hoping, any tips, advice good moments plz tell me, in need of much encourgement ...keep plodding xx
Lee725 Posted October 25, 2007 Posted October 25, 2007 Hi, to love someone and not have them love you back is the worst kind of love there is (in my eyes). I recently had to break it off with a guy because i was falling for him and i knew he was not falling for me. It hurts alot. Especially when they confirm what you know. I really dont see how seeing her everyday could have made her turn away from you. It is quite normal to want to spend every waking moment with someone when you have just started a relationship with them. When two people are genuinely happy with each other, they dont generally "burn" out within 5 months (sometimes when it hits years it can happen to even well matched poeople). It does not say in your post that you are on NC, it does appear that you are still in contact and she does still care about you and wants to spend time with you it might be worth trying this: For the short term back off on the whole relationship thing. No kissing No cuddling .... even tho it will be hard look at her like a friend. Do things that friends do, have lunch, go to a theme park, a zoo, anywhere ... find that friendship that all great relationships generally begin with. Find each other again. then if love blossoms again so be it. Dont try to go out every weekend (Friends dont always go out all the time together), even incorporate other friends into the activites. Remind her of the great person you are in general not just the great partner you would make. You have nothing to loose by trying and everything to gain if it works. Sometimes things can burn out quickly if feelings of love are trying to be forced and there isnt anything else like a great friendship to back it up.
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