hip hapa Posted May 6, 2003 Posted May 6, 2003 Okay...here is the situation. I met this girl online about 3 weeks ago and we've talked in instant messenger about 4 or 5 times. The conversations went okay...normal getting to know each other stuff. I asked her online if it would be okay if i call her and she said it was cool. Se when we we're talking online I mention I would call her later that day and she said she would be busy. She did tell me to call her then next evening though. So the next day i did call and left a message. But its been two days now and I haven't heard back. I really want to talk to this girl but at the same time I don't want to seem to desperate. I also haven't had the chance to talk to her online since then either. How long should I wait before I call her again?
Tony T Posted May 6, 2003 Posted May 6, 2003 I think it would be fine if you call her this evening. However, if you have to leave a message and she doesn't call you back within a day or two...write her off forever. While there are some truly great people online, there are some real flakes. She may be very courageous on the net and the telephone but quite concerned about meeting you in person...for any one of a thousand reasons. HINT: Never leave messages unless it has to do with business. When you leave a message, you turn over the power in the situation to the other person. Of course, in your case you had to let her know you kept your word...but, then again, she didn't keep hers. Had you not left a message, there would be no problem in calling her twice an evening every night until she answered. I'm not suggesting you call somebody that often because if they have caller ID it would scare the hell out of them. Call this lady one more time...and if she doesn't respond, just forget she exists.
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