lexi29 Posted October 24, 2007 Posted October 24, 2007 I'm sorry if I'm posting on here too much but it really helps so bear with me- One of the things I did recently was made a list of things I didn't like about my ex. Most people will read this list and wonder why the h*ll I was with him. My explanation (defense) is this- my last two relationships before my ex broke up because the guys took me for granted and didn't spend much time with me- I left them both (one after 5 years). My 2nd most recent ex started out great- we spent time together had fun etc. However he was adicted to porn and would rather spend the day on the computer than with me. So when i met my recent ex, he was totally different- we had a lot of the same interests, we were friends for 3 years before we dated, he ADORED me, he spent ALL of his free time with me, he practically smothered me with attention and affection. He made me #1 (along with his son) in his life. Also one of my old exes was somewhat emotionally unavailable and wouldn't talk about anything he was feeling. My ex would talk about anything, he loved talking about personal stuff and feelings and was a very open person. So all of these qualities combined were what kept me around. Plus even after three years he was still just as attentive as when we started dating. Ok here's my list he smokes (always hated this but tolerated it- he would try not to smoke around me) for some weird reason this summer he stopped wearing deoderant- totally gross but he didn't think he smelled bad he is a racist He is terrible with money- lives paycheck to paycheck he doesn't like animals- I have 3 cats and they are my babies and I also like dogs- once his neighbor's cat was in front of his house and he tried to run it over with me in the truck. for years he kept a loaded rifle (he's a hunter) under his bed even though his son lives with him (i did not know this till recently when he moved, his defense was that he told his son not to touch it and he never has- this scares me to death because his son is only 8 and plays video games with shooting and has toy guns, just afraid one day he might play with his dad's loaded gun.) He had his license suspended for six months (for not paying for damages in an accident) and never told anyone. He drove anyway (I only found out when a cop pulled us over for him speeding) When I'm not riding with him in his truck he never makes his son wear his seatbelt and lets his son climb over the seats (his son told me this) he is rude to his parents He lied to me about talking to another woman (was calling her behind my back) He made fun of his ex when we met up with her for the first time (woman he's now dating). She had gained a lot of weight in the 12 years since he last saw her and we were supposed to meet her somewhere (was about 3 months ago) and he kept pointing out all these really hot 20 somethings with long blonde hair saying he thought they were her and we meet her and she no longer has blonde hair and is kind of frumpy looking and has gained a bunch of weight and he tells his son (OMG a fat chick ate Cindy!!) as a joke and his son starts laughing and telling fat jokes and when we go to meet her my bf (ex) tells her (wow I would have never recognized you!! You've really changed and not for the better) yes, he actually said this to her face and now she is dating him. So thats my list and I feel much better now. Don't even have the urge to contact him. at least for the next ten minutes (while I'm angry) I'm glad he got away.
sedgwick Posted October 24, 2007 Posted October 24, 2007 Whoa!! This guy is bad news. I feel so sad for what he's teaching his son. And he's now with the woman he was making fun of? I hope you recognize he has some serious issues that have nothing to do with you! And what's with the deodorant thing? My ex didn't wear it either, and I was always like, uh, you stink. If somebody told me that even once I would be totally mortified; it didn't seem to bother him. I mean, can you imagine if the person you were with told you they couldn't snuggle with you until you washed your pits? Wouldn't you be SO embarrassed?!?
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