Beatnik Posted October 24, 2007 Posted October 24, 2007 I don't know what it has been for me lately. For the past probably year and a half I have not been dating, been trying to focus on myself and ironing out some things in my own life that needed fixing, but now I'm ready to date again...however I haven't met a single person in the last year and a half I was even remotely interested in going on a date with. Whereas in my younger days I had crushes all the time, now its none. I always seem to find some quality about the girl that makes me lose interest. It could be be shallow, being unintelligent, being too shy, talking too much, etc etc. Is this a common phase I need to get over or what?
birdie Posted October 24, 2007 Posted October 24, 2007 you get more discerning when you get older. you also realise that it's not a competition and if you don't feel like dating, there is no reason why you should. I wouldn't worry about it. make sure you keep meeting people and that you make an effort to find out what they are like rather than just dismiss them off hand. you'll be more open when you are ready and it's the right person
compassion42 Posted October 24, 2007 Posted October 24, 2007 I agree with Birdie, being more selective is not a bad thing. Just try to keep an open mind and next thing you know, someone special with come into your life.
Author Beatnik Posted October 24, 2007 Author Posted October 24, 2007 Birdie your right, I shouldn't dismiss girls right off hand and I should give them a chance. After all it takes a while for someone to open up to you. And most of my girlfriends have been coworkers that I didn't feel attracted to until I had known them for a while. Thanks
Kamille Posted October 24, 2007 Posted October 24, 2007 Funny, the opposite happened to me. As I grow older I seem to have crushes on more people - which has greatly opened up the pool of dating. Finding someone I am ready to invest in a relationship with is harder though. Which makes me wonder if maybe you aren't putting the cart before the horse. Are you looking to date or are you looking for a relationship? Maybe the fact that you are looking for a relationship is raising the bar too high for potential dates. Start with a night out having fun. I dated for 2 years before I finally met someone who had potential. But throughout the 2 years I had a great time and met a lot of great guys.
jcster Posted October 24, 2007 Posted October 24, 2007 It might just be that you're not ready yet. Just because you've decided that enough time has passed by your head's reckoning, your heart may not be on the same page. I agree with the other posters here and think that you should just keep taking the opportunity to get to know more people. It will happen when it happens.
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