FooledOnce Posted October 24, 2007 Posted October 24, 2007 Three days in a row I've woken up dreaming about her. The dreams have been sexual in a 'fun sex' kind of way. This morning, I rolled over to wake her and tell her about the dream and, of course, she wasn't there What a terrible way to start a new day!
birdie Posted October 24, 2007 Posted October 24, 2007 it is probably what I hate most about breaking up. awful to wake up in the morning like that and it comes back to you in about 2 seconds. horrible
lexi29 Posted October 24, 2007 Posted October 24, 2007 Yeah, have dreams about him almost every night- the last two nights no dreams so maybe I'm getting over him . Most of my dreams are about seeing him and his son and HER and trying to win him back or the three of us (ex, son and me) together like the old days when we were still dating and everything was great. Some have been dreams where I am having sex with him. Then you wake up and realize thats not your reality and its a big disapointment. The dreams are the worst part right now because I'm in NC and thats helping but when I dream about him it feels so real and seems like I've actually seen and talked to him and makes me miss him all over again.
MattyTee Posted October 24, 2007 Posted October 24, 2007 Oh the dreams!! I've actually not had a dream about her in a while now, but whenever I did I felt like I'd been winded when I woke. My friend said the other day that when you first wake in the morning the reality of your life hits you full force. We all put up walls to protect ourselves from the hurt in our daily existence but when you wake they aren't there. *shudder* The worst times for me are first thing in the morning and last thing at night.
niceguy27 Posted October 24, 2007 Posted October 24, 2007 Same for me. Beginning and end of day are worst. My dreams of her are normally fun and nostalgic. Those ones make me miss her even more
MartianChronicles Posted October 24, 2007 Posted October 24, 2007 right after the breakup i dreamed of my ex every night. nothing sexual. we would just hang out with friends, ride his motorbike, do the things we used to do together... a month or so later the dreams stopped or at least i stopped having those dreams every night. the last time i heard from him (a text which i didn't reply) my ex wrote he kept dreaming about me at night, and in his dreams we were having sex.
Author FooledOnce Posted October 26, 2007 Author Posted October 26, 2007 Thanks everybody. Dreams. They come from deep inside. I can be hurt, be angry, be busy and distracted, but there's no defense for one's own soul. It's like my sub-conscience is saying 'hey, where is she?' On the other side, she told me she's been having dreams about me (i didn't tell her i was dreaming of her too). In her dream yesterday, it was her wedding day and everything was going wrong. She was stressed and upset. Then she walked down the aisle and saw that I was the one waiting for her and she felt happy and calm. She woke up and cried. I didn't offer any analysis, but changed the subject pretty quick. I'm glad I'm not the only one being tortured by my own mind.
marlena Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 Traumatic events do that! They get into your subconscious mind and stick like glue. It comes out in dreams and in that split second of awakening when the conscius mind bam hits you like a ton of bricks and the anguish is overwhelming. I dreamt of my ex - husband for one consecutive year. I still dream of my parents esp. of my mother almost every day. They died three years ago and it was a loss I still can't come to terms with. My dreams are nightmares..even worse. I have a friend who never dreams or just doesn't remember her dreams. I am tortured almost every night. It's tortuous I know. In time the frequency lessens.
baby-boo Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 i have dreams that we get back together, it feels amazing even tho im asleep, but when i wake up, it feels awful...
lost4ever Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 I woke up in the middle of the night last night punching my pillow- i was having dreams about dreaming about him, I was so mad at myself...evey night before I go to bed I tell myself think of something else you you don't dream of him...it never works...now my subconscious mind even tells me not to dream of him, but I still do, I'm really getting tired of my own feelings and wish they would stop, getting to the point where I'm getting tired of feeling this way
Bosiell Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 Waking up from the dreams is the hardest thing to take. There is no worse feeling. It has happend to me many many times. Not just of my previous gf but of just being with someone at all, then waking up to the quiet lonliness of the early morning. It hurts like hell. These dreams go on when I close my eyes Every second of the night I live another life... Heart
baby-boo Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 Waking up from the dreams is the hardest thing to take. There is no worse feeling. It has happend to me many many times. Not just of my previous gf but of just being with someone at all, then waking up to the quiet lonliness of the early morning. It hurts like hell. These dreams go on when I close my eyes Every second of the night I live another life... Heart tell me about it
EnigmaXOXO Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 Twice this past year, I dreamt of waking up next to my ex husband. Noooooooooooooo! ... I want my OTHER life back!! And yep, the panic and heart palpitations woke me up (for real) and I was relieved to discover I hadn’t died in my sleep and gone to H*ll. Of course, there is this other reoccurring dream having to do with my morbid fear of dirty public restrooms, but I’ll spare you that one since I gather this is supposed to be a serious thread.
MattyTee Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 I woke up this morning with that same feeling - that sort of deep twist in the stomach when you realise what has happened ... again!
Unseenchange Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 Dreams- hmm only for about four weeks straight! The strangest of all things was I would wake up bathed in sweat regardless of what kind of dreams they were. The absolute worst of all.... the mid sleep reach! You know when you are completely asleep and subconsciously you believe they are next to you, so you reach out to spoon/hug them.. and bam! A hand full of bed! That has to be one of the worst ways to wake up. Either that or the Alarm going off and only "your song" is playing... egh..
MattyTee Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 Been there Worst one for me was waking up and my arm reaching out and finding her teddy bear she left with me - at first I was like "Hmm, she's hairier than I remember" ...
joekurtz Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 Oh the dreams!! I've actually not had a dream about her in a while now, but whenever I did I felt like I'd been winded when I woke. My friend said the other day that when you first wake in the morning the reality of your life hits you full force. We all put up walls to protect ourselves from the hurt in our daily existence but when you wake they aren't there. *shudder* The worst times for me are first thing in the morning and last thing at night. Nice work. Couldn't have said it any better myself if I'd worked on it all day. I've been plagued by dreams of my wife for pretty much the entirety of our separation which is at 3+ years now. And, even though on the surface I've come to deal with our split & her relationships with other men, it's during the night, in my dreams, that I think I'm forced to deal with much of the sense of loss, the anger & the frustration of it all. And, it's during those wee hours when I awake in a cold sweat, with my heart racing & I'm enveloped in a crushing feeling of loneliness & emptiness, THAT'S when I'm faced with what I'm REALLY feeling inside. Those are the raw emotions that I subconsciously stifle to the best of my ability just to get through the day. Know what I mean? And the intensity of those feelings never cease to shock me. The level of pain never ceases to take my breath away. Until I either fall back to sleep or I fully awaken & those protective barriers come sliding down into place to act as a buffer between my broken heart & my every day existence.
marlena Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 Joe, Your description just took my breath away!!! When does IT stop?
joekurtz Posted October 27, 2007 Posted October 27, 2007 Joe, Your description just took my breath away!!! When does IT stop? God, I wish I knew. Believe me, I wish I knew. In my case it's not that I dream about her every night. Or even every other night ( though that was about the pace that my dreams took early on in our separation ... ), these days my nocturnal heartbreaks occur maybe once a week or so. Which is more than often enough, that's for sure.
pinktiger Posted October 27, 2007 Posted October 27, 2007 I dream about him every night. I cry every night. It is hell...
MattyTee Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 I'm sorry to hear of your pain Pink. Keep posting here, even at odd hours (it's 1.40am here now!), I'm sure it will help. How long have you been broken up?
pinktiger Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 Weekend is tougher than week days for me. I almost think about him every single minute...I don't want to eat, I don't want to talk to anyone and I don't want to do anything but just crying... On the Friday before, everything seemed fine, he was so sweet to me... I did not see him on that weekend because I had to take a business trip, then Monday, he decided to break up with me... I thought he would have missed me since he did not see me for two day. I did not know he was making up his mind to break up with me. I did not know while he was sending me those kiss text messages, he was planning how to break the news to me. I did not know when I spent 4 hours on buying him a gift, he was preparing the speech...I did not know... For the past two weekends, I cried. I wanted to ask him why he had done those to me. He told me he could not break up with me over the phone, so he decided to do it face to face like a gentleman... what kind of crap is that? There are too many unknowns, but I have no interest to confront him. It is whatever it is. friends or no friends, deep in my heart, there is a wound would never heal...
daisydo Posted October 28, 2007 Posted October 28, 2007 It has been a year since our break up and I still have dreams about him. They are always about being rejected by him. They are always me realizing he is with someone else. In the last one.. he was forcing me to leave our old apartment (which is actually what happened).. I am frantically packing all my belongings.. then I go outside with my bags and realize I have no one to call.. No one cares that he has kicked me out on the streets.. I have no where to go. Luckily it didn't happen exactly like that - but it seems the dreams are rehashing the last few months of our relationship.. when things got really bad. Often times I wake up and I am relieved that I don't have to deal with that level of stress anymore. But it still hurts.. the memories brought up hurt.
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