badnewsbeers Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 I'm a uni student, so my life pretty well revolves around school (engineering) and homework. My friends and I also get out partying and stuff. Unfortunately this means I have a lot of time to sit in my room while I 'work', and it's impossible to get her out of my head. She's the first person I've ever loved and it feels like I'll never find anyone half as good. I've been meeting people (it's been a month), but nobody seems to compare. I'm past the initial shock bit, where suddenly it feels like you just collapse inside, but I now and then I just get so sad, and I'm feeling a pretty constant level of sadness overall. Can anyone help? We were together for a year, and it was a very intense year. I'm so upset..
brothermartin Posted October 24, 2007 Posted October 24, 2007 Heres some advice: Give yourself more time. A month is'nt enough time to get over some one, espesially if there was real love involved. And stop comparing other people to her. Put yourself on the other side of this. If you met a girl that had just broke-up with her boyfriend, would you want her to compare YOU to him?
Author badnewsbeers Posted October 24, 2007 Author Posted October 24, 2007 Hmm, good point. I guess it's a mental switch I need to make, it's just very easy to fall back into the trap and despair. I'm a pretty impatient person as well, so I'm having a hard time imagining how long this is going to take.
Ormolu611 Posted October 24, 2007 Posted October 24, 2007 Okay, here is the thing. Getting over someone is going to be hard. Sometimes I think that it is easier to just accept that. There are techniques such as staying busy, delving into hobbies, and meeting new people. These things help, but it will still be hard. You are not alone, I mean look at all of the other people on this site who are in pain. Look at all of the countless songs about lost love and heartache. It is a necessary part of life I think, sooner or later. Having said all of that, when I was having a hard time, I would just try to accept the fact that I was feeling crappy. Know that it will pass. It WILL pass. Just hold on with all of your might until you get there.
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