unfocused1 Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 I Need To Either Catch My Wife Cheating Or Let It Go And Trust Her. I Am Afraid I Cant Ignore My Gut Feelings. I Can Deal With It If I Know That She Will Stop. I Need To Know.these Thoughts Are Eating Me Alive.i Cannot Work Or Sleep.please Advise.
Cobra_X30 Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 I Need To Either Catch My Wife Cheating Or Let It Go And Trust Her. I Am Afraid I Cant Ignore My Gut Feelings. I Can Deal With It If I Know That She Will Stop. I Need To Know.these Thoughts Are Eating Me Alive.i Cannot Work Or Sleep.please Advise. Whats the situation? Why do you think she is cheating? What signs do you have?
Author unfocused1 Posted October 24, 2007 Author Posted October 24, 2007 working late (she never used to). new hair color.new clothes .unaccounted for time. sudden trips to store. has drinks after work with co workers(also new behavior).seems distant.no longer cares about things that are not done,when usually she would worry about everything.no sex for along time , then new behavior in bed she has never done before.i know i am now hyper aware of every little thing, but something has changed . this damned internet has alot of information on it. i hope to help my marriage, not ruin it . i could go on and on with examples . i dont want to make things worse by my behavior.
norajane Posted October 24, 2007 Posted October 24, 2007 If you really want to know what she's up to, hire a private investigator. You can also check her cell phone bills for numbers she calls frequently...too frequently. Or if you have access to her phone, you can check her calls and her texts. If you have access to her email and password, you can look there for clues or evidence of cheating. I believe there is keylogger software you can install on a computer that will capture every keystroke - including passwords and correspondence.
troutie jr Posted October 24, 2007 Posted October 24, 2007 working late (she never used to). new hair color.new clothes .unaccounted for time. sudden trips to store. has drinks after work with co workers(also new behavior).seems distant.no longer cares about things that are not done,when usually she would worry about everything.no sex for along time , then new behavior in bed she has never done before.i know i am now hyper aware of every little thing, but something has changed . this damned internet has alot of information on it. i hope to help my marriage, not ruin it . i could go on and on with examples . i dont want to make things worse by my behavior. Ask her! If you sense denial, then TELL her you will hire an Investigator and see what kind of reaction you get from her. You just may get a tall tale sign. Nothing like having someone more paranoid from their already cheating mind. She'll be looking over her shoulder all the time and it will drive her crazy!
Author unfocused1 Posted October 24, 2007 Author Posted October 24, 2007 she knows better than to use her cell(i pay the bill). she would never use our home computer to correspond. i suspect that she does her communication from work phone and pay phone.the worst thing is i am starting to notice that she and my friend are asking about each other and i think that things are said that one of them would not know if i did not tell them about the other.im not really sure, i never would have in a million years ever thought about her and him. i have always known he was screwing somebody elses wife , but i dont really know them,so i never bring him around her. they would not ever have any social contact.it seems ahuge stretch they would get together.
Batman7 Posted October 24, 2007 Posted October 24, 2007 Listen, I've had that gut feeling for 15 years now. Like you, I have felt that horrible feeling and knowing in my heart my wife cheated. You can read my post from several months ago to see my story. Bottom line is my wife has lied about her infidelity for years. I'm not an insecure person or prone to conspiracy theories. There were facts, and then there were blatant lies, as well as obvious things she couldn't cover up. I have stayed in this horrible marriage for my children, my choice and it won't change. Never hearing the truth hurts as much today as it did 15 years ago.
Author unfocused1 Posted October 24, 2007 Author Posted October 24, 2007 we have been doing alot of talking about the situation over the past several weeks. she swears that she never has and never would be unfaithful. i have noticed that she is coming home earlier , and not dissapearing on evenings and weekends. however i have the feeling that she is just grateful that i gave her warning before i caught her.maybe she thinks she can just act as if it never was.everything i read tells me that once people start to lie and betray it is only a matter of time before it happens again.i think im going to try to believe her,but i will pay closer attention to all things.i think i was living with blinders on for a long time.
jay6382 Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 I know the feeling man. Question things they've done that your gut and heart tells you that its true and they lie about it. I am going through that now. It sucks really bad. I feel that if they've done it once, they will do it again. Maybe not any time soon but eventually it will happen again. If their conscience didn't stop them the first time it never will.
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