sedgwick Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 So it's like this. I met my ex, the bass addict, the old-time musician with the beard (that was our joke -- the old-time musician with the beard and the tribal bellydancer with tattoos and dreadlocks -- the joke being that that could describe pretty much anyone in those two fields, y'know, kinda like the tattoo artist with the shaved head and big earlobes) because I love banjo music. It wasn't the other way around. I met him because I was looking for someone to teach me to play, as it's always been something I wanted to do. What happened was that I went to an old-time night at a restaurant, and I was with my best friend, and I saw the ex for the first time and said to my friend, "That's my husband." It wasn't so much that I thought he was all studly or anything; in fact, my friend said, "You mean the garden rake with the bass?" I've never felt such a strong conviction in my life -- I took one look at him and was like, I'm gonna marry that guy. Well, obviously I was WROOOOONNNNG, in a big way. And one of the things that made me the saddest was that when he left I couldn't listen to old-time music without crying. Just couldn't. I LOVE the way he plays, still do, but I have to reclaim that music for myself. I quit banjo lessons when I got asked to join a dance company, but then I got kicked out of the dance company for deciding to run off to Mexico for 7 weeks to write my book and forget my ex (seriously, the artistic director emailed me last week, said I'd been gone too long, and kicked me out. Even though she knew how long I was leaving for. She's a bit wack, that one.) I was really devastated about that for a few days, but then I thought, what the hell, I can do whatever I want now. I can dance with other teachers. I'm still in one other dance company (and I like that one better anyway.) I can go back to banjo lessons. But I really wrestled with whether I wanted to go back for the right reasons -- after all, he DID break up with me because I'm not a musician. So I researched some teachers online, found one, and set up a lesson. The guy seems really cool. He's an old-time musician with a beard, go figure. (And no I'm not after him. He's a grizzled old mountain man -- not the best boyfriend material, but awesome if ya wanna learn the banjo.) Somehow, this has totally strengthened my resolve not to unblock my ex's email or phone number once I get home. I doubt he's thinking of me anyway. I'd like to think that when your last conversation with someone entails them telling you they love you unconditionally, while crying for the 90 millionth time over the way you've treated them, you might think of them and feel like a real a$$ from time to time, but I can't allow myself to entertain those fantasies. My ex (not the musician, another one with whom I am great friends) told me the other night that I was the most amazing person he knew, and I asked why, and he said, "Because you actually do all the things the rest of us don't have the guts to do. I mean, please, you're talking to me from the jungle." Heh...I still feel every day like the ex (the musician) thinks I'm a pathetic loser, and I still feel embarrassed about that, but at least I'm taking back the music I like and I'm learning to play and it has NOTHING to do with him. I don't even want him to know.
Spinderella Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 Just be careful, you know how playing an instrument drastically reduces the number of suitable potential partners for you.
Crestfallen_KH Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 "Just be careful, you know how playing an instrument drastically reduces the number of suitable potential partners for you." Oh no! I was thinking about finding someone to teach me guitar! Then, I was going to write some sad, yet uplifting songs concerning my breakup. And then, if I got good enough, I was going to try the coffee club circuit and... Yeah, ok, I see your point...
Author sedgwick Posted October 23, 2007 Author Posted October 23, 2007 Ha ha ha Spin...I'll certainly keep in mind the fact that once I'm a musician I'll be way too awesome for myself.
carrotgirl Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 So it's like this. ...... I'm taking back the music I like and I'm learning to play Sorry Sed. I didn't hear anything else. I was enraptured... http://video.google.com/googleplayer.swf?docId=-4924085173349496686&hl=en Carrot
JosieMcCoy Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 A banjo is an American invented instrument! One of the few!!! Cheers!
Author sedgwick Posted October 23, 2007 Author Posted October 23, 2007 HA HA HA HA HA Carrot.... THEM'S MAH PEEPS! Now, if you'll excuse me, I've got some critters to wrassle and some macaroni and cheese with ketchup to eat.
carrotgirl Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 A banjo is an American invented instrument! MuaaHAAhaa. Sed! I think Josie's on to something. You should learn to play ALL of the Amurrican invented musical instruments. Just think how you'll impress the ex when he sees you go house on a frottoir!
Author sedgwick Posted October 23, 2007 Author Posted October 23, 2007 *pulls out kazoo and prepares to initiate zeitgeist*
brothermartin Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 Play that funky music white girl! When yous git famous, I want yer autograph!
Author sedgwick Posted October 24, 2007 Author Posted October 24, 2007 Too bad I cain't write. *Goes to outhouse to brush tooth*
carrotgirl Posted October 24, 2007 Posted October 24, 2007 *Goes to outhouse to brush tooth* City Girl Outs Herself, Eschews Corncobs Sed, no one in her right mind goes to outhouse to brush, um, anything.
brothermartin Posted October 24, 2007 Posted October 24, 2007 :lmao: Thanks Ladies! I needed that. "Gose to outhouse to brush tooth" :lmao::lmao::lmao:OHDAMN!!:lmao::lmao:
Author sedgwick Posted October 24, 2007 Author Posted October 24, 2007 What has 13 legs and 9 teeth? A banjo convention. Thanks, here all week, enjoy the buffet.
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