Jasmine8719 Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 :rolleyes:Everythings great...I can't complain...my mom has always told me that nothings ever good enough for you...Is that how Im feeling?? My Boyfriend and our relationship is great we've been going out for over a year...We go out..he surprises me ...brings me flowers every now and then, we have GREAT communication, etc....He gives me plenty of attention he supports me in everyway, he tells me Im beautiful all the time... Why do I feel like something is wrong or why do I need him to confess to me how much he loves me and how he feels everyday when it's not neccessary..He tells me he loves me everyday of course, I feel like I panic when he misses a step...Like he usually calls me twice a day everyday... at work and before I go to sleep or if I see him at night... just at work...Yesterday he called me at work but didn't call me at night before I went to sleep (he works 12am-4am washington post) so he calls me...Today he hasn't called yet. Of course Im not going to bring it up to him because I know it's completely rediculous...I think it's because I feel like im in a long term relationship and don't know what's going to happen next....Also I graduated from Highschool in 06 and my friends and I kind of went our seperate ways...So he's pretty much who I hang out with and he has his own guy friends...I don't know i need advice before i push him away -Jasmine
Enema Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 A lot of young women feel the need to be constantly reassured by their partner. Mostly just an immature sense of self-worth. Most people grow out of that type of neediness, and your realization that it's ridiculous is a positive step. It's important to have your own life and friends so you're not totally reliant on your partner to fulfill your emotional needs. Get some friends and develop some interests that don't involve him, your relationship will be stronger for it.
jcster Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 It's important to have your own life and friends so you're not totally reliant on your partner to fulfill your emotional needs. Amen. Right now you feel panicked because you've made this guy the centerpiece of your life. If something goes wrong with your relationship, the reasoning goes, then you will have "nothing." Definitely get out and make some friends!
I Luv the Chariot OH Posted October 24, 2007 Posted October 24, 2007 I mirror the sentiments of Enema and jcster. Your relationship sounds kind of obsessive. There is a big difference between depending on someone because you have low self esteem and actual love.
Author Jasmine8719 Posted October 24, 2007 Author Posted October 24, 2007 I know I promise you i actually love him...I know the diffrence....I now know that I need my own time and space like he has his...and I hope I get out of this immature stage realy soon...thanks yall
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