plainoldjared Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 What is the appropriate amount of time that I should wait to call her so that we can "talk?" She must know that Ive been depressed and staring at my phone all weekend but I dont want to confirm it, not because Im playing games but because I just dont want to come off pathetic.
yippkiyay Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 I nthink I'm gonna need alitlle more background definatly not today though.
Author plainoldjared Posted October 23, 2007 Author Posted October 23, 2007 I nthink I'm gonna need alitlle more background definatly not today though. Ive posted a couple times, basically we were supposed to hang out on Sunday and she lied to me about where she was (she says she had no reason to lie she just did). She told me to wait till Saturday so we could talk it over and she could explain why she lied. She called me Saturday and said she was too tired to talk, so I figured she was blowing me off or trying to get me to break up with her so I called my friends to go out. We got into an arguement because she called me 5hours later and asked if I still wanted to go out after she told me she was too tired to see me. I said "No Im already out" this is when she says that she loves me but is tired of me always being busy and she also said that I care about my friends more than her. So she flipped the situation from her lying to me to me being too busy and preferring my friends over her. Sunday I didnt talk to her she didnt talk to me and yesterday she sent me a message saying "Hi" so I wrote back "Hi" she didnt respond so this morning I sent "Hi" again and she called me this afternoon. Her arguement that Im always busy is bs because she knew that I had started and ended a project that required me 7days a week and that it was my 1st time in months going out with my friends and not bringing her. I think she just threw that out there because really I didnt do anything wrong and she still needs to explain why she lied
smalltownsingle Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 Well Im a girl and I'd say call her now... I dont think there are any "rules" for a guy when it comes to calling a girl... just dont call her more than once a day and dont talk for more than 20 min. But I dont know what you mean... to "talk". If your depressed, I think you should not call her at all... who wants to talk to a depressed guy. Do whatever you have to do to get in a good mood and when you feel better, then you'll have a better chance of her liking you.... then you can call her and go on a date or whatever. aaaaah sorry ,... looks like we posted at the same time... I didnt have the details before I wrote this.... anyway... good luck.
Author plainoldjared Posted October 23, 2007 Author Posted October 23, 2007 Well Im a girl and I'd say call her now... I dont think there are any "rules" for a guy when it comes to calling a girl... just dont call her more than once a day and dont talk for more than 20 min. But I dont know what you mean... to "talk". If your depressed, I think you should not call her at all... who wants to talk to a depressed guy. Do whatever you have to do to get in a good mood and when you feel better, then you'll have a better chance of her liking you.... then you can call her and go on a date or whatever. aaaaah sorry ,... looks like we posted at the same time... I didnt have the details before I wrote this.... anyway... good luck. Thanks, I appreciate a girls point of view. That was my worry, she lied to me so Im upset and I still dont know why she lied so all those thoughts are bothering me too. I want to talk to her I love her, but I dont want to come off the wrong way and have the conversation go from her explaining why she lied, to me being upset... I feel like she is the one that messed up but she is controlling the situation to the point where I have to be careful of what I say and how I say it so that she doesnt get too upset and Im stuck wondering why she lied to me... I know shes taking advantage of the fact that I love her and care for her but not intentionally
brothermartin Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 Yeah, it sounds like your girl is trying her hand at a little thing called "emotional manipulation". She lied to you. She admitted she lied. If you want to "talk" to her, it's gonna be a confrontation no matter what. I suggest you not go into it feeling like you did something wrong, because it sounds like did'nt. And this thing about turning the whole thing around to make you feel like the one that messed up? Thats her way of not taking responsebility for her actions. Dont try to make her, but dont take the blame for her either.
Author plainoldjared Posted October 23, 2007 Author Posted October 23, 2007 Yeah, it sounds like your girl is trying her hand at a little thing called "emotional manipulation". She lied to you. She admitted she lied. If you want to "talk" to her, it's gonna be a confrontation no matter what. I suggest you not go into it feeling like you did something wrong, because it sounds like did'nt. And this thing about turning the whole thing around to make you feel like the one that messed up? Thats her way of not taking responsebility for her actions. Dont try to make her, but dont take the blame for her either. Thanks brother, shes good at flippin it. Shes great in so many ways but yea I guess the worst is I'll never know what she did... Im shocked I just would never have imagined she'd be this way.
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