Msblueyes Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 How do I stop this? I am so freaking pissed off. So Po'd I just told him never to call me again in my life..then had to call back to say sorry but there needs to be some boundries. Call me later. Never in my life had I had to deal with anything like this. Haven't even spoken since Sunday. Am I nuts or what?
Diplok Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 If he is disrespecting in such a way, why would you even want to speak to this person? Don't call him, ever, ever in your life. If he goes north, you go south. He is telling others your intimate things because he does not respect you, and you can't expect him to. After all that you call him and after telling him to never call you again you say "sorry" to him? You are letting this person walk all over you.
Author Msblueyes Posted October 23, 2007 Author Posted October 23, 2007 If he is disrespecting in such a way, why would you even want to speak to this person? Don't call him, ever, ever in your life. If he goes north, you go south. He is telling others your intimate things because he does not respect you, and you can't expect him to. After all that you call him and after telling him to never call you again you say "sorry" to him? You are letting this person walk all over you. Obviously, he called at work, I couldn't even talk & was trying to tell him not to speak to my friends, who he's met through me. That's all. Then, oh heck, just wanted to explain why as I had to hang up. That's all. But, I hear you. He called me. I did not call him first.
mav100 Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 I suppose you should be upset dependant on what those "intimate things" are. If they are things that are truly private, like talking about a chronic illness or something that you don't disclose to most others, then yes, it's more than appropriate to be upset. On the other hand, there are times where what people would consider to be intimate things that really aren't, such as if there was cheating involved and if someone asked why the breakup occurred and he responded with an honest answer. Situations like that are not something one should expect privacy on. In other words, if it truly is something personal, then by all means, he is out of line. If it's something that you did that will damage your reputation, then you need to realize that you caused it and have no one to blame but yourself and you have no right to expect he will cover it up. Not saying you are to blame, just discussing both sides of the coin since you didn't say what he was discussing other than something "intimate".
Spinderella Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 How do I stop this? I am so freaking pissed off. So Po'd I just told him never to call me again in my life..then had to call back to say sorry but there needs to be some boundries. Call me later. Never in my life had I had to deal with anything like this. Haven't even spoken since Sunday. Am I nuts or what? Yes, you are acting nuts by telling him to call back later. If they are good friends of yours they will not listen to him, or put him in his place, if not, it doesnt matter. Let me guess, these are your girlfriends, the same ones he tried to hit on while he was still with you? And he is telling them intimate details, to what? impress them?! Please, stop talking to him, the relationship may be over, but you are still reprimanding him like a child. You shouldnt have to, and I wouldnt waste my breath if I were you.
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