abct Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 So last weekend, I was hanging out with this girl from my dorm - two nights in a row - and we seemed to be having a really good time. Good conversation and everything. I felt that she was giving off a positive vibe, so I asked her out for coffee this weekend that just went by because last week was really busy for me. So this Sunday, we get coffee and have a great time (or at least I did). No awkward pauses or anything - getting to know each other - just general stuff. I felt the positive vibe again, she's laughing, I'm laughing...I was my natural self, not trying to be someone else or anything, perfectly at ease. Anyway, here's the deal: she seems to be avoiding me. Also, she's hanging out with this other guy we live with a LOT (and I'm not the jealous guy with a crush on her, though it may seem that way - they really do hang out a lot), but it's hard to tell if they're dating. I can't figure out what the deal is - one part of me says she's not interested as I feel that I made my intentions pretty clear and that I should give up since she's clearly more interested in this other guy. The other more hopeful part of me says that maybe she's just shy or something. With that in mind, I've been thinking of asking her out on an "official date" (just so it's crystal clear that I like her) if she's not dating the other guy. Am I way off base here? She seems like a decent girl, not the kind who would play hard-to-get, but this is like the third girl I asked out, so what do I know, eh. Opinions would be appreciated. Thanks, Rick
Author abct Posted October 23, 2007 Author Posted October 23, 2007 Bump. Any opinions would be appreciated. Thanks
Author abct Posted October 24, 2007 Author Posted October 24, 2007 Come on, guys. Help would be appreciated. Thanks
woodsfield Posted October 24, 2007 Posted October 24, 2007 not off base at all. if she ain't seeing this guy.... it sounds like she may have a thing for him and see you as just a friend; you can change that...ONLY you can change that. go after her, if you want her. women like that. i'm an idiot with women so you may not want to listen to me. Godspeed, young Romeo.
Author abct Posted October 28, 2007 Author Posted October 28, 2007 So a friend of mine saw them kissing a couple of days ago, and the guy running his hand through her hair...guess it wasn't meant to be. I'm sort of glad that I didn't lay myself out and ask her... Thanks for the advice though.
MsArtful Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 Perhaps do a bit of asking about to see if they're dating. That can't hurt. If they're not, go for it I say. I think the whole asking her on a date to make your intentions clear is a good idea.
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