daZed&confUsed005 Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 okay so i have this one friend and she is the most amazing girl ihave ever known. the only problem is she has a bf. i didn't wanna come in between them so i just kept my feelings to myself. i wasn't myself for a couple of dayz and so she asked me wants wrong. i tried to make up a story but eventually she put the pieces together and figured out that i like her. we are still friends but ofcourse i want more. i think if i could do things with other chicks and make her jealous maybe then she might do something to indicate whether she likes me or not. but i don't know how to do it. i don't want to cross the line with other chicks and make her feel like i am a playe, which by the way she hates in men wat should i do??
Lyssa Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 If I were you, I'd not do anything. Especially to make her jealous. Don't you think that's immature? Imagine if she found out that you made all those girls up, she's gonna think you're pathetic.
Lunar Sonata Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 When you talk to her, never acknowledge her boyfriend or be so obvious that you want to talk about something else when she talks about her boyfriend. Be more successful and cooler than her current boyfriend. That will make her doubt her love for him. You know you're making progress if you talk to her and she talks about her boyfriend more and more to you (face to face). She's trying to rationalize herself in thinking she's got a great boyfriend in the face of somebody that is leaps and bounds better (that's you). Go get her, tiger!
Author daZed&confUsed005 Posted October 24, 2007 Author Posted October 24, 2007 When you talk to her, never acknowledge her boyfriend or be so obvious that you want to talk about something else when she talks about her boyfriend. Be more successful and cooler than her current boyfriend. That will make her doubt her love for him. You know you're making progress if you talk to her and she talks about her boyfriend more and more to you (face to face). She's trying to rationalize herself in thinking she's got a great boyfriend in the face of somebody that is leaps and bounds better (that's you). Go get her, tiger! thanks for the advice but it just got better for me today out of the blue she told me something happened..i asked and she said that she had broke up with her boyfriend..deep down inside i was like yupeeee . but now i am not sure if i should ask her out ofcourse in a special way or should i give her time??
Trojan John Posted October 24, 2007 Posted October 24, 2007 Give her time and leave her alone, or prepare to start calling yourself "ReboundBoy".
Author daZed&confUsed005 Posted October 24, 2007 Author Posted October 24, 2007 Give her time and leave her alone, or prepare to start calling yourself "ReboundBoy". i agree with you 100%. i should give her some time, but i am just worried that what if in that time someone else takes their shot ..how long do you think i should wait??
KaleyQ Posted October 24, 2007 Posted October 24, 2007 Don't do that. It will ruin the situation. let it play out and if it's meant to be, it will happen. Keep your friendship strong with her, don't break it!
Author daZed&confUsed005 Posted October 25, 2007 Author Posted October 25, 2007 Don't do that. It will ruin the situation. let it play out and if it's meant to be, it will happen. Keep your friendship strong with her, don't break it! yea i understand..but wats driving me nuts is dat she know i like her and she is the one who brought the topic up outta thin air..i think she might have wanted me to know..besides i have stopped believing in the meant to be stuff..i think one should take the opportunity when it arises..as far as friendship goes we've remained good friends even after she found out..she's pretty cool like that
Jack Africa Posted October 25, 2007 Posted October 25, 2007 Don't do that. It will ruin the situation. let it play out and if it's meant to be, it will happen. Keep your friendship strong with her, don't break it! You are REBOUND GUY- your job will be ( from her POV) to hold up and repair what is left of her ego. She is vulnerable and will be second guessing her breakup. When she feels better and more stable and is over the worst of her hurt she will date a few other guys while you watch and wonder why she is not grateful, and does not want to sleep with you.. She will have sex with a few guys and then get into an LTR with the baddest of them.. You then get pushed back into the friendzone. This is what chicks do these days - Get a g/f of your own coz this one ain't goona be yours./
Author daZed&confUsed005 Posted October 26, 2007 Author Posted October 26, 2007 You are REBOUND GUY- your job will be ( from her POV) to hold up and repair what is left of her ego. She is vulnerable and will be second guessing her breakup. When she feels better and more stable and is over the worst of her hurt she will date a few other guys while you watch and wonder why she is not grateful, and does not want to sleep with you.. She will have sex with a few guys and then get into an LTR with the baddest of them.. You then get pushed back into the friendzone. This is what chicks do these days - Get a g/f of your own coz this one ain't goona be yours./ aww come on man..don't be like that..besides i tried that but i just can't get her outta my head..she hasn't had sex yet doesn't want to until she gets married..but thats not the reason why i want to go out with her..i actually like a girl for once and want to miss any opportunity like i already have.. i am thinking about asking her out this weekend or something..tell me if you guys think thats a good idea or not..and if any suggestions as to how i should do it???
Replicant Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 Are you prepared to drive a wedge in your friendship over this one girl? That said you can't be that good of a friend if you are being invasive on his girl.
xfess Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 Jack Africa is 100% right. I would love to be optimistic for you daZed&confUsed005 and think there is a chance..... but trying to get into a relationship with this girl after her breakup is a very big risk and the chance for success is...well lets say you'd have a better chance of seeing the Rams win the Super Bowl this year. If you want to roll the dice on this one its your choice but you can risk your relationship and friendship with her if it fails or have your heart broken when you come to the realization that you were a rebound guy. I just dated a girl last month who got out of a 3yr relationship. We got along fantastic and thought it would turn into a good thing. little did I know that all she wanted to do was just date guys and enjoy her freedom. I liked her alot and my problem was I got too attached and when I realized she didnt want a relationship, I felt like krap. -- the bright side was that she and I are friends now and talk a few times a week. The only advice I can give you is just be her best friend.....no more, no less --- DO NOT (I REPEAT) DO NOT ask her out on a date. You can ask her to hang out and do things AS FRIENDS but do not get emotionally involved at this time. If you push her with these feelings then she will back away and its game over. let her take her time, dont pressure her and get over the ex.
monkey5 Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 never make a girl jealous. it's stupid and it makes you look immature. women can see right through those kinds of acts. she has a boyfriend who she obviously cares about, since she mentions him to you. Maybe you should start seeing other people.
Author daZed&confUsed005 Posted October 27, 2007 Author Posted October 27, 2007 never make a girl jealous. it's stupid and it makes you look immature. women can see right through those kinds of acts. she has a boyfriend who she obviously cares about, since she mentions him to you. Maybe you should start seeing other people. i understand that but now they have broken up because he is like 5 years older than her..i did try to date other chicks but its not the same man..oh well i think i am gonna ask her out in a very special way and am pretty sure she will say yes..
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