banana_pancakes Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 Hey everyone, I had been with my ex bf for about a year and I found out I would be moving away for a postgrad program, we decided to stay together but I was really hesitant because I had tried the ldr before and even though we loved each other it was too difficult. I broke up with him on a recent visit to see him after a long night of drinking and I know it was really stupid but it was what I had been feeling. This whole situation has also made me think of my last ldr. It has been over three years but we are still in contact through email often and we ended our relationship on really good terms but we still don't live in the same city. I can't help but think that this breakup may have had something to do with me still being in love with the other ex bf. My most recent bf and I were very happy together though and I thought I had moved on, but as soon as it was long distance I couldn't help thinking it may not be worth it. I am so totally confused as to what to do?! I have apologized to the current ex because the way I broke up with him was not called for and I am not that kind of person, but even if he ever forgives me I don't know if I want it to work because of my last ldr - and why am I still thinking about my other ex after three years? We both do it, it is not just me and the breakup was totally mutual, we were just too young and it was 4 years apart which just didnt seem feasible - but this has just proven that I don't have it in me to do long distance.
magda Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 I don't think there is anything to be done. LDR is hard but not impossible but if you don't think you have enough there to keep you together through a year apart there's probably not enough there. Four years apart is too long... one year is difficult but doable. Don't go around thinking you're incapable of LDRs because it doesn't give you credit for knowing somewhere inside yourself that this ldr wasn't working for you. Regarding old ex you are thinking about now... if you are still in love with him that might have something to do with this. Sometimes after a breakup it's natural to start dragging up old dirt and think about past relationships but don't take it all too seriously just yet. Give yourself time to get used to this new single existence and the future before worrying about whether you should be with guy a or b. Nothing needs to be done now, certainly no jumping into other LDR's.
Recommended Posts