not sure if he likes me or not:( and don't know how to go about it!!

[justliketv]

okay..this is going to be a bit long but any advice would be really appreciated because i really don't know what to do!

 

well i lived in a shared uni house with this guy last year. he was having a long distance relationship when we first started uni and so was i. we'd both been with our boyfriend/girlfriend for two years. but i really fancied him as soon as i met him! my relationship quickly ended at about last xmas time but he was with his girlfriend the whole time we lived together. i did like him a lot but i just knew that he was off limits because he had a girlfriend and i respected that but i always had a thing for him and just thought he was like the most amazing person ever. we didn't really flirt with each other cos i'm not very good at that kind of thing. but we were good friends. i always felt really nervous around him though because i liked him.

 

i remember once we were all at the pub and i looked round for some reason and he was looking at me and my stomach just completley dropped and i felt well overwhelmed. he looked away and looked kind of sad i think. also once we were sat outside and he kept offering me his jacket cos it was cold,we were sat with another girl at the time (one that likes him!) and he didn't ask her & she looked really annoyed! when i broke up with my boyfriend and was upset he said not to worry cos i could have any guy i wanted. he always compliments me as well on my clothes and hair and stuff.

 

when we talk to each other we like..smile loads?and i can't stop smiling when i'm with him.

 

in the summer holidays he sent me a message on the internet saying that he was having a rubbish summer because he had broken up with his girlfriend. we text a few times over the summer and he said things like 'hey sweetheart' and 'xxx' on the end of texts when he'd only ever put one 'x' on the end before.and i said i missed him (well i wrote..'i miss you!&everyone' and he wrote 'i miss you too'

 

then when i came back to uni last month, i bumped into him randomly for the first time since before the summer at the pub and it all came flooding back to me how much i like him.(i hadn't really thought of him over the summer.i had been obsessing about a guy i had a bit of a fling with at uni.)he text me saying like 'how was the party' and i replied and said 'it was nice to see you' and he said 'it was lovely to see you.beautiful as ever.will have to come and see your house soon'

 

bumped into him after that at the su bar when he was drunk and the first thing he said was like 'do you have a boyfriend yet' and i was like 'no. do you have a girlfriend yet?'

about a week later he came over to our house (i live with other people that we lived with before so it wasn't just to see me) and when i heard his voice my stomach just flipped. i made myself look nice and when he turned up i saw him check me out a bit (haha) just sat chatting for the whole night with the girls i live with as well. i sat near him. and a few times we had eye contact. and he looked a bit like...you know when you look at someone you like and there's just something in their eyes and you can tell. like..just a look. i think he looked like that but i'm not completley sure.

 

when he went home i just felt really sad and i realised that i actually do like him LOADS. like really strongly. i've never felt this way before..not even about my ex that i was with for 2 years. i felt really emotional all that night and the next day. he's soo nice:( he just feels like family to me,not in a incest way..hehe..just in a nice way. i just feel like i know him. and i've always felt like that. and i feel like i trust him completley. because i've seen how he was with his ex (he's very anti-cheating). i just get a very good vibe off him! i just thinking he's amazing and lovely and also really fit!

 

but i never really see him much now that we don't live together and he never texts me:( it was a week ago since that night he came over and i text him once since just asking if he was going out that night and he didn't reply. but i know he has a pay as you go phone and might had no credit.

 

i don't know how to tell him how i feel:( or if i should. i don't feel very confident in myself at the moment because i've been hurt by someone else in the last year that i started to like and it's really knocked my confidence.i just feel as though..this boy is really out of my league. i think i'm quite pretty..not awful anyway. but he is amazingg. every girl i know likes him and i don't really feel like i would ever have a chance with him:( every time we go out there are girls throwing themselves at him (he doesn't do anything cos he's not that type and i know he's not been with anyone since he's ex) he's not amazingly good looking..but there's something about him.and he is just a lovely person so everyone likes him.

 

i was talking to a mutual friend and i said 'i'm sure he must know like him' and she said she really thinks he doesn't know that i do and that she can't tell that i do when i'm around him and that she thinks if he did know he'd be interested. but another friend makes me feel as though it's silly to like him and that he wouldn't ever like me (she's never actually said this but makes me feel that way)

 

i don't want to miss my chance and regret it:( but i don't want to put myself out there and him be like 'i just don't feel that way about you'

 

& i don't know if he'd be looking for something cos he's just out a relationship.

 

but i'm rubbish at flirting & i don't want to make a move on him and him be like 'what are you doing!' i don't really get the opportunity to see him much now. apart from when i randomly bump into him. but i keep thinking about him but i want to spend some time alone with him to see if there is something between us.but i don't really know how to go about asking him:(

surely if he was interested he'd be getting in touch with me? or maybe he just sees me as a friend? argh.

 

sorry to ramble on.

thankyou in advance for any replies:)

x x x x

[Beauty28]

Oh honey.... Your in love!! I've been there with a friend! He's married now though and sometimes I still love him (if that makes any sense because we are still friends). Anyhow... The thing that I've learned in life is that you will never know until you try and I think you should tell him how you feel instead of keeping it bottled up inside. And if he doesn't feel the same way atleast you will know and you can move on and get over it (whether it is remaining his friend or not seeing him again). Anyway good luck and I hope he feels the same way about you.

[jcster]

Look at it this way...if you take the chance and tell him that you like him and want to really get to know him - and he turns you down - you are exactly in the same place you are now...liking him from afar. But...if you take the chance and it works out - how much better off will you be?! Take the chance and talk to him. Stop suffering in silence and make something happen!