Beauty28 Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 OMG!! K... I had 1 incredible date with a guy who happens to play in the NFL and he seemed really nice. We both said we had a good time and then he goes outta town and comes back after a week and text me that he was thinking of me. Well.. I had some big projects going on for one of my college courses and I text him back hi and said made small talk for a minute then told him to text me the next day since I was in the middle of school work. Needless to say... he did not text me at all so I didn't get mad, I texted him that night and just keeped it light and said hi, how are you?... And no reply. So I figured he's probably busy... so then 2 days later I text him again with almost the same (hi, how are you?). And once again.... No Reply. That was nearly 3 days ago. I mean a simple "fine" would have been considerate but to just ignore me seems a-little immature. If he wasn't interested then why bother texting me after his trip? The only thing that comes to mind is that he thinks that I was blowing him off by telling him to text me tomorrow or maybe he is blowing ME off. Anyhow.... I just don't get it. I mean I didn't sleep with him or anything, and I do date other people when the mood strikes but I just thought that we had a good time and I had hoped to see him again but It just seems so odd. Can anyone offer any opinions?
yippkiyay Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 These guys are very busy and constantly traveling and hello its football season and yesterday was sunday and today is monday. I'm sure he had a good time with you thats why he texted you. But showering him with texts is gonna turn him off. Don't take it personally these guys are being pulled in a million differnt directions right now. Don't think that he is superior to u (or for that matter let him think he is)and get caught up in the challeng and the chase. Show a backbone an athlete will appreciate that. Don't call him anymore. if he calls cool, till then move on. NFL or no NFL hes just another dude.
Blamed0 Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 yipp is quite right. Don't call/text him anymore, otherwise he'll think your desperate for him, maybe because hes an NFL player. Be Cool, and either wait, or date other guys. And yeah, if he calls you in a few days time, then i think he might have an explanation for not returning your texts.
Author Beauty28 Posted October 22, 2007 Author Posted October 22, 2007 I've actually never called him and I've only text him 2wice so I hardly think that thats over doing it. Anyhow.... I've also never thought that he was superior to me because he plays for the NFL, I just thought that maybe that might explain why he was so busy (hence why I mentioned it). I've gone out with lots of different successful guys and I am very confident in myself to think that someone was superior to me. Anyhow.. thanks for your advice.
yippkiyay Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 Wo a little defensive...wonder why u asked in the first place then if you have it so under control
Author Beauty28 Posted October 22, 2007 Author Posted October 22, 2007 No I'm not defensive. That is why I put a smiley face. I was just saying that It was assumed that I thought he was superior to me which isn't the issue. Like I said.. I appreciate your advice.
yippkiyay Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 OK Sorry, maybe you should read my story it involves a smiley face let me know what you think. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t133540/
Author Beauty28 Posted October 22, 2007 Author Posted October 22, 2007 Ok, this may take a minute because I am still at work and I need to drive home and get to my own computer. Anyhow in a short response: It sounds like she is really confused. I mean since she's been in abusive relationships, that may be all she knows. She may have put you in the "friend" zone for now because she knows that she can count on you. I've had situations like this where I liked a guy and he was pulling me in 2 different directions and as soon as I left him alone... he came crawling back... I had to eventually tell him that there will never be nothing more than friendship between us because you can't win with people who are confused. He then tried to tell me that we were "more than friends." One minute they want to be with you, and the next minute they don't know. Anyhow... I'd say that usually a smiley face is a good thing but in this case it seems like she just didn't know what else to say.
yippkiyay Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 ok that makes sense and your opinion on us getting back toether in the future? if and when i should contact her? what you think may be going threw her head?
Author Beauty28 Posted October 23, 2007 Author Posted October 23, 2007 K I am going to throw your advice right back on you because it seems to be the right situation... plus it's what I would have said anyway! Anyhow.... Don't contact her unless she contacts you. Unfortunantly it's probably going to be when she suspects that you are moving on that she wants you back!! Trust Me on this one!! ppl have told me this time and time again and it always ends up being true. The best way to snap someone out of confusion is to leave them alone for awhile (as painful as it may be).
yippkiyay Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 Gotcha, sometimes i think she wouldn't want to come back. but ok i guess maybe she'll find a reason if i've moved on. you don't think maybe i should jump through hoops and make an effort maybe contact again in a week? or i'mabsolved of all my sins?
Author Beauty28 Posted October 23, 2007 Author Posted October 23, 2007 No... Don't jump through hoops for her. Not that she's not worth it, it's just that you don't want to give more than you are getting back. Love and/or relationships should be give and take (Easy to give advice than it is to follow ). I think that you should give her space. If she wants to come back, that's when she will have the time to ponder about you. From a woman's perspective, I was once in an abusive relationship for 7 years. I've been out of that relationship for 3 years and have been dating other people here and there. But it takes time to get over that hump to realize that you are better than that. Sometimes I look back on all the "nice" guys that I've overlooked because I was too stupid to see that I was better off. Now, it's funny because all I want is one of THOSE guys and they seem to be all gone! In relation to your situation, she's going to need space and time to think about the fact that you were the better option. Who knows.... by then you may have moved on and you won't want her anymore. That's when she'll want you really bad. My mom always tells me that and I never believe her until it comes to pass. I swore that I wouldn't be over that person by then. They always... ALWAYS... come back! Funny how that works out huh?
yippkiyay Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 reminds me of that movie swingers. i feel like i left a bad taste in her mouth though. why would she ever come back to that?
Author Beauty28 Posted October 23, 2007 Author Posted October 23, 2007 You probably didn't leave a bad taste in her mouth. The truth is that when someone realizes what they had, the bad things kinda just fade away. Don't beat yourself up about things. I mean you were just being yourself right? I always have to remind myself that when a guy hurts me, that it's their loss. And if you did leave a bad taste in her mouth, then it just goes to show that she didn't really care about you anyway. I mean all the times that she has leaned on you and she's going to walk away from you.... if anyone should have a bad taste it should be you. Just don't push her. Women are much more complicated than men. We always have all these feeling floating around in our heads and we always confuse ourselves. Even when things seem so simple. Who knows how long it will take her to come back, but I bet you she will, as long as you leave her alone for awhile.
yippkiyay Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 ok, but i haven't been pushy i don't think. 3 weeks went be i sent a hello text she responded with a pet name she calls me. 3 wseeks after that I IMed her she responded and i sent the email. OK no more I noticed her away message today is "sigh" shes left similar messages a few times over the past fe weeks. I don't think she has found bliss without me
Author Beauty28 Posted October 23, 2007 Author Posted October 23, 2007 Well if she keeps calling you pet names she definently likes you. I don't call a guy pet names unless I like him. Ok... so you aren't being pushy... keep up the good work, plus give her even MORE space. If that makes any sense at all.
Author Beauty28 Posted October 23, 2007 Author Posted October 23, 2007 No I haven't heard from him. I don't know what to think. I mean I want to consider that maybe he is busy but for someone not to answer texts and/or not call is a bad sign. I may just chalk it up to a dating experience. I wish people would be more straight forward though. I mean if he wasn't interested then why bother with even contacting me after the date... ya know?
yippkiyay Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 I wouldn't take it personally maybe give him a call in week. thats not unreasonable
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