Author SouthernT Posted October 23, 2007 Author Posted October 23, 2007 Wait a minute... don't be so hard on yourself... don't base your whole relationship with this guy based on a few biaised posts here... We don't know you, we don't know what has been going on between you two.. Just go with the flow... relax.. he'll be back.. just spice things up next time.. Hey Southern T, dont feel down. Just take it as an example. I think this guy is a waste of time. If he wanted to be with you then you and him would be together right now. Sending him a naughty text message was a bad idea in my opinion. At this point I think you should forget it and forget him. I didnt like his response to your message. I thought the mouth thing was coming out of nowhere and was a little inappropriate given the fact that you guys havent even laid hands on each other. He seems like a big waste of time and evergy based on what you are telling us. I still feel bad but thanks you two.
shadowplay Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 I totally agree. It's classless, and shows he only has one thing on his mind. If/when you had already established a relationship, texts like that are totally fun and spice things up... But before any relationship is established, it's flat out tacky. I agree as well. I think it was a mistake to respond to that message with anything but an annoyed response. He may have lost some respect for you when you played along. But who cares, he sounds like a douchebag anyway.
chill chic Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 ok...no we havent slept together yet and have known eachother for a year now. (And don't laught at me you guys. I'm not too good at this stuff )The text conversation went like this" me: (I sent him a "kiss" icon/face) him: Thank..... ! 0 .....Guess what that is? me: no clue? fill me in? him: x rated lol me: oh is that how your face is going to look? him: no how your mouth should be me: lol.....I bet you WOULD like that. Then you would make this face :-o me: (about 30 min later) I would love for you to hold me tonight but I know your mom is in town. Have a goodnight. Kisses! no response, end of conversation. It was my way of trying to open up to him a little more. Don't know if I achieved that or just made myself look slutty or desperate. take it from me...I USED to be the queen of dirty texts...this guy sounds like a jerk, if you don't want an f buddy, I suggest that you move on
Cobra_X30 Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 take it from me...I USED to be the queen of dirty texts...this guy sounds like a jerk, if you don't want an f buddy, I suggest that you move on Best advice yet!
chill chic Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 I agree as well. I think it was a mistake to respond to that message with anything but an annoyed response. He may have lost some respect for you when you played along. But who cares, he sounds like a douchebag anyway. I agree with what you said. Although it was an evil way of testing the "lost respect" for her. Yes he probably thought she was naive and most likely not ready for the "naughtiness" in real life. so he didn't respond, and/or he knows that she would be a pushover, so if he thinks that, I'm sure she'll be getting another dirty text in the near future..unless of course she deleted his number.
Lyssa Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 I don't know what or how it is for you both in that past one year but I would just go with the flow. Go out with him. If he tries to kiss you, kiss him back and see how that goes, there's nothing wrong in kissing him back now is there? Since you like him. Maybe after that you can start sending him naughty messages.
chill chic Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 Best advice yet! thanks Cobra, it's actually good therapy for me to respond to girls that are going through the same thing I went through...because I realize how stupid I was!
chill chic Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 I don't know what or how it is for you both in that past one year but I would just go with the flow. Go out with him. If he tries to kiss you, kiss him back and see how that goes, there's nothing wrong in kissing him back now is there? Since you like him. Maybe after that you can start sending him naughty messages. I think the "going out" part is way over with, sorry to say, but he's not worth the time, he obviously said so himself.
Cobra_X30 Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 thanks Cobra, it's actually good therapy for me to respond to girls that are going through the same thing I went through...because I realize how stupid I was! Well, I wouldnt call it stupid. I think bieng the queen of dirty text msgs may yet come in handy someday!
Cobra_X30 Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 I don't know what or how it is for you both in that past one year but I would just go with the flow. Go out with him. If he tries to kiss you, kiss him back and see how that goes, there's nothing wrong in kissing him back now is there? Since you like him. Maybe after that you can start sending him naughty messages. I agree with CC on that. She sends a text like... I wish we could spend some time together... no answer. Actually no answer is an answer. Deep! BTW... I love that avvie!
chill chic Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 Well, I wouldnt call it stupid. I think bieng the queen of dirty text msgs may yet come in handy someday! yah I was going to edit that and write "naive" instead, but it was too late I'm thinking you're right about the texts...he'll be one lucky guy!
chill chic Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 I agree with CC on that. She sends a text like... I wish we could spend some time together... no answer. Actually no answer is an answer. Deep! BTW... I love that avvie! yah he basically ignored her "feelings" and skipped right to feed his ego...once a jerk, always a jerk. she is totally on a different wave length than him, so I hope she doesn't get her feelings hurt.
Lyssa Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 I agree with CC on that. She sends a text like... I wish we could spend some time together... no answer. Actually no answer is an answer. Deep! BTW... I love that avvie! He didn't reply to that? Guess he must be busy with his mother... hehe. Thanks.. it's Aphrodite... LOL.. someone's interpretation of Aphrodite.. Ooopss... off topic! Sorry!!
Cobra_X30 Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 He didn't reply to that? Guess he must be busy with his mother... hehe. Thanks.. it's Aphrodite... LOL.. someone's interpretation of Aphrodite.. Ooopss... off topic! Sorry!! Well, I wasnt going to mention that, but Freud would have lots of fun with this guy and his mom! Wonder if he sends her dirty texts too? I hope Southern T really takes a step back and evaluates him objectively. Aphrodite? Fitting.
Lyssa Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 Well, I wasnt going to mention that, but Freud would have lots of fun with this guy and his mom! Wonder if he sends her dirty texts too? I hope Southern T really takes a step back and evaluates him objectively. Aphrodite? Fitting. Ahh yes... I read back and he didn't reply. So I wonder... is it really his mother?? Who knows. I am only comfortable in sending naughty messages with someone I am exclusive with! That would be after 5 or 6 months I am exclusive with him! LOL.... Before that, he can only dream about it! Fitting hey...
nicki Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 Hey, SouthernT, your response to his texts was just fine! HE was the jerk. His text -- while perfectly fine if you two were involved phsyically -- was way too offensive. I agree with the other posters. He is selfish and only thinking about himself and his own gratification of ego or other physical needs. You, on the other hand, responded in an appropriate relationship oriented way. You brought the focus back to where it should be -- spending time together first! A good guy would have responded to your text with something like "Yeah, I wish I could hold you, too. I miss you." That would show you that YOU are important to him, too. Anyway, THIS guy sounds like a hit and run kind of guy. It's hard to tell these guys until they do something like he did, so let yourself off the hook. You are a laid back, fun kind of girl. You didn't think he had bad intentions because you yourself don't. It can be a big surprise when a guy acts like that, and it can take some time to realize what a jerk he is. Bottom line. He's way below you, not good enough for you. If it makes you feel any better, I was out on a date with a guy I hadn't yet slept with. In the middle of dinner, he leaned over and asked "Hey, do you wanna go f#ck?" Wow, I tried all kinds of mind tricks to tell myself he wasn't a jerk because I liked so much about him...but, he WAS for saying that! See ya!
Star Gazer Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 But who cares, he sounds like a douchebag anyway. Soooo true.
Author SouthernT Posted October 23, 2007 Author Posted October 23, 2007 Thanks everybody. I now know not to respond to that again or to re-direct the conversation. Just a couple of days prior to that conversation he and I went to the gym and worked out and played basketball a little. (I mentioned this in another thread) Afterwards, he walked me to my car and gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek. (He also kissed my check several times while we were working out and playing basketball) And after he walked me to my car he that's when he said "hey my mom is coming into town. Give me a call later this week so that you can come by and meet her and hang out with us" (This was last Monday). I sent him a text a couple of days later on Thursday and said "hey is tonight a good night for me to stop by? I'm going to be pretty busy Friday and Saturda" He said "my mom is here and we will be out and about. what time were you thinking" I replied "around 8 or 8:30. What time is good for you?" No response. So I didnt call or text after that point because I wanted to be respectful of his time that he was spending with his mother. And then that Saturday night is when we had the text conversation that started this thread. So I don't get men at all. When we do hang out, it's pressure free and we have a good time and make eachother laugh. I don't understand.
Author SouthernT Posted October 23, 2007 Author Posted October 23, 2007 He also gets upset if I glance at my cellphone while I'm with him. And when we go out in groups, (girls & guys) he always sends messages through a mutual girlfriend of mine saying "tell her that I have people with me and they are all just friends. so she wont be upset with me". That confuses me because I never question him about that stuff but he feels that it's important for me to know. I don't get it.
Lyssa Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 He also gets upset if I glance at my cellphone while I'm with him. And when we go out in groups, (girls & guys) he always sends messages through a mutual girlfriend of mine saying "tell her that I have people with me and they are all just friends. so she wont be upset with me". That confuses me because I never question him about that stuff but he feels that it's important for me to know. I don't get it. Okay... this guy is just too weird now.... who does that? I don't know anyone that sends messages through someone else to get to me..
Author SouthernT Posted October 23, 2007 Author Posted October 23, 2007 Okay... this guy is just too weird now.... who does that? I don't know anyone that sends messages through someone else to get to me.. Don't know....he is quite a character.
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