SouthernT Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 Good idea or bad idea for a girl if the GUY initiated the conversation FIRST and you've known eachother for a few months now?
Cobra_X30 Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 Good idea or bad idea for a girl if the GUY initiated the conversation FIRST and you've known eachother for a few months now? Whats your end goal?
Author SouthernT Posted October 22, 2007 Author Posted October 22, 2007 Whats your end goal? ultimately...a relationship. However, attempting to let him know that I'm not an ICE PRINCESS. Known him for a year now.
woodsfield Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 ultimately...a relationship. However, attempting to let him know that I'm not an ICE PRINCESS. WTF is an "ICE PRINCESS"?
Author SouthernT Posted October 22, 2007 Author Posted October 22, 2007 WTF is an "ICE PRINCESS"? In other words we havent done ANYTHING physical and I shyed away the first time he tried to kiss me.
woodsfield Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 In other words we havent done ANYTHING physical and I shyed away the first time he tried to kiss me. "A pretty, uptight girl who won't put out for anybody." definetion #3 on Urban Dictionary? gotta tell him something if he initiated and you don't want to seem like the above. don't put yourself out there on limb, and don't be a tease. play along but divert if it makes you feel uncomfortable.
Author SouthernT Posted October 22, 2007 Author Posted October 22, 2007 "A pretty, uptight girl who won't put out for anybody." definetion #3 on Urban Dictionary? gotta tell him something if he initiated and you don't want to seem like the above. don't put yourself out there on limb, and don't be a tease. play along but divert if it makes you feel uncomfortable. LOL.....must you make it sound that bad Wood? Alright, you pretty much answered my question. I just didnt want to come across as a slut or a tease.
Krytie TV Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 WTF is an "ICE PRINCESS"? My ex-wife. Do you need more than that?
Author SouthernT Posted October 22, 2007 Author Posted October 22, 2007 For the record, I'm this way with him because of his mixed signals. That's the only reason. If he would remain consistent, then I would let my guard down. Thanks for everybody's input.
woodsfield Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 LOL.....must you make it sound that bad Wood? Alright, you pretty much answered my question. I just didnt want to come across as a slut or a tease. i just never heard that term before... if you are not a slut or a tease, then act natural. sorry to hear that, krytie. i don't want any more info unless you care to share
DazedandConfused66 Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 WTF is an "ICE PRINCESS"? My wife does this thing with crushed ice and oral.....like that? And for the record, we send each other really durty txt messages all day long. I love it when she starts up while I'm in a meeting and just have to kinda resist the temptation to look down at my blackberry.....
nicki Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 You can send naughty messages and HE WILL LOVE IT! The question is what kind of messages to send and what to say. That depends on a couple of things. Have you slept together yet? If not, send him a message that says something like "I've been thinking all day about how great your butt looks in your jeans. Damn, you're hot!" If you've slept with him, send him a message like "Wow, can't stop thinking about how amazing you are in bed. I want you now." or "I love your d*ck and want it now." Stuff like that. Now, if you've only kissed him, send him a message about how you can't stop thinking about the way his lips feel on yours and about how wonderful his mouth tastes.... It's easy. Keep it sincere. You can turn up the naughty level as you feel more comfortable. I love naughty texts too. My favorite one to do is to tell my boyfriend what my favorite body part of his is. He'll text me back what his is on me. Then we'll text to each other the specific things we want to do to each other....very hot!
Author SouthernT Posted October 23, 2007 Author Posted October 23, 2007 The question is what kind of messages to send and what to say. That depends on a couple of things. Have you slept together yet? ok...no we havent slept together yet and have known eachother for a year now. (And don't laught at me you guys. I'm not too good at this stuff )The text conversation went like this" me: (I sent him a "kiss" icon/face) him: Thank..... ! 0 .....Guess what that is? me: no clue? fill me in? him: x rated lol me: oh is that how your face is going to look? him: no how your mouth should be me: lol.....I bet you WOULD like that. Then you would make this face :-o me: (about 30 min later) I would love for you to hold me tonight but I know your mom is in town. Have a goodnight. Kisses! no response, end of conversation. It was my way of trying to open up to him a little more. Don't know if I achieved that or just made myself look slutty or desperate.
Oregon Blackberry Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 Since he has been playing games with you for a year now, don't cheapen yourself by returning a naughty text. He's not interested in you. If he would have wanted a relationship, you would be in one with him by now. He's simply feeding his ego with the text to see if you respond, there's no further interest.
nicki Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 Um, I'm with Oregon B. on this one. Maybe I'm clueless, but does the "0" mean how your mouth looks, ready for oral from him? If so, he's not very classy or a gentleman. Yikes, he hasn't even slept with you yet, so I'd say that's a bit out of line to do at this point. He should be sending you texts about how gorgeous you are, or complimenting you on your great body, or how he would like to kiss you, stuff like that.
nicki Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 I can be a b*tch, so I probably would have sent him back a text that said "I don't think my mouth would have to open that wide to accommodate you. LOL"
Lizzie60 Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 naughty texting is a lot of fun... I do that almost everyday with my MM... Today was 'hot', he started early today... LOL I guess he was missing me... then it was soooo naughty after a while... oouuuffff... He finally picked me up at 3... I read your conversation.. and it's not quite what I mean by naughty texting... he seemed quite 'uneasy or inexperienced' ... it didn't last too long.. LOL I don't know what else to tell you... just keep doing it over and over... it will get better...
Author SouthernT Posted October 23, 2007 Author Posted October 23, 2007 Yikes, he hasn't even slept with you yet, so I'd say that's a bit out of line to do at this point. He should be sending you texts about how gorgeous you are, or complimenting you on your great body, or how he would like to kiss you, stuff like that. Well he's been giving me the "beautiful" and "gorgeous" compliments for a year straight now. Yesterday was the first conversation that we have ever had like that. And now I kinda feel like I messed up because we still havent been serious and I feel that that conversation probably just made it worse on my part and his attention was already low and now it's probably completley gone. It sucks when you like a guy soooooo much that you just try your best to get everything right and you feel like the slightest little thing can mess everything up.
Star Gazer Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 Maybe I'm clueless, but does the "0" mean how your mouth looks, ready for oral from him? If so, he's not very classy or a gentleman. Yikes, he hasn't even slept with you yet, so I'd say that's a bit out of line to do at this point. He should be sending you texts about how gorgeous you are, or complimenting you on your great body, or how he would like to kiss you, stuff like that. I totally agree. It's classless, and shows he only has one thing on his mind. If/when you had already established a relationship, texts like that are totally fun and spice things up... But before any relationship is established, it's flat out tacky.
Author SouthernT Posted October 23, 2007 Author Posted October 23, 2007 ok well, I'm feeling pretty dumb now. It's like I dont even recognize when I'm being disrespected and that's really sad. Here I am looking at it as an oppurtunity to open up and to him, he probably laughed at how dumb I was to even respond to it. (which is probably why he stopped responding) I swear I just cant get this right. And this past year has probably been nothing but amuzing entertainment for him.
Lizzie60 Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 ok well, I'm feeling pretty dumb now. It's like I dont even recognize when I'm being disrespected and that's really sad. Here I am looking at it as an oppurtunity to open up and to him, he probably laughed at how dumb I was to even respond to it. (which is probably why he stopped responding) I swear I just cant get this right. And this past year has probably been nothing but amuzing entertainment for him. Wait a minute... don't be so hard on yourself... don't base your whole relationship with this guy based on a few biaised posts here... We don't know you, we don't know what has been going on between you two.. Just go with the flow... relax.. he'll be back.. just spice things up next time..
Mezzi Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 Hey Southern T, dont feel down. Just take it as an example. I think this guy is a waste of time. If he wanted to be with you then you and him would be together right now. Sending him a naughty text message was a bad idea in my opinion. At this point I think you should forget it and forget him. I didnt like his response to your message. I thought the mouth thing was coming out of nowhere and was a little inappropriate given the fact that you guys havent even laid hands on each other. He seems like a big waste of time and evergy based on what you are telling us.
Timberlane Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 In other words we havent done ANYTHING physical and I shyed away the first time he tried to kiss me. Sexy texts from a girl that already wouldn't kiss me would be annoying. You have to do something physical. The time for talk is over. You can do sexy texts after you kiss him. So go do it.
jerbear Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 suggestives text, pages, or sms messages are always great. I used to do it to an ex. She would send guess what I'm not wearing, texts like that sometimes I would reply back with how about that lingerie set then I'll decide what NOT to wear. Even after a few months it is a good thing. The sleeping part... maybe this is foreplay? Helps stoke the fire. Not knowing what a some icons or emoticons are ok. Just look it up. If he was messing with the O then I would say "huh?" "Excuse me?" It definately kills the mood though.
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