Randomguy123 Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 Okay, My best friend recently got married. He married a girl that I am also good friends with and I am extremely happy for them. The thing is I am terrified of losing him as a friend. Not by having a falling out or anything like that but by subtly drifting apart over time. I understand that marriage is a huge commitment and priorities have to shift but I hear so much that people lose touch with friends (especially single ones) after marriage. We both got each other through some difficult times and there was a time when we were both single and in pretty ****ty places in our lives. Although I never would want to go back to bad times I was going through, i kinda miss just hanging out all the time doing nothing. I know that part of life is that people will come into and out of your life and I can handle this most of the time but I consider him to be like a brother and don't want that to happen. This is all kind of a ramble but it helps to get some of this out. Any advice or positive stories about people who maintained their friendships would be much appreciated.
Sarita12385 Posted October 24, 2007 Posted October 24, 2007 After I got married I still resumed my friendship with my best friend, however she's a girl, so not sure if the same rules apply. I moved about 45 mins away from our home town, so I really don't see her nearly as much as I used to, but like you said, when you get married, priorities shift, and believe me - THEY DO. It takes a while to get adjusted to new things. How recently did he get married? I know when I got married, I needed about 3-4 months before I was "back to normal", so he made need some time to adjust to new settings. Just try to stay in touch with him as much as possible. Invite him for coffee, or even ask him and his wife both out. If the 2 of you share the brother-sister bond and have for quote some time, things shouldn't get too out of wack Let him know your concerns, I'm sure he feels the same.
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