Blamed0 Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 Hello there. my names mark, i'm 16 years old. I go to an english school. The girl i'm gonna talk to you guys about, came to school last year, but i didn't know her personally, just knew her this year. We've known each other for about 2months or so.. So heres the beginning. We started chatting quite frequently for a week or 2. Then i asked her out, she agreed. We went to this mall, played some bowling, then went to a nice restaurant not far from there. After Dinner, we left and went to sit at a Starbucks, and stayed there for 2 hours or so, then after she left. Since then, we've been talking daily on the phone, and i've been seeing and talking to her more often at school, and usually have a joke around. So i was thinking of inviting her, for a second date. I asked her, which restaurants you like? and she replied with a few. So i told her: "Next weekend, would you like to come to me to [Restaurant]?" She replied: "Sounds like fun but 1 request.. Can we go slow for a few weeks just so we can get to know each other a bit more, so that things don't mess up?, and yea sure, that restaurant should be fun! :)" So I replied with: "Yeah sure, going slow should be better for us, should also make things clearer between us two. - and i'm glad that [restaurant] also works for you." - - - - - - Thats it. That was 2 days ago, that convo. Now we still chat daily on the phone, and we have some of our laughs at school. - - - - - - - I'm just asking you guys, What does she really mean by going slow? - and whats my situation in this relationship? - am i on the right track? - please give me some tips, and whatever else. Thanks! Mark
tanbark813 Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 I'm just asking you guys, What does she really mean by going slow? - and whats my situation in this relationship? - am i on the right track? She means she doesn't want to get into a committed relationship right away and doesn't want you grabbing her goodies. You're on the right track. Just keep things fun and light. Also, you don't always have to take her to dinner and try and impress her. Just be fun to be around and don't rush her into being your gf.
Author Blamed0 Posted October 22, 2007 Author Posted October 22, 2007 Thanks for your advice. But i invited her for a dinner to her second date, since i didn't really feel that Our first date was proper, so i was planning to take her out to a proper date.
tanbark813 Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 Proper doesn't matter. Show her a good time.
Author Blamed0 Posted October 22, 2007 Author Posted October 22, 2007 Thanks again. Yes, i will try be myself and have fun with her. But i would just like to hear some other opinions.
Author Blamed0 Posted October 22, 2007 Author Posted October 22, 2007 Any opinions/tips would be useful.
WonderingWTD Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 a lot of girls say taking it slow for different reasons.. 1. Something has recently happened to her in a relationship that involved her getting hurt. If this is the case you need to make her believe that you wouldnt do the same thing her past boyfriend did. examply: cheat. 2. Shes worried your a pig and all you want is in her jeans. So show her your interested in HER, not her boobs. So uhhh idk ask a lot of question about herself, be very interested. 3. Another guy. There could be another guy you dont no about and she either hasn't quite decided between you two, or she wants to let you down softl and will later say she just wants to be friends.. but from the sound of it it prlly not one of those. 4. Major issues in her life. When i was going through my mother battling cancer, i was asked out.. i repeatedly said no until things were straightened out with her. I wanted to focus on that issure and i didnt need the drama of a relationship. OR 5. Simply.. she wants to take it slow. This means she is very interested and doesnt want to mess things up by moving to fast. So listen to her and follow her lead. I wouldnt move in for the kiss till she shoots you some clues, which youll see girls make them very obvious. Enjoy your dinner and try not to be nervous, we pick up on that. Hope i helped..
Author Blamed0 Posted October 23, 2007 Author Posted October 23, 2007 Thanks for your opinion nah, i don't really get nervous. And the last boyfriend that she was with, was like 5months ago. And yes, he did cheat on her. I will take your advice and try to show her i won't do the same thing. But she quite knows i wouldn't do that, since i'm not really that type of person. We still talk alot lately, and our convo's are nice and straight, with some of my inside jokes . as i said, we're muslims, we aren't looking for getting into jeans before marriage
Author Blamed0 Posted October 23, 2007 Author Posted October 23, 2007 Any comments? bare in mind my last post also.
WonderingWTD Posted October 24, 2007 Posted October 24, 2007 well i can never tell by the fact that ur a muslim.. my boyfriend is too and he wanted in my jeans before we were even dating. But i hopew things go well.
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