stylez Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 Do you think that cheating on someone makes you more paranoid to think someone will cheat on you?
pyroguy Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 Do you think that cheating on someone makes you more paranoid to think someone will cheat on you? I absolutely think so. I think that many times when a person is jealous to an extreme, and is extremely paranoid about how their SO may behave while on their own, it's because the paranoid person behaves that way. So, they tend to be influenced by those actions. Of course, this isn't always the case. These days, it seems like most people have a right to be jealous and suspicious, given all the cheating going on-men and women. Also, isn't it funny and ironic how cheaters really dislike the idea of it being done to them? You would think that would help influence their actions, no? Out of curiosity, why do you ask? is there a personal experience aspect to this question?
Mz. Pixie Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 I have to say yes, as a former cheater. I think it's because I have seen first hand how easy it was to get away with it.
amaysngrace Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 My BF now was cheated on by his exW and it took him a while to take me seriously. I think it's because he was wronged so he got this general impression of women as a whole. But he's healed now from it all, well almost. And he knows I'm not like that but it took a lot to prove to him that I care too much about him to ever deliberately hurt him like that. So to answer your question I think yes. Everyone has battle wounds. But it's up to the person who's been wounded as to when and if they let it go with someone new. And let their guard down.
Lostgurl Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 I think so as well. I've seen this happen with many couples. People suspect their mates of cheating for many reasons It could be: 1. They are seeing red flags, that the person is cheating. 2. They've been cheated on in the past by their mate, and trust is lacking in the relationship 3. The person has that suspects his/her mate of cheating has cheated in the past, and thinks with a guilty concience and it gets mirrored to their partner.
amaysngrace Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 Wow...I totally mis-read your question. And to answer the one you asked yes. Cheating on someone makes you have a guilty conscience. But only if you are someone who feels remorse. Otherwise you're too selfish to care.
PandorasBox Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 I think it makes them more paranoid too. But what about someone who says they have never cheated, but yet they are very paranoid/insecure anyway in a relationship? Where would that kind of thing come from if they have not cheated themselves? Maybe they have been cheated on before and are afraid it might happen again?
Lostgurl Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 I think it makes them more paranoid too. But what about someone who says they have never cheated, but yet they are very paranoid/insecure anyway in a relationship? Where would that kind of thing come from if they have not cheated themselves? Maybe they have been cheated on before and are afraid it might happen again? Yes, that's what i think. Whether it was in the current relationship, or a previous one. It's wrong to bring those feelings into a new relationship, But it happens sometimes. Being cheated on, does serious damage to a person.
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