EricOnTheWeb Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 I don't have a GF or anything, and feel extremely lonely at times, are they're any guys here that feel lonely, and post here to take your minds off of it?... I'm really trying to pull out of this slump, and it would be nice to hear your stories on coping with loneliness. I know how it feels, and maybe this thread will let us help each other somehow..
Pyro Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 I know that it doesn't apply to me now, but for many years I dealt with the same type of loneliness and this was before LS was in my life. All I can say is friends are the best remedy for this feeling you are having.
Jmina Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 If you really want to beat it, take steps to love who you are. gripping lonliness will then start to disolve.
Pyro Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 If you really want to beat it, take steps to love who you are. gripping lonliness will then start to disolve. That as well. That and friends are what cured me.
Jmina Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 friends helped me too, but they cant be there all the time especially if they have their own families and problems. i mean if your lonley every night its hard to rely on someone else to lift you up all the time. that is when building your inner strength and loving yourself comes into it. write, get direction. lonlieness can go hand in hand with feeling a bit lost also. so write down anything and everything that worries you, upsets you, what you enjoy, you will be suprised at what cobwebs start to come down so you can see a little bit clearer for the next day. or talk it out with someone who will offer support. like us! =)
Author EricOnTheWeb Posted October 22, 2007 Author Posted October 22, 2007 friends helped me too, but they cant be there all the time especially if they have their own families and problems. i mean if your lonley every night its hard to rely on someone else to lift you up all the time. that is when building your inner strength and loving yourself comes into it. write, get direction. lonlieness can go hand in hand with feeling a bit lost also. so write down anything and everything that worries you, upsets you, what you enjoy, you will be suprised at what cobwebs start to come down so you can see a little bit clearer for the next day. or talk it out with someone who will offer support. like us! =) Hi , Jmina....I've been doing A TON of writing out feelings here on LS... and it does help. I guess I feel like a huge chunk of my life is missing, and it's just been tough to be alone... You're right...writing is a way to come to terms with it.. I love to write, and I feel better when I purge out the feelings with words.. It's nice to have you guys read it also.. Makes me feel less alone.
Author EricOnTheWeb Posted October 22, 2007 Author Posted October 22, 2007 I know that it doesn't apply to me now, but for many years I dealt with the same type of loneliness and this was before LS was in my life. All I can say is friends are the best remedy for this feeling you are having. Yeah... I see what you mean.. I really need to get out more and talk to people. That has been one of my short comings, cause I always kept myself sheltered from talking and going out .. It would be nice to go bowling or whatever with friends,,... thats what I need to concentrate on... Just being around people and not pushing them away like I usually do.
Lyssa Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 I'm not a guy but I have been lonely before. I got over it by getting to know new people, got myself involved in sports and other fun activities. I don't have a lot of friends but the good ones I have, have helped me a lot in some ways. For most part of my loneliness, my family helped me more! I love hanging out with them and it really takes away the bits of loneliness I felt back then. You should continue writing. I blogged a lot as well about my feelings and day to day happenings. Like Jmina said, we're here to read and reply to you!
Author EricOnTheWeb Posted October 22, 2007 Author Posted October 22, 2007 I'm not a guy but I have been lonely before. I got over it by getting to know new people, got myself involved in sports and other fun activities. I don't have a lot of friends but the good ones I have, have helped me a lot in some ways. For most part of my loneliness, my family helped me more! I love hanging out with them and it really takes away the bits of loneliness I felt back then. You should continue writing. I blogged a lot as well about my feelings and day to day happenings. Like Jmina said, we're here to read and reply to you! Yeah.. I hang out with my family A lot.. not this past year cause of the depression, but I'm starting to be with them more now. Myy mom was getting worried about me, so I mostly just put on my happy face and go over more often now.. Nice to be around someone, even if its just family. And yeah.. I've been blogging a ton on here, lol.
Lyssa Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 Yeah.. I hang out with my family A lot.. not this past year cause of the depression, but I'm starting to be with them more now. Myy mom was getting worried about me, so I mostly just put on my happy face and go over more often now.. Nice to be around someone, even if its just family. And yeah.. I've been blogging a ton on here, lol. Yeah... the thing about being in depression or lonely, you're just not you and people around you get worried and stuff. That usually makes me feel guilty... so I work on getting myself better because I hate my family members getting worried over me. After all, they are the ones that really know you and no matter how hard you hide it, mothers ALWAYS know! Aargghh... hate that sometimes that I can't hide anything...
Author EricOnTheWeb Posted October 22, 2007 Author Posted October 22, 2007 Yeah... the thing about being in depression or lonely, you're just not you and people around you get worried and stuff. That usually makes me feel guilty... so I work on getting myself better because I hate my family members getting worried over me. After all, they are the ones that really know you and no matter how hard you hide it, mothers ALWAYS know! Aargghh... hate that sometimes that I can't hide anything... I'm to the point in this thing that I am tired of hiding..just sick of having these feelings, and you're right about moms lol.. I've been having small talks about this with my mom... I'm letting on little by little.
RecordProducer Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 I don't have a GF or anything, and feel extremely lonely at times, are they're any guys here that feel lonely, and post here to take your minds off of it?... I'm really trying to pull out of this slump, and it would be nice to hear your stories on coping with loneliness. I know how it feels, and maybe this thread will let us help each other somehow..Loneliness doesn't come from being alone, but from unsatisfied emotional and social needs. Sometimes we crave romance, sometimes just company. I feel lonely when I feel hopeless. In those moments watching TV helped. Meeting people on the net feels good, too. Go out and approach some girls. Take a class, start a new hobby, join a certain organization (S.O.S. for women comes in mind for meeting young, abused women ). Sit down and cry. Umm... that was a joke. Do something completely crazy. Build or create something. Make a big party and invite everyone you know and tell them to bring everyone they know. Get drunk... um... another joke. Write a comic book about your life and ask people to read it. Go to a Karaoke club and sing like an idiot to make people laugh. Then tell a good joke and sing the next song nicely. Think of all the people you can't stand, buy a cake, ring on their door bell, and slap them with the cake staright on the face (like in the movies)... OK, maybe not...
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