heatseeker411 Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 For all of their beauty, sometimes women don't seem to realize that they are harvesting a soft crop of translucent hair on their cheeks and chins. Or sometimes, the hair comes in slightly darker above the lips, giving the faintest impression of a mustache. Often, these trace masculine features can only be seen under certain lighting conditions. I'm pretty sure that most women would do something to remedy the situation if only they knew. The question is, how can a man break it to them gently? How can he hint at it; mention it without mentioning it? How can he avoid hurting their feelings?
Star Gazer Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 Talk about OTHER women who have this hair, and how unattractive you find it. She will run to the bathroom mirror to inspect her own face, and take whatever remedial steps necessary to remove the offending fuzz.
Krytie TV Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 I just wonder why if it bothers you, you originally started dating in the first place. I don't know that there's any good way to do this, and would be rather offended if someone tried to get me to "take care of something" that I had since we met.
Timberlane Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 If she is sporting facial hair, then she thinks it is no big deal or that it's not that visible. If you can only see it in certain lighting conditions, get out of those conditions, man. This sort of information is best shared only after years and years of soul destroying marriage, so you'll just have to wait.
Author heatseeker411 Posted October 22, 2007 Author Posted October 22, 2007 Star Gazer - That is the best suggestion I've heard. I'll buy it. Krystie TV - I make no claim to be perfect myself. It's just a pet peeve of mine. I shave my face every day and when I catch a side profile against a hard light source, and I see that she has more hair on her face than she would ever want me to grow, it honestly puts me off. I think I would want to know if there was some small fixable issue that she had with me, but I don't think that I would be as susceptible to hurt feelings, hence the question. Timberlane - It really isn't highly visible and I'm sure she probably can't see it in front of the bathroom mirror. But it's kind of hard to keep away from those lighting conditions, especially since the light coming in through my bedroom window shines directly on my bed in the mornings. Can't say I have any plans for soul-destruction at this point either.
Timberlane Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 Pulling the trick "I know this hairy faced girl..." might work on a dumb girl, but a smart one is going to see through the manipulation and think you are a passive-aggressive turd. Tread lightly is all I say. She may not like something about you that you cannot change. If you want to sit and nitpick this sort of triviality, maybe you should date a model.
Lizzie60 Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 Hey.. forgot to shave this morning? Seriously... be delicate but upfront... I don't agree with SG... If you say that and she is smart, she'll know that you were somehow phoney and sly.(hypocritical = turn off) Say something like: I've noticed that .... blablabla... just be nice.. simple but HONEST... no turning around the pot... but this is me... I don't like 'beating around the bush' be honest but diplomatic... she will only respect you more for being sincere and upfront.
Tony T Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 I just wonder why if it bothers you, you originally started dating in the first place. I don't know that there's any good way to do this, and would be rather offended if someone tried to get me to "take care of something" that I had since we met. When you first meet somebody you often don't notice small things. If you do, you may not think it will bother you later (in the passion of the moment). If, per chance, it does bother you it would be rather awkward to tell somebody you've just met that their facial hair is bothersome. You need to know somebody a while for that. I think the annoyance factor of this will increase over time. I would probably go to a friend's computer, put together a spam email about facial hair, and send it to her. Then I'd tell her about the spam I got telling me how to get rid of my facial hair and see what her response is. This could be a very hairy situation, pardon the pun.
norajane Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 She's been looking at her face in all kinds of lighting, and probably with a magnifying mirror, her whole life. She knows. She's probably not willing to go through whatever methods of torture she must go through to get rid of it. If you say something, she's either going to think - go f*ck yourself, if you don't like it, don't let the door hit you on the way out, or she's going to dissolve in a puddle of insecurity and will never believe you're attracted to her (and will be too insecure to have sex with you because you may not like the hair she has elsewhere), or she might decide to bleach/wax/whatever. So, your odds of hitting it are 1 out of 3 if you say something.
sunshinegirl Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 Well jeez, just get it out in the open already! If she reacts badly, then you can break up and be glad you're not with someone so sensitive / insecure that you can't discuss delicate issues; and she can walk away feeling relieved at not being with a superficial prick. Win-win, I say.
jcster Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 If peach fuzz is bugging you now...you're only going to find more things later. By the way, it's perfectly natural to have peach fuzz and it's PAINFUL to wax it (not to mention futile). Maybe you can work on getting used to it?
Lostgurl Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 I can see facial HAIR being a turn off, but peach fuzz? That's completley natural. Your going to have a VERY hard time finding a woman, that waxes her face just to get rid of translucent peach fuzz.... I don't think i would mention peach fuzz to her. If it bothers you enough, then just move on. If you can get past it, then that's great.. But I really wouldn't mention anything. NoraJane said it all ^^.
lindya Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 For all of their beauty, sometimes women don't seem to realize that they are harvesting a soft crop of translucent hair on their cheeks and chins. Or sometimes, the hair comes in slightly darker above the lips, giving the faintest impression of a mustache. Often, these trace masculine features can only be seen under certain lighting conditions. I'm pretty sure that most women would do something to remedy the situation if only they knew. It's common for women to wax around the mouth area, but I've never heard of anyone waxing their whole face. Perhaps when you could offer to pay for your almost-dream-woman to have electrolysis. It would cost you several hundred dollars, but as you're the one who's bothered by it then it would only seem fair for you to be the one to pay for it.
Trialbyfire Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 It's common for women to wax around the mouth area, but I've never heard of anyone waxing their whole face. Perhaps when you could offer to pay for your almost-dream-woman to have electrolysis. It would cost you several hundred dollars, but as you're the one who's bothered by it then it would only seem fair for you to be the one to pay for it. Probably more in the thousands, lindya. Quality electrolysis is not cheap and doesn't last a lifetime for many people. Here's a new line of product someone could make a mint on. A facial waxing kit, where it's one big piece of plastic, with eyes and mouth holes cut out. You could use one sheet per day, if you're really fuzzy. Slap it on and rip before your shower every morning, so your man can't see that tiny glint, in optimum lighting conditions...
melodymatters Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 Wow, just got off the thread where the guy is upset tht his 40 yr old wife of 10 yrs, mother of his 2 kids, has gained 20 lbs, and now we find "peach fuzz" too disconcerting ! Sorry, In strong light, MOST woman have peach fuzz. I'm not going to wax or shave, light blonde down, so that it can grow back hard and prickly. What about your GF's great a** or small waist or gorgeous eyes ? Are you going to ignore the good because of one little negative ? In that case I guess you need a barbie doll !
Lostgurl Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 Probably more in the thousands, lindya. Quality electrolysis is not cheap and doesn't last a lifetime for many people. Here's a new line of product someone could make a mint on. A facial waxing kit, where it's one big piece of plastic, with eyes and mouth holes cut out. You could use one sheet per day, if you're really fuzzy. Slap it on and rip before your shower every morning, so your man can't see that tiny glint, in optimum lighting conditions... Yes, the person would make millions of that invention.
Storyrider Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 Probably more in the thousands, lindya. Quality electrolysis is not cheap and doesn't last a lifetime for many people. Here's a new line of product someone could make a mint on. A facial waxing kit, where it's one big piece of plastic, with eyes and mouth holes cut out. You could use one sheet per day, if you're really fuzzy. Slap it on and rip before your shower every morning, so your man can't see that tiny glint, in optimum lighting conditions... I think I'd rather use it on him. While he's sleeping.
Lostgurl Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 TBF - Perhaps there should be a warning with the product that the person using it, should hide in the bathroom until all redness and puffiness fades. It would be so tactless, for her to let her boyfriend see such a thing.
Storyrider Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 Perhaps if the OP wears glasses or contacts, he should simply take them off when he's with his woman. That way her whole face will be fuzzy and he won't notice the flaws so much.
Trialbyfire Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 I think I'd rather use it on him. While he's sleeping. Where would you use it? TBF - Perhaps there should be a warning with the product that the person using it, should hide in the bathroom until all redness and puffiness fades. It would be so tactless, for her to let her boyfriend see such a thing. Good thought. Another hour in the bathroom, in a one bathroom home...
Storyrider Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 On a more serious note, does anyone remember the scene in Fatal Attraction when Michael Douglas is standing behind his wife, looking at them both in the mirror and regretting what he's done. Her shoulders are bare and he is admiring how beautiful she is as the light illuminates a slight peach fuzz on her shoulders and arms. I can't remember the actress who played the wife, but the photography in that scene has stayed with me for years because of how stunning she looked. Her beauty was enhanced by the fuzz.
Kasan Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 Well, I am wondering how hard is he looking at her face? He says that it is only noticeable in some light. Maybe OP, you should change your lighting.
Kasan Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 Wow, just got off the thread where the guy is upset tht his 40 yr old wife of 10 yrs, mother of his 2 kids, has gained 20 lbs, and now we find "peach fuzz" too disconcerting ! Sorry, In strong light, MOST woman have peach fuzz. I'm not going to wax or shave, light blonde down, so that it can grow back hard and prickly. What about your GF's great a** or small waist or gorgeous eyes ? Are you going to ignore the good because of one little negative ? In that case I guess you need a barbie doll ! I absolutely agree with you!!!!
Lostgurl Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 In that case I guess you need a barbie doll ! yes... plastic barbie dolls don't have any fuzz... neither do blowup dolls.
Art_Critic Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 I like SG's way of handling it.. but if that doesn't work then I would think there is no real way of mentioning it tactfully.. Maybe you should learn to accept a person peach fuzz and all..It might be easier in the long run.. Just think when you turn 50 and the hair starts to grow out of your ears.. What will you do when your date tells you that the hair inside your ears grosses her out ?
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