brothermartin Posted October 21, 2007 Posted October 21, 2007 Today I sent my ex an email (despite all the advice not to) and got one back from her. My email was harmless, hers was not. My email was an attempt to be friendly, hers was not. My email was just me trying to salvage some degree of civility, hers was not. MESSAGE RECIEVED, MOVING ON! But how? Now what is my next move? Any thoughts? Anyone?
directx Posted October 21, 2007 Posted October 21, 2007 Your answer is in your post: "MESSAGE RECEIVED. MOVING ON!" Move on, man. Move on...
Blurple Posted October 21, 2007 Posted October 21, 2007 What have we told you... stop contacting her.. you are just pushing her away.... PLEASE STOP contacting her. she knows how you feel Never beg a woman to love you-If she leaves she leaves. Don't perform grand gestures for her and don't beg her to take you back. It only makes you look pathetic. Have some self respect and tel her to go ahead and leave and get on with your life. The more a guy has shown he has moved on, the more the girl may reconsider. Or at least substantially more if another has seem to have taken her "place". But when she feels the "oh, everything is okay, I think I can get him back" syndrome, she does not care that much anymore. In either case, not much will be accomplished, but at least in the former you know you will have alarmed her not made it very easy for her. Your values will rise, if you show you have made the decision to turn your back. Most women will flip out, even if they made the initial decision. Even if a woman considers you a platonic friend, she still needs affirmation she can have you at her beck and call. In effect, take your power back. Don't try to show how much you miss her if she broke up with you, seize the reins and put on a good front of disconnecting her, even being interested in other more *substantial* women. At the very least, she will think about you in a more urgent way than if you let her know she can't keep you on her handy little string. Women are born weak, they need affirmation from the opposite sex, remember that-exploit it-but don't play into it. Don't expect her to come running back, but at least it is better than the alternative .
sedgwick Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 "Women are born weak" Wow...I just came from a thread where women were being called bitches and broads. I hate seeing these boards turn into this. As a tattooed woman with big muscles whom you would not want to meet in a dark alley, a woman with her own full set of power tools she knows how to use, I'd like to take issue with that "born weak" business. Besides that, Blurple is right on.
NorCalDave Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 What have we told you... stop contacting her.. you are just pushing her away.... PLEASE STOP contacting her. she knows how you feel Never beg a woman to love you-If she leaves she leaves. Don't perform grand gestures for her and don't beg her to take you back. It only makes you look pathetic. Have some self respect and tel her to go ahead and leave and get on with your life. The more a guy has shown he has moved on, the more the girl may reconsider. Or at least substantially more if another has seem to have taken her "place". But when she feels the "oh, everything is okay, I think I can get him back" syndrome, she does not care that much anymore. In either case, not much will be accomplished, but at least in the former you know you will have alarmed her not made it very easy for her. Your values will rise, if you show you have made the decision to turn your back. Most women will flip out, even if they made the initial decision. Even if a woman considers you a platonic friend, she still needs affirmation she can have you at her beck and call. In effect, take your power back. Don't try to show how much you miss her if she broke up with you, seize the reins and put on a good front of disconnecting her, even being interested in other more *substantial* women. At the very least, she will think about you in a more urgent way than if you let her know she can't keep you on her handy little string. Women are born weak, they need affirmation from the opposite sex, remember that-exploit it-but don't play into it. Don't expect her to come running back, but at least it is better than the alternative . I'm totally going to follow this post. Thanks.
Chrome Barracuda Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 My advice hit the gym, Drink lots of water, Keep your cut fresh, Buy a new wardrobe, And just move on. Erase her emails, burn her pictures, Block her cell phone, change everything about yourself and look forward to your future and live for you!!!
Author brothermartin Posted October 22, 2007 Author Posted October 22, 2007 Thanks everybody, especially you SEDGEWICK. I really needed to her a womans point of view on this. I'll try....
Blurple Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 When I say that I dont mean ALLLL Woman are weak. I am talking about woman that are in a breakup situation when they dont know what they want and try play the games blah blah blah you know what i mean if it makes you feel better woman = weak Men = insecure
sedgwick Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 Ha...now see, that's interesting to me, Blurple. I keep telling myself that he's so much better than me, I wasn't good enough for him, girlfriends like me are a dime a dozen, I was so stupid to ever get involved with someone so much cooler/smarter/more talented than I am and that I made a total fool of myself, because everyone could totally see that he was too good for me, etc. The thought that he could be insecure never even crossed my mind. Do the rest of you men agree with this?
Author brothermartin Posted October 22, 2007 Author Posted October 22, 2007 That a man can be insecure? Of course. Why do you think there are so many men on sites like this one, asking what to do about the ex, or how to move on after she leaves them? I have'nt felt THIS insecure since juinor high!! And I F**KING HATE IT!! But I know it's a process we all have to go through after something like this. But I still F**KING HATEIT!!!
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