El-Producto Posted October 21, 2007 Posted October 21, 2007 Hi all, I've been away from the forums for quite awhile, and thought I'd update everyone on my situation, and I need some more advice. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t114972/ There is a link for those that don't know my situation. Things have been going well. I'm getting along fairly well with my Ex, and she's gotten a really good job, and has stopped asking for any child or spousal support. I recently got a new job, which involves no more shift work, and an increase in pay. About 3 months ago, I was reunited with a friend from high school, who was separated from her husband about the same time as my separation. She lives 5 hours away, and has 3 children. We started emailing back and forth, and then started talking on the phone. In a whirlwind of activity we are now "dating", and things have gotten quite serious.. too serious I think. I'm really struggling with how to deal with this, and am looking for the sound advice of the forum regulars. I know the answer, but I'm looking for reassurance, because I think it's going to be tough. I feel that things moved way too fast, and that I'm guilty for letting myself get this involved with someone so quickly. We only actually see each other about once or twice a month, with our schedules being so complicated and the distance. But we talk on the phone so much, and I'm burnt out. I know she is lonely, and craves talking to me. But she calls 3 and 4 times a day, and wants to spend all evening talking on the phone. My problem is, I am enjoying my new freedom, and try to do lots of extracurricular activities. She gets upset when I don't want to talk, and when I don't return her calls/emails. I'm afraid that all of this has really turned me off the relationship, not to mention the distance which is never going to change. Because both of us have shared custody of our children we are tied to where we live. I'm finding it exhausting, and not sure this is what I want. However I'm very afraid to tell her how I feel, even though I know that's what I have to do. I know she's very much in love with me, and has thoughts of being together forever. I just don't feel the same way. I'm afraid though, that in the early time of our relationship I felt the same way, and now I don't. She is going to be very hurt, and I don't think she'll deal with this as well as I will, because she's definately not at the point that I am. I know what you are all going to say, but I just don't want to do it. Thanks all!!!
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