marlena Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 I'll say it again. You sound like a very emotionally healthy, friendly, vivacious, warm-hearted and intelligent young girl.
Author fabulousgal Posted October 23, 2007 Author Posted October 23, 2007 Diplok, I love your picture haha.... thank you for your words. It was hard standing up, bc of course it wasn't what I wanted! But, I knew what was up ahead of me if I didn't. Pretty much stressing out and worrying about every little thing, and not opening up my eyes to someone who was going to make themselves available and appreciative. I wish it had worked, but sometimes we wish for things that aren't gonna happen. Marlena, thank you as well! How did you guess my age . You are totally right, I def felt like I was starting to bang my head on a brick wall. Good for you in advising your daughter, my parents ROCK but I do wish they could help me out more when it comes to relationships. FunkyBPlayer, of course people can have different opinons and in no way was I completely blameless. I think though I have an excellent regard for chalking things up to what I could have done differently, I spend way to much time in restepping my steps into what was wrong on my part and what was right, I do think I could have done some thing differently, and I've owned up to it to my ex and told him that this is what I would do. I would appreciate it even if he came to me and said, this is what you need to work on. Feedback is awesome.
marlena Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 my parents ROCK but I do wish they could help me out more when it comes to relationships. Here any time for you! My daughter is probably about the same age as you!
Darkzen Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 Darkzen, I don't know who you think your talking to but as far as having a life, hahaha.....I'm like the socialite of the year (TP/Aria wanna weigh in here???), trust I have plenty of friends, actvities, etc etc .... and no this isn't DEFENDING myself, this is telling someone who jumps the gun to calm down and ask first. Anyway, thanks for your opinons though. You were in the military correct? Thats my guess as to why you didn't talk to someone very often. That is a very reasonable thing then! But, what if there wasn't this noble thing going on that is incredibly demanding. What if there were no demands at all, and the person was pretty much "lollygagging" from place to place....I think the amount of time that SO can be fit in increases, bc responsibilities are exponentially decreased from what you are probably referring to. Anyway, thanks for serving our country, it means a lot. We all make assumptions when forming an opinion. The less information we hear, the bigger the assumption is. That's not jumping the gun IMHO. You have the opportunity to clarify, if you feel my interpretation is not correct. I'm also an extremely calm person, my writing style is very blunt and/or harsh, so people tend to think I'm angry/mad/excited/etc... The span of a month without talking to my SO, wasn't while I was in the Military, it was while in school. I was also in that relationship for 9 years and my SO treated me like crap for much of the time... I just didn't have a whole lot to say to her at that point. Each time I made the effort to talk to her prior, I felt like I was getting the brush off. Although, we still had other means of communication during that month. Yet, she didn't make any effort to call me either. That's my point though, why is the blame put on one person? Both of you could have made the effort to talk to another. I honestly believe he took off when you tried putting it all on his shoulders... you probably let your emotions get the best of you. Kind of like when you first replied to me here. Your ex is probably a flight personality (I'm a fight personality) and decided he had enough of the roller-coaster. I'm not attacking you or trying to hurt your feelings either. I'm making an observation, unfortunately, I don't sugar-coat things and sometimes they come off as being mean-spirited... they're not intended that way. Like I said, I'm blunt and straight-forward (I guess it comes from my time in the Military). Either way, let's agree to disagree on this.
Darkzen Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 Fabulous gal, don't pay attention to the negative comments posted by people taking out their frustrations on you. YOU DID THE RIGHT THING!!! I don't care what you did wrong in the relationship, the bottom line is you felt unappreciated and your partner did nothing about it. Someone that loves you would not treat you that way. That's a pretty self-centered statement IMHO. Disregard anyone that doesn't agree with you and do whatever you want in a relationship, because all the blame is to be put on your partner. Is that what you're implying? So I can cheat and lie, as long as I give adequate appreciation? And when someone calls me on being a cheater, they're just frustrated because they've been cheated on in the past? Seriously, is this your line of reasoning? Or does your stance change, depending on the particulars... maybe it's only ok to be a hypocrite and judgmental, but not cheat.
Teacher's Pet Posted October 24, 2007 Posted October 24, 2007 I'm like the socialite of the year (TP/Aria wanna weigh in here???) lol.... And you've hung out with us WHEN? :mad::mad: Call me....... -tp dial 1-900-TEACHERS-PET and kick them nasty thoughts!
AriaIncognito Posted October 25, 2007 Posted October 25, 2007 lol.... And you've hung out with us WHEN? :mad::mad: Call me....... -tp dial 1-900-TEACHERS-PET and kick them nasty thoughts! Yeah i've gotta be with TP on this one, though i could say the same to him LOL. It's been almost 2 months since he and I have hung out lol. I'm in california currently, so I'm hanging out with my hotel room. I'm also sick with a cold, boo. Maybe if you have that get together tp, fab will come and prove she is indeed a socialite ;-) Either way, I'm glad you stood up for what you want, you need to do that. You'll find him, eventually. We all will. Else, there's always cats. LOL.
Teacher's Pet Posted October 25, 2007 Posted October 25, 2007 Yeah i've gotta be with TP on this one, though i could say the same to him LOL. It's been almost 2 months since he and I have hung out lol. I'm in california currently, so I'm hanging out with my hotel room. I'm also sick with a cold, boo. Maybe if you have that get together tp, fab will come and prove she is indeed a socialite ;-) Either way, I'm glad you stood up for what you want, you need to do that. You'll find him, eventually. We all will. Else, there's always cats. LOL. Yeah, I know I haven't been around.... all this sex I've been having is keeping me indoors... I've been so busy with work... It's tough being Somerset County's hottest bartender (as voted by the 2 people at the bar Monday at noon) When you get back, we'll have to plan a karaoke night, and now that you are in a band, you are getting some good practice to prepare you for singing with me. And also, I just happen to have a favorite song of yours on karaoke disc now...... And of course, don't forget about our "third"..... she's in town as of today, as far as I know. (I just realized what "our third" could be construed as.... lol... NO NO NO ) And of course, my house (ok, ok, apartment) warming party is coming up..... as soon as I clear out the rest of the crap, repaint, get the new furniture in, evict the roaches, train the cats that "KILL" is not a standing order, etc..... I want to be featured on "Yo! LoveShack Cribs" and I'll need my lovely local LoveShack chickies (all 5 of 'em!) for the photo shoots. -tp pimp my apartment
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