fizzybanger Posted October 21, 2007 Posted October 21, 2007 I love my girlfriend but wen we are in public im always checkin out other girls. [most] of the time i dont know im doining it. I try to be conscious of wear im looking but it dosen't allways work. i know this sounds lame but im trying really hard. any ideas????
Ocean-Blue Posted October 21, 2007 Posted October 21, 2007 Does it bother her? Have you asked her? And there's a difference b/w simply admiring a hot person and staring like an idiot. Which one are you? It may not even be a big problem.
Author fizzybanger Posted October 21, 2007 Author Posted October 21, 2007 not shure im prob staring loke an idiot
Author fizzybanger Posted October 21, 2007 Author Posted October 21, 2007 and it is a big problem im going to lose her if i cant get it under controll
Ocean-Blue Posted October 21, 2007 Posted October 21, 2007 not shure im prob staring loke an idiot Yah, that ain't cool. But some girls don't really care that their SO looks (so long as he shares it with her...kinda like "ohh look at her"). I'm one of the. I could care less if my bf checks another girl out (so long as he's not drooling or anything). I like to know who he finds attractive. I do the same (if I see an attractive guy). You should ask her how she feels about it. If you think it's inappropriate behaviour, then stop doing it. Not like it's out of your control.
Yamaha Posted October 21, 2007 Posted October 21, 2007 You have self esteem issues. Do you do this to see if they show interest in you or do you feel the need to notice a pretty women?
Bobby NoBrains Posted October 21, 2007 Posted October 21, 2007 You start out making a conscious effort to not stare. Every time you stare, you pinch yourself and push your concentration to something to do with your gf or whatever, but away from thoughts of the people around you. Make it a conscious habit. With time it will change, but it will take time. Otoh, it could be a sign of you falling out of affection with your gf. If that is the reason why you keep ogling other women, there's other things you need to take care of first as to why you're feeling that way. Just my two bits .. Bobby
directx Posted October 21, 2007 Posted October 21, 2007 You have self esteem issues. Do you do this to see if they show interest in you or do you feel the need to notice a pretty women? How can you so definitely say he has self esteem issues? What brings you to that conclusion? Care to explain? He's enjoying looking at pretty women. I think most heterosexual men can relate.
whichwayisup Posted October 21, 2007 Posted October 21, 2007 You focus attention into your girlfriend and make a BIG effort NOT to check out other women while you're with your gf. If you respect her and want her to stick around you better change your ways quickly. There's a big difference between quietly looking at women, and GAWKING at them. Obviously you're doing it blatanly enough your gf is noticing and it's upsetting her. Put yourself in her shoes - How do you think it makes her feel?
seibert253 Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 Does this bother her? Let me put it this way; how would you feel if everytime the two of you were out, she was checking out other dudes? In my case, I was doing this and not really realizing what I was doing. Until my wife started calling me on it, then it was easier to recognize what I was doing. Now, if I see a good looking female, I make a conscious effort NOT to look. I'm not always successful, but much better than I used to be. Peace,
Art_Critic Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 I think it depends on what your thoughts are when you look at the women.. If you are looking at them and thinking " Damn.. I'd just love to lay my co%k between those tits".. or " damn that ass is hot.. wonder what it would feel like to slide my co%k in that " then I would think you are perving and maybe you should find another GF to be with.. But if you are just admiring another girls face or whatever and you aren't thinking sexual thoughts then just learn to glance and not stare. My wife will look at other guys and girls while we are out and I'll do the same but there aren't any sexual thoughts about it.. We People Watch.. Maybe you you could learn to just People Watch instead of Girl Watch.. People Watching can be fun and you both can talk about people that you see.
MistressOfTony Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 How about checking out some men instead? Or let your GF check other men out...
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