Krytie TV Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 Make us believers then. Show it on the field.
Kamille Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 I would recommend not using myspace to convey your emotions to someone. A friend of mine has an ex who did this to her and she really wasn't impressed. It's telling him in a passive way that you have him on the brain all the time. CC, whether he realizes it or not, this guy has you wrapped around his little finger. but let me just say this... When you meet someone with whom you are truly compatible, he will never put you in the position of having to torture yourself for over a year to figure out whether or not he likes you. You know why? Because he will care for your well-being too much to fail you so miserably, especially knowing - as this guy does- just how much you like him. A good man, the kind who becomes a good boyfriend, supports you through your own insecurities. He does not hold them against you. And then I remember that this is a guy who told you he didn't want a relationship right now. CC, when are you going to stop putting yourself in this kind of vulnerable position? You are worth so much more!
uniqueone Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 . A good man, the kind who becomes a good boyfriend, supports you through your own insecurities. He does not hold them against you. Good point!
Author chill chic Posted October 29, 2007 Author Posted October 29, 2007 I really want to speak my mind to him, but then I don't want to come across as psycho, but I really want him to know what's on my mind and that I want to stop with the retarded meaningless texts because it's foolish. Should I give him the silent treatment or speak my mind?
Kamille Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 Speak your mind once and for all. If he can't handle it, you're better off without him.
Author chill chic Posted October 29, 2007 Author Posted October 29, 2007 ok good idea, how should I word it though? I really want to tell him now, but it would be through email. I'm not sure when I'm going to see him again, but I'd really like to get it off my chest now and move on. how should I say it? I know he said he liked me, but c'mon if he liked me he would've put in more effort to see me this weekend.
Kamille Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 So what is it specifically that's on your mind?
Author chill chic Posted October 29, 2007 Author Posted October 29, 2007 that I don't want the run around anymore, and to stop with the inuendos, and just confused because he said he liked me, was treating me very well last weekend, planned on hanging out this weekend, but he did a total 180 and just texted me all weekend instead, it's enough to make me crazy, I just want the real deal, and I'm not going to wait around. that's what I want to say it, but to him I'm not sure which way is the best to get the point across.
Cobra_X30 Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 that I don't want the run around anymore, and to stop with the inuendos, and just confused because he said he liked me, was treating me very well last weekend, planned on hanging out this weekend, but he did a total 180 and just texted me all weekend instead, it's enough to make me crazy, I just want the real deal, and I'm not going to wait around. that's what I want to say it, but to him I'm not sure which way is the best to get the point across. Well, at this point it doesnt matter why he does this. It just matters that he does. So, with that mindset you need to just approach him and say. Listen if you want this to work, I'm going to need more from you. I want X, Y, and Z, and I need to know if your the kind of man that can provide that. If not... I think we should see other people. That sound good?
Kamille Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 But to add on: be clear about what you want. Tell him ahead of time what you are hoping the outcome of the conversation will be. don't use this conversation as emotional manipulation. Resist the urge to make try and make him say stuff you want to hear. Be strong and confident. Once you have stated what you are hoping it the outcome of the conversation, then listen, truly listen to his answers. He means what he says.
Author chill chic Posted October 29, 2007 Author Posted October 29, 2007 Well, at this point it doesnt matter why he does this. It just matters that he does. So, with that mindset you need to just approach him and say. Listen if you want this to work, I'm going to need more from you. I want X, Y, and Z, and I need to know if your the kind of man that can provide that. If not... I think we should see other people. That sound good? is it cheesy to email him about it? I never know when I'm going to see him again, and it's really bothering me right now. but yah honestly he's thrown me for a loop and I want to shut him down at his own game if that's what he's trying to do. just last weekend, like I said, I thought we were getting somewhere, we both said we liked each other, then he apologized for not being able to join me on thursday night, I told him what was up, stood my ground, because that's when he came around & apologized, and sent me texts all night saying how great I was. then I said to call me while I was out, then the texts started again. so it's either he was hanging out with another girl this weekend or he did absolutely nothing this weekend and didn't want me to know he was just sitting at home by himself. so anyway, in a way, I just want to say that I'm done with the texts, leave it at that, and not ever initiate anything for awhile, unless he shapes up.
Kamille Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 is it cheesy to email him about it? I never know when I'm going to see him again, and it's really bothering me right now. but yah honestly he's thrown me for a loop and I want to shut him down at his own game if that's what he's trying to do. just last weekend, like I said, I thought we were getting somewhere, we both said we liked each other, then he apologized for not being able to join me on thursday night, I told him what was up, stood my ground, because that's when he came around & apologized, and sent me texts all night saying how great I was. then I said to call me while I was out, then the texts started again. so it's either he was hanging out with another girl this weekend or he did absolutely nothing this weekend and didn't want me to know he was just sitting at home by himself. so anyway, in a way, I just want to say that I'm done with the texts, leave it at that, and not ever initiate anything for awhile, unless he shapes up. I highly recommand you do this conversation in person. You can practice writing it down, but don't send it via email.
Author chill chic Posted October 29, 2007 Author Posted October 29, 2007 But to add on: be clear about what you want. Tell him ahead of time what you are hoping the outcome of the conversation will be. don't use this conversation as emotional manipulation. Resist the urge to make try and make him say stuff you want to hear. Be strong and confident. Once you have stated what you are hoping it the outcome of the conversation, then listen, truly listen to his answers. He means what he says. ok basically I just want to say...."over this weekend I felt that the texts were a lil redundant and I no longer want to engage in that behavior, we've both said we liked each other, so I thought there was more substance than just that, I've known you for awhile now, but the same thing always prevails, so I'm going to lay low from the texts from now on."
Author chill chic Posted October 29, 2007 Author Posted October 29, 2007 I highly recommand you do this conversation in person. You can practice writing it down, but don't send it via email. good idea, I just don't know when that's going to happen, I'd rather not drag it on for longer than it has to be, but I guess in the meantime I'll just ignore until I see him again. oh and honestly...would he be pissed or wonder what was up if he was the 1st guy on my top list and now I put him at 2nd? He's kinda insecure so I could see that he'd take notice ya know? I know it's retarded but hear me out
Author chill chic Posted October 29, 2007 Author Posted October 29, 2007 better yet..I'm not going to say a damn thing..less is more it this point, if he wants to still play games, I'm not going to fall for it anymore.
Cobra_X30 Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 is it cheesy to email him about it? I never know when I'm going to see him again, and it's really bothering me right now. but yah honestly he's thrown me for a loop and I want to shut him down at his own game if that's what he's trying to do. so anyway, in a way, I just want to say that I'm done with the texts, leave it at that, and not ever initiate anything for awhile, unless he shapes up. Well, others may disagree, but if I remember this guy is way up into electronic communication. I think an email may be appropriate! I think you will better be able to communicate your feelings if he cant bust in and throw you off your game. I'm not really sure that he is playing games with you. What I can say is that you two may have completely incompatible communication styles.
uniqueone Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 Should I give him the silent treatment or speak my mind? would he be pissed or wonder what was up if he was the 1st guy on my top list and now I put him at 2nd? is it cheesy to email him about it? ok good idea, how should I word it though? ..... how should I say it? Should I give him the silent treatment or speak my mind? Why is nobody seeing this but me? Why is no one seeing that she can't speak or act unless someone tells her what to say or do? Why??? Can't anyone see how this isn't helping her? Did I fall into a rabbit hole or something because I feel like no one can hear me?
Star Gazer Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 Why is nobody seeing this but me? Why is no one seeing that she can't speak or act unless someone tells her what to say or do? Why??? Can't anyone see how this isn't helping her? Did I fall into a rabbit hole or something because I feel like no one can hear me? No. Plenty of us see and hear it, we've simply given up. Many people - including yourself - aren't able to heed the advice provided. It's quite frustrating to the person putting in the effort and time to try to help.
Cobra_X30 Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 No. Plenty of us see and hear it, we've simply given up. Many people - including yourself - aren't able to heed the advice provided. It's quite frustrating to the person putting in the effort and time to try to help. Patience SG. Some need training wheels!
uniqueone Posted October 30, 2007 Posted October 30, 2007 No. Plenty of us see and hear it, we've simply given up. Many people - including yourself - aren't able to heed the advice provided. It's quite frustrating to the person putting in the effort and time to try to help. I didn't ask for --or want---your opinion of me. This is a thread about CC. Let's stick to the topic of the thread instead of trying to start things here. Thanks SG. Back to my point...the point was that many posters are continuing to be her voice for her. The point is NOT whether she's taking anyone's advice or not. The point is that no one is getting her to think for HERSELF.
Star Gazer Posted October 30, 2007 Posted October 30, 2007 I didn't ask for --or want---your opinion of me. This is a thread about CC. Let's stick to the topic of the thread instead of trying to start things here. Thanks SG. Back to my point...the point was that many posters are continuing to be her voice for her. The point is NOT whether she's taking anyone's advice or not. The point is that no one is getting her to think for HERSELF. You are so resistant to anyone who disagrees with you, it's INSANE! Don't you get my point? The advice IS to THINK for HERSELF! Jeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeez.
johan Posted October 30, 2007 Posted October 30, 2007 Be nice, girls. There's no Jello on LS, so there's not much in it for the rest of us if you start fighting. Hm... Maybe we can get Tony to start up a Jello, pudding or mud forum... That would be pretty cool...
uniqueone Posted October 30, 2007 Posted October 30, 2007 Be nice, girls. There's no Jello on LS, so there's not much in it for the rest of us if you start fighting. Hm... Maybe we can get Tony to start up a Jello, pudding or mud forum... That would be pretty cool... Thanks Jo, but I'd rather just ignore it....lol
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