uniqueone Posted October 25, 2007 Posted October 25, 2007 So what should I do from here on out? Should I say something or should I wait for him to come out & say it? CC, you know what I'd like to see from you? I'd like to see you say "Here's what I'm going to do....what do you think?" instead of "What should I do?" I think it'd be nice to see you take a risk to do what YOU think you ought to do and then see what happens. And then, if it turns out right, you're going to feel really good and really strong. You're going to feel a LOT better than you will if we tell you what to do. And if it doesn't turn out to be the right approach, then you'll come up with another solution and try again. You should use our encouragement, but I think you need to stop using us to tell you what to do. You're never going to feel strong that way.
Author chill chic Posted October 25, 2007 Author Posted October 25, 2007 really quick people, need your help! I was asking around if people wanted to go with me to this new lounge tonight because I received an invitation, like I posted a bulletin on my myspace. He wrote a message to me saying he had never been there before so I wrote him back asking if he'd like to go with me. In the meantime he was asking around to his friends to see what they were doing. but he hadn't replied back to me yet. So I emailed him again because I needed to know in case I was going to take someone else. (I didn't say that to him though) so then he wrote back there were other things going on, he's not yet decided on what to do, he has to travel tomorrow for his job, so I wrote him back saying something about the event tonight and if anything I'd like to see him. and he said he'll try to text me and that he can't commit to anything in his head yet. WHAT? then why did he write to me in the first place about possibly going. anyway, what should I write back? I was just going to say "ok cool." but I don't want him to think I'm phased by it BUT I do feel like 2nd best in the situation and I'm a bit disappointed. how should I react?
Pyro Posted October 25, 2007 Posted October 25, 2007 really quick people, need your help! I was asking around if people wanted to go with me to this new lounge tonight because I received an invitation, like I posted a bulletin on my myspace. He wrote a message to me saying he had never been there before so I wrote him back asking if he'd like to go with me. In the meantime he was asking around to his friends to see what they were doing. but he hadn't replied back to me yet. So I emailed him again because I needed to know in case I was going to take someone else. (I didn't say that to him though) so then he wrote back there were other things going on, he's not yet decided on what to do, he has to travel tomorrow for his job, so I wrote him back saying something about the event tonight and if anything I'd like to see him. and he said he'll try to text me and that he can't commit to anything in his head yet. WHAT? then why did he write to me in the first place about possibly going. anyway, what should I write back? I was just going to say "ok cool." but I don't want him to think I'm phased by it BUT I do feel like 2nd best in the situation and I'm a bit disappointed. how should I react? Find someone else to go with. If he really wanted to go with you, he would have said yes right away, or if he couldn't go due to work, he would tell you that. Sounds like he doesn't know what he wants.
Author chill chic Posted October 25, 2007 Author Posted October 25, 2007 Find someone else to go with. If he really wanted to go with you, he would have said yes right away, or if he couldn't go due to work, he would tell you that. Sounds like he doesn't know what he wants. ok sounds like a plan, should I say anything back to him? I kinda want to, just because I'm in that kinda mood, but what should I say? yah I don't like the wishy washiness.
Pyro Posted October 25, 2007 Posted October 25, 2007 ok sounds like a plan, should I say anything back to him? I kinda want to, just because I'm in that kinda mood, but what should I say? yah I don't like the wishy washiness. Don't say anything. You don't need to waste your time or energy on someone who doesn't want to hang out with you. Save that energy and time for someone worthwhile.
Author chill chic Posted October 25, 2007 Author Posted October 25, 2007 thanks Riddler, I need to meet someone like you! lol always great advice
Pyro Posted October 25, 2007 Posted October 25, 2007 thanks Riddler, I need to meet someone like you! lol always great advice I'm one in a million, so it might be a little tough for you, but I have faith in you. Thats what I am here for.
Author chill chic Posted October 25, 2007 Author Posted October 25, 2007 I'm one in a million, so it might be a little tough for you, but I have faith in you. Thats what I am here for. it's very tough, believe me. thanks for believing and thanks for your support
Author chill chic Posted October 25, 2007 Author Posted October 25, 2007 Hey Riddler, should I give him another chance? He just asked me if I wanted to go to this other place with him.
Pyro Posted October 25, 2007 Posted October 25, 2007 Hey Riddler, should I give him another chance? He just asked me if I wanted to go to this other place with him. I wouldn't if I were you. He probably asked you to go there because everyone else that he was talking to is going there. You asked him first to go to your place and he wanted to see what else was going on. In other words if there was something that was better then hanging out with you available, he would take that. You are a plan B to him.
Author chill chic Posted October 25, 2007 Author Posted October 25, 2007 I wouldn't if I were you. He probably asked you to go there because everyone else that he was talking to is going there. You asked him first to go to your place and he wanted to see what else was going on. In other words if there was something that was better then hanging out with you available, he would take that. You are a plan B to him. ahh..very good point, I see what you're saying.
Author chill chic Posted October 25, 2007 Author Posted October 25, 2007 I'll just tell him I'm going with someone else haha.
Pyro Posted October 25, 2007 Posted October 25, 2007 I'll just tell him I'm going with someone else haha. Thats good. You deserve better then that.
Pyro Posted October 25, 2007 Posted October 25, 2007 Sweet deal. He will probably respond. Please don't reply back.
Author chill chic Posted October 25, 2007 Author Posted October 25, 2007 well I wrote this, tell me if it's ignorant though! "what time? ahh..I see... well you should try coming to where I'm at sometime... I think I might still go to Lush someone else asked if I was going.."
Pyro Posted October 25, 2007 Posted October 25, 2007 well I wrote this, tell me if it's ignorant though! "what time? ahh..I see... well you should try coming to where I'm at sometime... I think I might still go to Lush someone else asked if I was going.." You didn't have to write all that. Just stick right to the point and say thanks, but no thanks. I'm going to Lush like I originally planned.
Author chill chic Posted October 25, 2007 Author Posted October 25, 2007 better yet! ok I will "unsend" and "resend"
Author chill chic Posted October 25, 2007 Author Posted October 25, 2007 oh..I just re read what I sent him before, and I said "I don't necessarily care what I do tonight, I just wanna see you" oops, well does that change anything? or should I still have the same attitude?
uniqueone Posted October 25, 2007 Posted October 25, 2007 oops, well does that change anything? or should I still have the same attitude? "should I still have the same attitude" you're asking (above). It's YOUR attitude! You can't ask others what it should be! Claim it as your own! CC, did you even read my earlier post? Please read your last several posts,ok? This is starting to sound ridiculous. Absolutely nothing that you do is coming from yourself. You place your entire life in the hands of others (I'm including LS posters). And the LS posters who are continuing to tell her verbatim what to do are enabling her. I'm saying this to help you CC, because anyone telling you exactly what to do, feel and think are not helping you out in the long run.
Kamille Posted October 26, 2007 Posted October 26, 2007 I'm one in a million, so it might be a little tough for you, but I have faith in you. Thats what I am here for. Riddler, you're one in 6 billion. I really like Unique's advice to you CC, but really, you do have a tendency to make yourself too available. Did you read that book Why men love bitches? I read through it and I think you might enjoy reading it. And no - the fact you said you wanted to spend time with him doesn't change anything. You're really afraid of letting this guy go, aren't you? Remember, you have to decide how you want to be treated and be willing to walk away when men don't treat you that way.
Author chill chic Posted October 29, 2007 Author Posted October 29, 2007 freakin' retarded weekend... well I thought he was turning for the better when he kept texting me that Thursday night, saying he was sorry that he couldn't attend, then when I didn't respond, he called me, I didn't answer. So I texted him back later and told him it was ok, and that when he goes out this weekend to call me. so he texted me back saying how great I was, just pouring on the compliments, thinking he was being genuine, which I still think he was. So then the next night he texted me while me and my girl friend were at a lounge, asking if I was out, if I looked all sexy, etc, and I said I was wearing a conservative dress, long sleeve sweater-like dress, looked almost professional like, I was proud of myself lol. anyway, after that I didn't hear from him, so I was like WHY would he ask what I was doing and everything else? then lastnight, same thing, then this morning he said he forget his phone lastnight, and said he was sorry that he missed me. So i don't freakin' get it, so now on my myspace he's 2nd best to my other guy friend, and my mood is "indifferent". I hate to think that I'm just there to feed his damn ego, because he was treating me so well up until this weekend, thursday I thought everything was cool, he was saying meaningful stuff. So who knows, the forgot the phone thing could be that he's a loser and didn't go out ALL this weekend and he didn't want me to know. LOTS of scenerios, but I'm sick of the stupid games!
Krytie TV Posted October 29, 2007 Posted October 29, 2007 LOTS of scenerios, but I'm sick of the stupid games! Are you sure about that?
Author chill chic Posted October 29, 2007 Author Posted October 29, 2007 sure about what the drama? YES
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