hopeforlove243 Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 Maybe you are anger at yourself, cause you take him even though he did those bad things to you? I just don't know the point of writing him and telling him the bad things he did to you, cause to him, he obviously doesn't care, and to you, how that would help you moving on?
johan Posted October 22, 2007 Posted October 22, 2007 Regardless, it's conversations like this that I want to throw in his face. There's no way he can deny this happened and he knows he will look like an absolute a$$. I haven't read the entire thread, but I understand that you feel the need to write this guy in order to unload some feelings. I think... - whether he's very narcissistic or not is hard to judge, but he certainly didn't seem to feel a lot of passion for you when you arrived. Not even basic regard. Maybe he didn't know you hadn't eaten, but still. - if he didn't think his actions were wrong then, then he's not going to think so now. Particularly if he has narcissistic tendencies. Overall, it seems like you're better off having not gotten more involved with him. At some point you'll feel better leaving the past in the past and focusing on what you want for the future.
Author uniqueone Posted October 22, 2007 Author Posted October 22, 2007 I haven't read the entire thread, but I understand that you feel the need to write this guy in order to unload some feelings. I think... - whether he's very narcissistic or not is hard to judge, but he certainly didn't seem to feel a lot of passion for you when you arrived. Not even basic regard. Maybe he didn't know you hadn't eaten, but still. - if he didn't think his actions were wrong then, then he's not going to think so now. Particularly if he has narcissistic tendencies. Overall, it seems like you're better off having not gotten more involved with him. At some point you'll feel better leaving the past in the past and focusing on what you want for the future. Oh it'll make him feel bad. I have a number of things that will make him feel bad. I need to find a forum where I can talk about the things he did. It seems like on LS, everyone just says "get over him" and stuff like that. And it doesn't seem like anyone thinks this is bad.....and the story gets a lot worse too but I never told it all because no one here seemed to care. How come everyone here wants all the details of Chillchicks situations and they go on for posts and posts, but with mine, I just get "move on"?
Ruby Posted October 24, 2007 Posted October 24, 2007 You are not alone in your thinking UO! When you tell your problem here, you get great advice from some people, and when you dont take that advice to the letter you get told that you did not do as you was told and dont bother asking if you wont do as you are told. Feelings are not always so black and white, sometimes we know what is right and wrong but our heart is telling us different. We are not all robots and we cant all be perfect and do as we are told by others who are not feeling our pain. I am interested in your past experience with this guy UO and I wont judge you so fire away and tell all, or you can PM me? xx
Author uniqueone Posted October 24, 2007 Author Posted October 24, 2007 You are not alone in your thinking UO! When you tell your problem here, you get great advice from some people, and when you dont take that advice to the letter you get told that you did not do as you was told and dont bother asking if you wont do as you are told. Feelings are not always so black and white, sometimes we know what is right and wrong but our heart is telling us different. We are not all robots and we cant all be perfect and do as we are told by others who are not feeling our pain. I am interested in your past experience with this guy UO and I wont judge you so fire away and tell all, or you can PM me? xx Thank you so much Ruby! Thanks for understanding. You are absolutely right about the advice thing. I probably should PM you instead of posting it here, because it doesn't seem like there's much interest in my story here anyway (since you're the first person who's really asked about it)
funkybassplayer Posted October 24, 2007 Posted October 24, 2007 a quetion, what are you looking for here? and what do you want from posting about your situation? think about it, cos the answer will be why you cant let go of your anger towards this chap.
Author uniqueone Posted October 25, 2007 Author Posted October 25, 2007 Honestly Uniqueone, my perspective on people: when someone does me wrong, I don't forget it. I may forgive, but I don't forget. The way this guy treats you, he doesn't deserve you, your time, or your energy. I never forget the bad - thats how you learn, and the only way you can defend yourself from people that hurt you. If people want to throw the Bible in your face about forgiveness, throw the Bible term 'Don't cast your pearls before swine' right back at them at move on. And regards to the food thing, a person should ask a stranger in their car if they want something, not to mention a past acquaintance. If it was me, I would never forget the bad things he did to you, i wouldn't waste any second of your life you don't have to regarding him, and simply move him out of your mind the best you can. Don't waste your time or feel guilty about treating garbage like garbage. Life is too short. Good points, DirectX....you're right. I shouldn't forget it but I always figure that the person acted that way because they were hurt or something. It's funny you mentioned the Bible, btw, because he and I used to have a lot of theological conversations. I won't go into them because I dont want to open up that can of worms here.
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