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It is the second weekend we broke up...I want to call him... ?

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pinktiger Member

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I can not stop crying, I can not stop thinking about him... I am so desperate...

I am so lonely...

 

I want to call him but I know I can not, i should not but I miss him I miss his voice i miss his smile

 

I want to be his girlfriend again...

 

HELP!!!:sick::sick::sick::sick::sick::sick:

oheaton New Member

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This might be a bit different from what I went thorugh, but I can say I know how you feel. Give him some space and try the no contact thing it can work, you just have to give it time. There is nothing wrong with missing things about him, its fine to feel this way, if you leave him he is more likely to come back to you.

 

Anyway good luck! :)

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Awwww Pinktiger*hugs* You can do it. Be strong, write out a big letter that you'll never send. Write a huge pros and cons list. Post here, watch sad movies, go for long walks*this helped me a lot*, listen to music and cry.

It's okay to be sad..I have moments where I just cry and cry. But I also have times when I am perfectly okay.

 

If you love something, set it free. Give him some space and time and let him come to you.

lonestranger New Member

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It may not be what youwant to hear, but your pain is a 'right of passage'.

You are human, and it will hurt for a while but it's not permanent.

You will heal and eventually move on. You won't for get him in a hurry

but that's ok. It's like a 'love scar' it won't completely dissapear but over time it will bother you less and less. Just give yourself time.

 

If it helps, think of your past boyfriends, ex's and how you probably loved them with as much passion. Now when you think about them you'll

remember how 'crazy in love' you were but somehow the hurt is gone.

That's because you were healing without realising it.

 

This new hurt is no different. It may take 6 months, or even a year

but when you're focus finds a new love (and you will! trust me!

despite feeling that you'll never love anyone again!) the current hurt will

begin to subside.

 

So, cry when you want to, feel bad when you want to, after all you are a living feeling entity. Just remember that you will be ok after a while.

:)

 

I'm just speaking from my own expriences, which seems to be a universal pattern :)

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should i call him now? he told me we could be best friend forever. i can cry on his shoulders. can i just hear his voice?

I am dying here...

trulysomething Member

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Ultimately it's up to you...but what if you feel worse after it?

 

Take some time to think about you and write out all your thoughts in a letter or journal.

 

I wouldn't do it.

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but i have no energy to do anything else. every part of body hurts...

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should i call him now? he told me we could be best friend forever. i can cry on his shoulders. can i just hear his voice?

I am dying here...

 

Hi Pink,

You need just to relax for a second. As hard as it may seems, you're not alone. Everybody here wishes to get on the f****g phone and make the call. The thing is that it may turned out to be the wrong move and make you loose whatever chances you have to get him back.

Now, you nee to realize that the more you show weakness to him the more you lower attraction and chances. He won't take you back if you beg him. And you also need to open your eyes and realize that you cannot be friend to this guy for the way you feel about him.

I will suggest you to stay strong and not to call him, at least until you have gotten back to your feet. It will only work to your advantage. Trust me.

If you feel desperate, as anybody else here, keep on posting. Somebody will always talk to you and give good advices.

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I understand every single word of all the posts, however, it is so hard to do. every minutes is hard to go by...

 

I don't want to talk to everyone... I have cried in my bed whole afternoon...what can i do?

trulysomething Member

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Do what you feel you need to...but don't contact him.

If you want to cry all day in bed, do it. If you want to get up and stand in the shower for hours..do it. If you want to beat a pillow..do it!

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I want to beat him...

BlueEyedSarah

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he told me we could be best friend forever. i can cry on his shoulders.

But wouldnt it hurt you more to just be friends with him? And what if he found a girlfriend, wouldnt that be even more hurtful to see him happy with some other girl when it used to be you?

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beat a pillow instead and pretend it's him. You will be sad, angry and hurt..and maybe eventually feel a little bit more relieved after.

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It does hurt me. We are still having lunch together everyday. He told me it would help to get over him and move on. I think he feels guilty because he know how painful it is for me.

I do appreciate his help and do want to have a big heart. But sometimes, it hurts more than not to be friends at all.

I am afraid that if I go NC, I will never get chance to talk to him any more...

BlueEyedSarah

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"Abscence makes the heart grow fonder".

 

I think you should go NC for a week or 2, let him contact you, let him wonder where you are. He may realise what he lost if he does not hear from you for a while.

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I took a long walk....I came back, just saw the cup he brought for me...

crying crying crying:eek::eek::eek::sick::sick::sick:

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My situation is absolutely similar to yours and I feel the same pain you do. At least you know there is someone here who feels the same you do. Be stong, and do whatever you feel to take pain away.

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Last night i forced myself to sleep. i dreamed of him. we were still together. he hug me tight and kiss me deep. i don't know i will be ever able to fill the hole in my heart...

 

Maybe at the same time, he is f*** another girl, telling her the sweet things he told me before... he is enjoying his life but leaves me in the dark

 

No matter what I do, i can not stop thinking about him. today is another tough day, i don't how i will go through it without crying...

 

I so want to call him and beg him to get me back...

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Those dreams are the worst i know, its like your dream is normal life then you wake up to a nightmare which is reality. Very tough!

 

 

This makes no sense now im sure but you will kinda miss what you are going through after its over, it is one of the hardest things a person can go through and you being out there alone dealing with this without your main support is actually very empowering, you are becoming a much stronger, better, more loving person because of all of this.

 

 

Ride it out!! Day by day, minute by minute breath by breath.

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Why is it so hard? Why can I just rid him off like bandit?

 

Today i went to work. I tried to get myself busy. The day was ok until I got home and there is nobody there...

 

I need to take a warm bath...

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