JNLVegas Posted October 20, 2007 Posted October 20, 2007 After some time with NC I finally spoke to him yesterday. He said he was still confused and there was another woman he started talking to (he said just talking) ok he did move out of the house but then he starts confiding in someone else while we are in NC? He said he was taking a month off work to go away and straighten his life out and then think about what he going to do. Me, wife, or new friend or another exgirlfriend that called him out of the blue the other day. I told him he was I jerk and I was disgusted and I that I had lost respect for him. I told him he was on his own and good luck!! He sent me a text that he was sorry did not want to hurt me, just very confused. I told him I was too old for games, and that we would have been great together. He still wants to be friends at least, I am seriously disgusted and really did lose respect for him, I don't think I can even stand the sight of him, much less friends. What should I do if he comes back from his time away and decides that I am the one he wants?
Lizzie60 Posted October 20, 2007 Posted October 20, 2007 After some time with NC I finally spoke to him yesterday. He said he was still confused and there was another woman he started talking to (he said just talking) ok he did move out of the house but then he starts confiding in someone else while we are in NC? He said he was taking a month off work to go away and straighten his life out and then think about what he going to do. Me, wife, or new friend or another exgirlfriend that called him out of the blue the other day. I told him he was I jerk and I was disgusted and I that I had lost respect for him. I told him he was on his own and good luck!! He sent me a text that he was sorry did not want to hurt me, just very confused. I told him I was too old for games, and that we would have been great together. He still wants to be friends at least, I am seriously disgusted and really did lose respect for him, I don't think I can even stand the sight of him, much less friends. What should I do if he comes back from his time away and decides that I am the one he wants? I don't get it!!! You are disgusted... you lost respect... can't even stand his sight... don't want to be friends... then you ask yourself what if???? Give your head a shake my dear.... you need to wake up and smell the Java!... seriously. This guy is confused...IF he would really loves you and YOU'D be the one... he wouldn't be confused.. come on now.
OpenBook Posted October 20, 2007 Posted October 20, 2007 What should I do if he comes back from his time away and decides that I am the one he wants? Tell him you've met someone else. Then sit back and enjoy the view.:D
whichwayisup Posted October 20, 2007 Posted October 20, 2007 It sounds like he just needs to be alone, play the field and do what he wants, when he wants - NO committment. Continue the NC, and if in a year, he calls you and you still have feelings for him, date him casually and see where it leads. Until then, I would let this guy go. He needs to be alone and do his own thing before making any kind of serious committment to anyone. Take care of you and be happy you aren't going to get your heart broken by him anymore!
norajane Posted October 20, 2007 Posted October 20, 2007 What should I do if he comes back from his time away and decides that I am the one he wants? If you had been dating a single guy for a while, and he then told you he was choosing between you and 3 other women, wouldn't you wave 'buh-bye' and move on to someone who is all about you and only you? Isn't that what you want - a man who loves you, wants to be with you, and isn't all confused about which woman he should be with? So why would you even entertain the idea of sticking around for this contest and seeing if you are chosen? He's no prize. He's not divorced. If he goes through with that, he's going to need time to get his ya-ya's out and be with a number of women. He will need to spend time on his own before he's ready to make a true commitment to a partner.
xsianx Posted October 21, 2007 Posted October 21, 2007 I don't know your story, but looking in from the outside and first impression, this guy must have an ego the size of Mount Everest, having four women pandering after him, that's all I can say LOL. Is he a Brad Pitt lookalike or something? He's just enjoying the attention, I'd tell him to get lost and get stuffed! I wouldn't even be here asking what I should do, if he says he wanted me when he returns. The fact he doesn't know who he wants between FOUR women and had to choose between FOUR women, would be enough to send him packing and for good! Say you get with him and another ex gf calls out of the blue.....what then? He sounds like a rampant rabbit to me! Sorry, just the way I see it
NoIDidn't Posted October 21, 2007 Posted October 21, 2007 If he comes back saying that you are the one, remember that you feel that he is a jerk and that you have no respect for him. Me, myself would ask him what happened to all of his other *options* as he certainly doesn't see any of you as persons with feelings. Never let him come back. He is confused. Confused people create drama. Drama is stressful. Stress kills.
Tomcat33 Posted October 21, 2007 Posted October 21, 2007 Never let him come back. He is confused. Confused people create drama. Drama is stressful. Stress kills. Wow those are probably the best words I have read in all of LS. Very true words. JNL if he comes back to you just remember the feelings of disgust you have for him now, how could you love someone and make a future life with someone that you feel disgust for? Just ask yourself that. And shouldn't this man have to do backflips for you in order to win your trust and admiration back? But why would you want to take a chance on someone that has to do backflips in order to win your love back? Admiration is a primordial part of love without it how can love exist?
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