oneofmany Posted October 20, 2007 Posted October 20, 2007 Hi everyone, been reading some of the threads here but this is my first post, wnated to get some advice from you all. I have a female friend who shows lots of little signs of interest - makes more eye contact, smiles, laughs at my jokes, intimate conversations, caught her looking at me etc. But if I ask her to do something small, like come for a coffee with me, she makes an excuse. She's done that a couple of times now and I know that she could have made the time on some occasions. I've guessed I'm in the friendzone and have tried to ignore her, but she then finds ways of bumping into me. I have tried talking to other women but she gets jealous. I just don't understand her. She seems to want more than friendship but nothing romantic. Anyone got any ideas how I should handle this and/or what she is thinking? Thanks.
Timberlane Posted October 20, 2007 Posted October 20, 2007 You might be misinterpreting these signals, or you might actually be in the WTF-Zone. This often overlooked Zone is inadvertently visited more frequently than the other two combined.
LucreziaBorgia Posted October 20, 2007 Posted October 20, 2007 I just don't understand her. She seems to want more than friendship but nothing romantic. Anyone got any ideas how I should handle this and/or what she is thinking? Thanks. Its infuriating when girls do that. She may not be interested in you, but she likes that you are interested in her - and its important that she keep you hooked like that so that she can continue to keep you around to feed her ego. Girls do not like to see some other woman snatch up the friendguy. That means no more ego feed. Honestly, I'd cut my losses on this one. You can prevent someone from bumping into you, but sidestepping them or foisting them off with a "I'm really busy" excuse and part ways.
Author oneofmany Posted October 20, 2007 Author Posted October 20, 2007 The WTF zone? I have wondered if she is aware that I like her and maybe her actions reflect this. But how can she ever know if she won't get together with me for a short while? I have that little niggling doubt in my head that there is some interest in her, but then if I'm friendzoned I would think that. I want to walk away but I don't want to lose an opportunity if there is one.
LovelyLovely2 Posted October 20, 2007 Posted October 20, 2007 it sounds like she doesn't want to lose you as a friend, but wants to keep you close enough to where you guys can have fun without it being awkward. She probably knows you like her and doesn't want to lead you on thats why she makes excuses. If you act like you're totally fine with being friends and confident she may just be more attracted to you.. I'm not exactly sure in this situation but I have had a guy friend I didn't want to lose and I loved being around him, so I would be interested, but not how he wanted me to be. I hope this helped a little.
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