fudge_cake_89 Posted October 19, 2007 Posted October 19, 2007 ive been with my boyfriend for 4 months now, 1) ive never particularly found him attractive, but he is a really really lovely guy and treats me like an absolute princess. 2) hes got a very snappy temper and gets angry about the smallest things. 3) he has quite low self confidence, and whenever i give him a nice comment he jokes around or ignores it, or (duno How de does it) finds a way to make my nice comment sound really negative and horrible towards him 4) i never wanted to enter a relationship before uni. 5) i visited him at the weekend and i got quite irritated with him easily and didnt enjoy the whole weekend as much as i should have done. 6) i want to just be best friends again, because its more relaxed and fun, meaning ending the relationship, but he's completely in love with me and would quite likely become very depressed if that happened. now. i have a male flatmate at uni who i have become particularly fond of lets say. 1) i find him attractive 2) we hav a similar sense of humour 3) we love the same kind of music, that very few people seem to like 4) he has similar relationship problems to me, but him and his girlfriend broke up just yesturday. 5) we have become quite close friends already. 6) i have most definately fallen for him. i think i should wait to see if/how things develop with my flatmate before making any decisions but i would rather exit the relationship with my boyfriend as i would feel so much more relaxed. gawd i JUST dont know how im meant to deal with this one.
halfarock Posted October 20, 2007 Posted October 20, 2007 i i think i should wait to see if/how things develop with my flatmate before making any decisions but i would rather exit the relationship with my boyfriend as i would feel so much more relaxed. Just end it with your boyfriend regardless. Staying with him isn't doing anyone any good.
oppath Posted October 20, 2007 Posted October 20, 2007 You are too scared to be on your own. Not healthy. I suggest you breakup and don't date the other guy. Be on your own for 6 months. The reason I suggest this is because you are treating this like a job: lining up the next one before you give your notice to the old. Relationships shouldn't be like that.
Author fudge_cake_89 Posted October 20, 2007 Author Posted October 20, 2007 You are too scared to be on your own. Not healthy. I suggest you breakup and don't date the other guy. Be on your own for 6 months. The reason I suggest this is because you are treating this like a job: lining up the next one before you give your notice to the old. Relationships shouldn't be like that. Im not scared to be on my own, im just not happy in my current relationship, and without wanting to, have fallen for someone else. im quite happy to be single for a while, im used to it.. and i would never line men up like a job..thats just horrible towards the ex's but you are right that i should break up with current boyfriend..its just making me unhappy and im feeling like im letting him down by not putting my all into the relationship.
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