Patty Posted May 3, 2003 Posted May 3, 2003 This week was my boyfriends birthday but celebrated it last weekend.I surprised him and baked a cake and we went out together and I gave him some spending money for his birthday.So we went in a cd store and looked around together for awhile sometimes it takes me longer to shop.Then we went to the computer game store cause I go in there to buy my computer games. So I was looking for a long time cause it takes me a long time sometimes to find what Im looking for.He was in there with me.I showed him a game I like but wasnt really done looking in that store then he says "Ok,get it and buy it!" Im like,"Excuse me?" The last time the two of us were out shopping I went with him so he could look at his Harry Potter books and I didnt get impatient like he does when Im looking for something.And he takes longer then I do.I do like to go out shopping with him but it bothers me that hes always impatient when it comes to my shopping. One time we went in the car store and I was bored like anything.But I didnt rush him like he rushed me. Patty
Tony T Posted May 3, 2003 Posted May 3, 2003 Most men aren't the same type of shoppers as women. A great many men go to the store, spend little time looking around before they find something they like and then they buy it and leave. Women like to take their time, look at colors, features, go to different stores, compare pricing, smell things, eat lunch in the food court, go to more shops, then go to another mall to see what's there....then go back....not buy anything that day....go back shopping a few days later and repeat the process. Then when they find the things they want, they buy them and end up taking them back a few days later and go through the process all over again. I know some women who buy dresses to wear for special occasions and then return them for a refund after they use them. Men hardly ever have to return things because they almost never make mistakes. Men just go, buy and return home. It's got nothing to do with your boyfriend. I'ts the xopq1 gene in a remote region of chromosome 11 that causes women to enjoy taking lots more time shopping than men. Besides, men have lots more important stuff to do than shop...like watching sports on TV.
Author Patty Posted May 3, 2003 Author Posted May 3, 2003 Thanks for explaining that Tony.I think I do enjoy shopping by myself sometimes cause I feel I can take my time when Im not with anyone.It feels like less pressure.Your right woman do like to pick up things and look around before they buy.Thats the way I am.Especially with computer games. Patty
yes Posted May 3, 2003 Posted May 3, 2003 in general, i think shopping is best done alone, unless what u'r buying is for several people, and all of their inputs are necessary to decide. i personally love shopping alone, - i even avoid salespeople. So Patty, shopping alone is the way to go. Sitting in a store while your bf takes his time is kind of a waste of time, also, if u'r bored to death... good luck, -yes
HokeyReligions Posted May 3, 2003 Posted May 3, 2003 I don't know if its genetic or not. I'm a very impatient shopper. Even with girlfriends. Even when I'm not looking for something specific and just want to go into a store to look around, I spend 5 or 10 minutes looking around and if I don't see anything I want, I leave. If I am looking for something specific, I look for a few minutes, ask a salesperson if I can't find what I want and if they can't locate it for me in a few minutes - I leave. My husband could spend all day at Best Buy "just looking" and not buy anything! I went shopping yesterday - I need some new summer suits for work. I went to five stores. Took me at most 5 minutes in each store, except one where I tried some clothes on. That store took me 20 minutes. I didn't buy anything - and even then my husband gets impatient with me! I think it has to do with going with someone to shop for things you are not interested in, and personal patience levels. I can be a lot more patient with him, then he is with me. Also, time is relative and when you are interested in what you are doing - or shopping for the time flys by. When you are waiting the time stops. So two people enter a store at the same time. One person spend three hours in there and the other spends 30 minutes. The miracle happens when they both leave and time resumes it's normal pace!
Author Patty Posted May 3, 2003 Author Posted May 3, 2003 Yea,I guess it all depends what your interested in.Even though I had no interests in boats, I would go in the boat place and look inside while waiting for my ride to pick me up.I sometimes go on the esculators at the mall for the fun of it. Patty
jessicakicksbut Posted May 4, 2003 Posted May 4, 2003 When I take my boyfriend shopping with me, I always try to locate where the chairs are in the store (usually by the dressing room). When he gets impatient or weary, i just direct him to the chair. He's usually very grateful, and I do believe many men are usually really appreciative of this...learned this from my Dad! And you know the saying "Father knows best!"
Tony T Posted May 4, 2003 Posted May 4, 2003 Kat WRITES: "I thought he was your fiance??? (story change again?)" A fiance can also be a boyfriend. People can use the terms interchangably. Life seems tough enough on Patty without us getting so technical on her.
Baubles Posted June 9, 2003 Posted June 9, 2003 Patty- my ex used to hate my grocery shopping habits...after a half hour all i would have would be cat food (my cat has finicky tastes and likes some variety), diet pepsi, leeks, and milk...he'd start taking my cart down the aisles and throwing stuff in (while i was paying for it). i'd be deciding b/t Leab Cuisines and he'd start randomly throwing some in...I now vow to shop in secret w/ the next boyfriend, I definately agree it's best done alone. Don't worry...it's not you.
ThisGirlNameKD Posted June 9, 2003 Posted June 9, 2003 My husband and I are the same way....sometiimes. There are times I already know what I want and I just go and pick it up. Then there are times I'm not sure and I look around. During those times I know what I want, he's happy to accompany me. He's not as happy when I'm looking around. Men and women do have different shopping habits, but I also think that the patience or impatience comes in when you're just not interested. Maybe your fiance is not interested in waiting around while you pick our a game, because he's not as into that as he is with his Harry Potter books. If interests is a reason, maybe it's best that he doesn't accompany you all the time when you're shopping for something that doesn't interests him. He doesn't mind spending time with you, but people hate spending time in doing things they don't want to or are not interested in.
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