WThell Posted October 19, 2007 Posted October 19, 2007 Hi all, I have posted on here a few months ago when my gf of 6 months broke up with me in july, and slowly i mean very slowly did i arrive to this point. it has been 4 months now...and i feel like i am at square one. here is the story and hopefully i wont bore you guys. after six months of a very strong (i felt it to be very strong but now doubt it ) relationship, during the time of our 6 months together we lived together and i have met her parents and vice versa, and it was really smooth, she was talking about marriage and all that stuff. but during the time that i was with her she still hanged out with her ex, which happens to be in the same close group of friends of her. i didnt approve of it when we first dated but i overcame it, because i cant stop her from hanging out in a group with him. but def no one on ones. then towards the end of july she came out and told me that she had feelings for her ex, which in the past had cheated on her 2, once was the first time they went out which was 2 yrs ago and then she broke up with him, and then got back with him after about 2 yrs apart but still hanged out with each other in a group. then found out that he cheated on her again after the second chance she gave him. for the last 4 months i was trying to figure out what was wrong with our relationship that made her turn back to her ex, but to no avail, first week of the breakup i was the beg and call guy, got really clingy and she said she needed space, which i didnt give her, then after about 2 weeks, i stop doing the begging and let her go, then she calls out of the blue and made contact asking em the what u up too and etc etc, stupid me still deeply in love with her i allowed her to come back into my life. then about 2 weeks of LC she turns around and said that she choose her ex over me. saying that she knew him for like 6 yrs and knows how he operates and thinks and she only knew me for 6 months, and that she loves me thats why she is doing this. let me go because she doesnt deserve me...same ol same ol. and again i start going into LC with her...and when she doesnt hear from me a about 4 days she will make contact again and this has happen for the last 4 months and it is not going anywhere. and everytime we make contact she will come over to my place and hang out and end up staying over and then leave in the morning. when she leaves she will give me a kiss and a hug. so this went on for a few months. so u can imagine my frustration and confusion. but during the time that i dint contact i miss her less and less not like within the first month where it was like hell, becuase i had taken alot of advice from here to concentrate on myself and not to worry too much about the other. so to make things worse everytime i decide to make a stand and confront her, she will agree with me that we should keep our distance and not make contact, i stick to it and then she will make contact on cue the next day., and then silly me i allow her to come back in... she says she misses me and all that crap and sometimes she becomes weak and call me...but every day? come on... but i know i have to make a stand and be strong to move on....like every says....she wont know wot she had lost until she really lose it. i mean she is with her ex,.....so wot the hell is she wanting from me? i know she holds onto me if things dont work out with her ex...and i am being the door mat....now they are talking about moving intogther and talkinga bout marriage.... so guys any info will help me alot and appreciated....and hopefully will make me strong enuf to move on.... thanks for reading and thank you in advance for any advice....
BlueEyedSarah Posted October 19, 2007 Posted October 19, 2007 I think you already realise whats going on. She wants you around in case it does not work, she knows you operate as a door mat, don't be like that any more! If you see its her calling, dont pick up, if its a number you do not reconise, don't pick up, don't make any contact with her, don't respond to her. Your much better than being a rebound guy. She will realise what a great guy she lost when she gets cheated and hurt on for the 3rd time by her ex.
Author WThell Posted October 22, 2007 Author Posted October 22, 2007 thanks for your reply guys well just a bit of an update, she did contacted me last night which was on a sunday evening, on cue, for the last 6 weeks...its always on a sunday nite that she will call.....and i pressume to her suprise, she asked if she could come over and i said no. we should stop....and then she said can i call sometime..... i didnt reply just said i have to go. she immediately sent me a msg saying that she is really sorry and its soo selfish of her and that i shouldnt be sad. she sounds very suprise that i said no, usually i would be more then welcoming. so here we go, the beginning of what is the end
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