Author forbidden fruit Posted October 23, 2007 Author Posted October 23, 2007 i have thought about moving, but mykids are situated and doing great in their school. It is a fantastic school so I do not think moving is a option. I talked to a couple people how to handle my situation and i believe this is the only way. I will answer xmm with one word answers-example yes, no , hello, goodbye. If I say anymore with him he will take that as supple and think I am in. So I will keep it civil and brief. As lost4 ever said it is not good enough just to be friends with him when i want more. I will keep it basic until I am truly over him and until then he will not get me or my family. He will continue to play this game until he sees I am not playing. The last party I went to he acted like he was doing me a favor he was walking to me. However the party before that he could not get enough of me. What a rollercoaster ride. One of my friends husband asked me what is going on with him and I because xmm was so obvious he was vying for my attention at the party. So I will finally do what my brain has been telling me not my heart. I just wish I had not been so nice to him in the end. He sure as heck does not deserve it. I am not playing by his rules although he can think that I will now play by my rules. Game over
whichwayisup Posted October 23, 2007 Posted October 23, 2007 Can't you move and still send them to the same school? Live in the area, but far enough from exMM? Yup, stop playing the game. Don't look for him when you're outside. Those thoughts that creep into your head, in the morning or at nighttime, PUSH them away. BE active in controlling your thoughts and feelings. You feel like you miss him? Remember that your husband is there. Go kiss your kids, hug them, be with your family. Replace the thoughts of exMM with those who actually love and care for you. FF, I KNOW you can push through this and get over him! You WILL feel indifferent one day and not give a crap either way.
Meaplus3 Posted October 24, 2007 Posted October 24, 2007 i have thought about moving, but mykids are situated and doing great in their school. It is a fantastic school so I do not think moving is a option. I talked to a couple people how to handle my situation and i believe this is the only way. I will answer xmm with one word answers-example yes, no , hello, goodbye. If I say anymore with him he will take that as supple and think I am in. So I will keep it civil and brief. As lost4 ever said it is not good enough just to be friends with him when i want more. I will keep it basic until I am truly over him and until then he will not get me or my family. He will continue to play this game until he sees I am not playing. The last party I went to he acted like he was doing me a favor he was walking to me. However the party before that he could not get enough of me. What a rollercoaster ride. One of my friends husband asked me what is going on with him and I because xmm was so obvious he was vying for my attention at the party. So I will finally do what my brain has been telling me not my heart. I just wish I had not been so nice to him in the end. He sure as heck does not deserve it. I am not playing by his rules although he can think that I will now play by my rules. Game over FF, Try not to even give him a hello and goodbye if you can! You don't owe him a thing! Golly you and I and our situation's are starting to sound like an espisode of "Depserate HW's", LOL! I know this is hard and I too am gping to be faced with the same situation in the coming month's with the Hoilday's rolling in. The party's and neighborhood gathering's and the fact that my first big BLOW up with mm happened just before Christmas last year. We had to go to a Christmas party 1 week after it happened and I had told my H of the Affiar just 3 week's before we all had to attend the party! I think back to that night now and try to find peace in how WE H and I handled it. I also think back from almost one year ago and even though this has been a very slow go for me, WOW I do see a big improvement in a positive way. So I blow it with contact from time to time, that can happen. But in control and indeffernce is my complete goal here. If theres hope for me FF there's hope for you. AP:)
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