Ex is performing at a club with our friends bands. Do I go?

[carolinaboy]

My ex and I broke up 3 mos. ago after 2 1/2 years. The last year we were together we lived in a house that hosted punk shows, art shows etc.

 

Since she broke up with me, she kind of got to take our mutual friends (we lived in a big house and when she moved out, our 3 other roommates moved w/ her to a new town).

 

We all played music together and the basis of my question is this.

 

Next week all of my old roommates and a band that played our house are playing a show at a club that is very small.....

 

I miss my friends and want to support them, I feel weird about having isolated myself from them, but it was just too close to home. I still have slight feelings for my ex (she left me while getting involved w/ our sublet roommate, who is friends with all my friends) but I want to support the rest of my friends. I want to put my self ego away for a night.

 

I know I'll have to talk, see, hang around her to get any time with my friends.

 

I'm conflicted. I know that her and I arent going to get back together, so things like this I will have to conquer at some point.

 

I want to know the best adult way to handle this. Sometimes my hesitation/feelings seem valid, sometimes they seem childish.

 

FYI: For better or worse, my ex is a non responsive, non emotional type. one of the things that has hurt me regarding her post break is that once she got with this guy she acted like I couldnt hug her, act at all like I we shared intimate knowledge of each other, basically acted brainwashed about the last 3 years and just wanted to be chummy. I'm sure that's standard. I may be able to use this to my advantage to avoid serious emotional talk. I still dont think I could handle her as a "buddy buddy." Not now anyways.

[starlite]

:bunny:I think on her end, it will be fine if you go. No worries.

 

But it may set you back in the "getting over her" phase. It may hurt you if you go.

 

If you think you can handle it...go