AlwaysLost Posted October 18, 2007 Posted October 18, 2007 This is from another thread asking if women test men. Last night the guy I am seeing was suppose to call to set up something very casual for us to hang out. He never called. I finally called him, he said he ws sick home from work. I said is that why you didnt call me, he said no he just didnt and knew he wouldnt be great company. I said well I dont need to see you everyday, but you were the one that suggested getting together. I understand you werent feeling it and thats fine but you should have called or texted. He said I agree, you are right but what are you doing tomorrow . . . . Is this a test to see how I would react, to see if I have a backbone or was he just a bone head?
tanbark813 Posted October 18, 2007 Posted October 18, 2007 My vote goes to bonehead. Tests work better when you're actually out with a person.
ItIs Posted October 18, 2007 Posted October 18, 2007 Last night the guy I am seeing was suppose to call to set up something very casual for us to hang out. He never called. He was being a bone head at worst, absent-minded at best.
reelwoman Posted October 18, 2007 Posted October 18, 2007 total bonehead, no other explanation. I don't care how sick or out of it he was, you CALL a person; that's not relationship stuff, that's basic being a considerate, adult human being stuff! Please!
Oregon Blackberry Posted October 19, 2007 Posted October 19, 2007 It's not a test perse, he's just not that into you. He doesn't want to break up because he's not ready to give up the sex yet until he has another woman lined up. Sorry, but that's the truth.
jophil28 Posted October 19, 2007 Posted October 19, 2007 . . Is this a test to see how I would react, to see if I have a backbone or was he just a bone head? Neither a test or a bonehead - He is just being forgetful and perhaps inconsiderate. DO men TEST women ? Rarely.. SHould men test women ? YES! Why ? BEcause a large percentage of the female population are unfit to be in an LTR. Why? Because they do not know how to be women . Listen up Men ! YOu need to go way further that giviing her the stamp of approval because she has a skirt, a pulse and perky t!ts. Ya gotta get to her character, and this is where tha fun is. Test for three qualities - *Flexibility ( her wiilingness to let YOU assert your rightful leadership ,and not demand that you do things her way). *A generous and giving spirit ( she should be eager to attend to you , buy you gifts and do what pleases you). She demonstrates her gratitude and appreciation for being with you. Remember -You are a prize and you handed her the winning ticket. No PRINCESSES . * Integrity. Honesty and truthfulness, no flirting or cheating, no other male "friends" , open respect and admiration for your masculinity . An energetic willingness to work hard at doing her part in maintaining the health of the relationship. There is more, but these fundamental requirements will get you started. Carry on, men.
Mary3 Posted October 19, 2007 Posted October 19, 2007 When you say : "The guy I am seeing " How often do you see him ? Is it sexual ? Because your first mistake was to call and ask him why he didn't call. Unless he is your husband/ or significant other and was heading home from work --- although its rude- he does not have to call you if he doesn't want to . If you call him ( on top of that ) its going to cause him to distance himself from you . If the relationship is serious then he should be considerate and let you know he isn't feeling well. But another poster hit the nail on the head when they said " he's just not that into you " if he doesnt take the time to call...
Author AlwaysLost Posted October 19, 2007 Author Posted October 19, 2007 Well, I would agree with Mary except that after I called him out on it he asked me out for the next night. It didnt work out yesterday due to me having other things going on so we are going to dinner and a movie tonight. I think he needed to know that I am not going to deal with him being inconsiderate, and he even agreed he was wrong.
Krytie TV Posted October 19, 2007 Posted October 19, 2007 There is never any excuse for someone to not call when they said, sick or not, especially if he's just sitting home. All that says about him is that he's self centered. No matter how close the two of you become, be warned that he is a self centered person. That won't change.
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